How to Let Go of Holiday Let Down

Have your Christmas Holidays been a let down?
Has Christmas become a time of sorrow, pain and loneliness? When we were kids our greatest let down was the pair of socks we received rather than that brand new sled we wanted. Now we are adults, faced with grown up sorrows and disappointments. Our let downs do not pass so easily and sometimes we can get stuck in an unhealthy cycle of war in our minds.

All too often when we are faced with intense emotional ache we place ourselves into a pattern that ensures these emotions will appear again.

For example here is a cycle of let down.

In the days that build up to Christmas our minds begin to focus on what could have, should have, been or will be. This begins the cycle.
Ones emotions will become so intense it is then concluded whatever the upset is , has become far too much to deal with right now. Upon concluding this, the search begins for a means of comfort. This means of comfort brings a sense of relief but the relief will only be temporary.  Until again the mind begins to again focus on what could have, should have, been or will be.

Here is the danger of this cycle. Many people cannot find complete comfort and lasting relief because of this next step in the cycle I am about to explain.

It is typical to  think about what is disappointing. We all do this from time to time. However the danger in this occurs when we think about our disappointment and our mind takes an extra step to magically gathers reasons for why we are disheartened.

I have learned over time that it is not what disappoints us that hurts so much, it is what we believe is causing our disappointment that continuously hurts.

We must guard ourselves against believing what makes us hurt. We must have the faith that life is giving us exactly what we need in this moment. I know, I know, as you read this sentence a flood of emotions have been exposed in you and you want to tell me I just do not understand how hurt you are. I want to tell you this

I do not understand how hurt you are, but I do understand this…

There will come a day when the real reason for your disappointment will be revealed. On that day you will look back at the time you spent searching for a reason and even if you have already found the reason there will be 1000  more hurtful, inaccurate reasons you will have believed. Out of those 1000’s reasons not one made you feel happy and not one of them helped you heal.