Stages of Acceptance
Stages of acceptance in people’s life.
Denial
When we are doing some shady things (kalokohan) in our lives (and by the way we all are guilty in this count. It vary only in degrees whether it is large scale – like stealing, pushing shabu, killing, raping or your everyday stuff – like telling small lies, petty theft)..at that very moment we are caught, the initially reaction is to vehemently deny..almost 9,999 out of 10,000 will not admit point blank once the 1st accusation is cast..they will always weave their way out either by story-twisting or simply flatly refusing to admit. It’s instinctive really, the first reaction of being caught.
Fear in action
When all system fails and we are finally caught flatfooted, we become hysterical, angry (some will cuss out, some physically try to harm people)..some (especially the women) will resort to crying..Funny, when we watch T.V. patrol, read the newspaper, we find people who are caught pushing shabu, raping & murdering either getting violent or crying their hearts out pleading innocence..then we start to believe their pleas & tell ourselves “BAKA NAMAN TALAGANG INNOCENTE (maybe they’re really innocent)”…That’s a natural FEAR response…Some become downright ugly. A lot of physical injuries, needless killings happened in this stage once not properly handled coz this is the time that the mind cannot reconcile with the incident at hand..it’s one final attempt to escape..add to the FEAR-FACTOR this is the most dangerous stage of them all.
The crossroad (vehemence, justifying or acceptance)
After all the denials, outburst, tears & lies..Calm settles in and now it’s the mind’s turn to work. This is actually the most critical stage of all, the crossroad..This is the stage that decides the ultimate direction. There are 3 common ways people approach it, let’s tackle them one at a time.
Vehemence
These are the people of no conscience whatsoever, they are so far removed from the HIGHER-BEINGS that they don’t see anything wrong with what they did..and once the opportunity strikes again will continue to do so with the same crimes..This doesn’t apply only to the major culprits..but with the everyday little stuffs as well. After all big-time crimes start from the little stuff like petty thefts & lies. Upbringing has a lot to do with this. These people grew up thinking it’s ok to get away with the “these & that’s”..once they got used to it, it becomes a way of life.
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