Only 10% of happiness depends on external circumstances, and although the capacity for happiness is innate, is in our power to increase it.
Happiness is subjective, which has two components, the affective (the experience of positive emotions) and cognitive (self feel satisfied with their lives). We have an incredible potential to improve happiness and well-being depends solely on our actions and thoughts, and can work with children to learn to be happier since childhood.
The keys to this are:
1. Be nice: friendly children experience higher levels of satisfaction and energy, become more loving and friendly and enjoy its social stability (mainly school). Not surprisingly, several studies have shown that in adulthood kindness and intelligence are the most relevant features are taken into account when looking for a partner in any culture.
Two. Giving thanks: children who develop an attitude of appreciation and gratitude for the things they have understood the usual as a gift that also promotes mental stability and growth in the enriched environment. When you show respect for the things they do for us, also appreciate how important we are to the group creating a sense of belonging and security within the community.
Three. Positivism: children brought up in a positive world INTERPRETATION are safer and believe more in themselves. Positive people have more control of your mind and make interpretations of reality it is essential to define the perceived quality of life and achieve complete happiness. In adulthood positivism helps find opportunities (at personal and work) and focus on a more direct solutions. In addition, people are often generous, persistent and liable to become depressed less ..
4. No labeling: Labels limit and hinder the development of the child’s identity. “You’re a bad boy” or “go more weepy girl” are descriptions that are used when small reiterate their attitudes and predispose the child to shape their attitude to fit this profile. The best way to develop in childhood happiness is treating them as if they were what they should be to turn them into what can potentially be: we must not make the mistake to label you as if being wrong was something inherent in the child and not can change.
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5. No dramatize: the sooner we start to educate children so that they may make things fair value, better differentiated and learn to distinguish the features that really matter in life. Sometimes, it looks like there parent because your child dramatizes failed a test, when there is a subsequent recovery where you can improve yourself, and do not give importance to behaviors that should extinguish itself as hit their siblings or other children, insulting or disrespectful.
6. Personal Achievement: children are 49% more happy if they get their goals in their own right. Psychologists use the principle of restriction of privileges (computer, mobile), to cause reaction standardization by the child “consented” that appears after initial reactions of anger of the child and parental resistance to the removal of everyday objects many parents verbalized as “a long time since I saw my son so quiet.” Since we are infants through adolescence, children are increasingly in recent years the “insatiable child syndrome”, where their attitudes lead to personality and behavior problems, causing isolation, marginalization and personal dissatisfaction. “
7. Autonomy: children develop their independence from parental environment as they grow, this enhances self-esteem and confidence. Allow to play alone or to perform some simple household chores is also a way to educate equality. It seeks to encourage proper autonomy in the child that makes you happier and safer.
8. Emotional intelligence: it is very important to educate the child to develop these skills, that is, learn to control and regulate their emotions to solve problems peacefully. This creates tranquility and harmony in the character of the small: emotions are good, and the children react in a physical form before them, producing biochemicals produced by the brain that help detect if there is danger, to protect us from harm, to overcome our fears, etc..