Comments on: Five Things to Do When You are Being Manipulated

By: ana

ana — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 04:26:01 +0000

what if you are in too deep? i couldn’t not bail out coz hubby did everything in his sleeves to keep me where i am including suicide scare and children being scarred forever…..

By: Denny@Greekini@aol.com

Denny@Greekini@aol.com — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 04:38:37 +0000

Gentlemen there are millions of such induviduals in this world they are usually in politics but sometimes in business. I have spent my life as a contractor and the customers do not realilze most of the time that they are trying to manipulate my workers. My manipulaters are trying to gain the power position in the contractural relationship between them and the worker so that they then can control the billing. Sometimes I have to pull my man out of the situation then face the custoner and let them know that we will not work for them any more. Fortunately I have the power play at this point. I pay my men full job fees and let the offender know that their name is red flagged with my company. I also let them know that within this area and this industry I have the power to let others know of their offensive ways. It has been amazing to realize that these people have tried in vain to baadmouth our company and come back ready to pay extra fees to get their work done for we now have baecome the manipultors. It usually fails for I feel it is like a drug – they have to do this. I have even seen one customer brandish a weapon trying to get the work done, still did not work and the police are the final controllers. It reaslly took many years to realize what was being done and what the solution was. Pick up the tools and leave. A lot of men seem to really jealous of the contractor or workman being more “Manly” than they are, then the fight is on to be the big stud that can do this work, hardly. I
‘ve had people knowingly lose thousand of dollars to in a vain effort ot bully or control the situation. I have a secret understanding I keep in mind “Thugs try to control and most of the time they do”. All salesmen are manipulators, and who is silly enough to trust a car salesman, RE agent or even the doctor

By: Sharon

Sharon — Sun, 06 Jul 2008 18:41:04 +0000

I loved this article. It’s nice to know that a lot of people can easily get caught up in a manipulator’s “web,” …and to not be so concerned that there is something one is doing to attract it. It seems very skilled manipulators can “con” just about anyone and possibly the key is to catch on as quickly as possible.

By: Mark Dykeman

Mark Dykeman — Sun, 15 Jun 2008 22:05:12 +0000

Much to my surprise, this article seemed to get a “second wind” in May 2008, almost six months after it was published! Thanks!

By: Andrew

Andrew — Sun, 11 May 2008 02:40:11 +0000

I like your article and I would recommend a seventh thing to do especially when the manipulating is happening at work. Write down events and quotes and share this with your supervisor.

By: Tilottama

Tilottama — Sat, 10 May 2008 05:59:30 +0000

Very good article. I enjoyed reading it. The best thing to do is to avoid the manipulative, but sometimes it gets important to confront him and make him aware of his doing eventhough we know he is bound to repeat.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Fri, 09 May 2008 04:14:06 +0000

good reminders.

By: Nanie

Nanie — Wed, 07 May 2008 05:14:36 +0000

Good article

By: skeith

skeith — Tue, 06 May 2008 18:28:22 +0000

I liked the article.

By: Marlene

Marlene — Tue, 06 May 2008 14:02:23 +0000

Great article. Amazing when you are at your wit’s end in a situation that you come across an article such as this. I am trying to cope with a 93 yr old mother….Manipulative!! she is the queen of manipulation!! Thank God my wonderful friends give their great advice and with the help of Ducene, I can just about get through!
Move to another City?? I’d love to !!. Thanks again for this article, I feel I am not alone that others have been there too, very helpful.