Loneliness is Not Necessarily Being Alone
Depression is currently a most commonly accepted condition that has become the reason for many to avoid the inevitable. Shirking from work, avoiding a lover or a mate, or just wanting to be alone is understandable when ‘depression’ is factored in.
Worthy Solitude
For a few, the realisation that relationships do not complete their whole sphere of influence oft turns out the opportune for very worthy recreational aspects. Many in the scholarly world know that the exclusion during the times of demanded concentration is rewarded favourably. Equally, inventors and creative literary giants have made their masterpieces in strict isolation. Retreats by athletes have also allowed for time to dig deep into their strengths that have eventually led to great fetes.
Personal space is continually a sought-after quality. However much companionship is required, the respect of person’s need for own time is always a recipe for continued bliss. A couple will learn that a man needs time alone in the garden shed while the woman needs time to herself in the kitchen. The same goes for children when they make their bedrooms no-go areas for their parents.
Mood Swings
Loneliness is an imprisonment that we often and sometimes purposely condemn and sentence ourselves to. It is often a mantle we wear like a suit or a facemask and is a means of escape from facets of live that we eventually have to face. A failed relationship is often an opportunity to move on. Children leaving home should signal that our duty of propping the next generation is done, while bereavement should prepare us for our time too. With such awareness, the yoyo feelings of despondency that characterise many living singly can be negated.
Intimacy is a choice- some people thrive on it while others drown from it. When persons know what they want in relationships, they can employ intimacy to fight mood swings that might arise when in solitude. Foreboding views of low self-worth would be forgotten when in company of appreciative companions. The general act of preparing to go out for a meal- thus the ultimate to go through the wardrobe looking for a gown and styling a new hairdo- all make the heart mellow and the brain is nourished again. That sensitises the mood centre and the moods disappear.
Hope Whip
No one need be lonely if one can occupy the mind with hope. However, let that hope not come in dreams of lotto wins to fund a life of luxuries. Money never bought anyone long lasting happiness. Similarly, getting a date every day is never the means to beat loneliness- eventually you will have to stand alone and even for the coupled, they have to fall asleep along and face their demons alone.
If loneliness comes as a need to engage in a relationship, there are thousands of dating websites for that. Alternatively, joining a social networking group opens the chances of meeting new people from which to make a choice from similarly solo.
A delve into social skills would not necessarily be for better career prospects, the same would go towards the nurture of the tact that is never missed in relationships. There can never be two persons operating on the same wavelength in all aspects of life, and thus there are bound to be many points of conflict. Yet, with acute social skills, two would be better equipped to settle differences that would hence negate the recourse to the life of loneliness.
The baton to bash loneliness is you. Make the best of yourself and you will never be lonely.
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