Understanding The Psychology of Introverts Part Two. Infilatrating The Introvert’s World

If you haven’t read the first part of this series, check Understanding the Psychology of Introverts. Why Are They So Quiet, Reserved, and Analytical?

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As I said in the first part, introverts dwell in their minds, and they draw their energy from it. The introvert’s mind is their world, and if you want to make him or her closer to you, you have to infiltrate it the right way.
And how could we enter their worlds, their minds, when it’s unknown to us? We’re not psychics who could tell what makes their world spin, or what they want. Introverts are apparently quiet and reserved, so how in earth, are we supposed to know how to get in their inner zones? There are three steps to infiltrate an introvert’s world.

Savor the Silence
If you want to infiltrate an introvert’s mind, you should understand why they are that way. Understand that being quiet and reserved is a normal thing to them; that’s just how they are. But instead of complaining, and asking yourself why they’re not social enough, take advantage of their silence. The first step on infiltrating an introvert’s mind, is to glance at his or her world from the galaxy’s perspective. The Earth’s outer beauty could only be appreciated if you’re in outer space (unless you’re looking at a picture or video), but the point is, introverts are the same way. Actions speak louder than words, so observe them, pay attention to the subtle clues, the gestures, their habits, and you know the rest. And I’m not telling you to be a stalker, watching him or her every second, but just be thoughtful, be aware, then you’ll find the entrance into their world.

Break the Silence

A simple answer: speak. Don’t confuse introverts with mutes (although it’s possible that a person could be categorized in the same circle). Just because they don’t talk often, doesn’t mean they don’t talk or you shouldn’t talk to them. Ask questions, but don’t make the conversation sound like a job interview. The more you ask, the more you’ll know their story, their interests, their dislikes, and other qualities that you may be interested at. But don’t just talk, get them to talk. Ask questions with “Why”  or “How” instead of closed-answer questions with “What” or “Who”. Like extraverts, introverts express themselves in their own way, just differently from those party animals who clearly express themselves more comfortably within social settings.

Go Beyond the Silence
“Seduce my mind, and you can have my body; Find my soul, and I’m yours forever.”~Anonymous
Most introverts are artistic in their own way, whether it’s music, art, drama, poetry, fashion, or fiction; They wallow in their own crafts. That’s just the nature of who they are. Artistic introverts are passionate at what they do. If you appreciate the arts and humanities, show that side of you. To infiltrate an introvert’s world, you have to be like them, or at least appear to be like them. And that means, showing the same interests and enthusiasm. Be creative and give their craft some attention, because they put their heart into it. And giving honest and thoughtful feedback to their works would help them know that you understand their souls, who they really are deep inside. Introverts may appear selfish, but trust me, being an introvert myself, we constantly beg for attention; We’re just craving for it in less obvious ways. Find their niche, and make it your home.
In summary, the three steps on infiltrating an introvert’s world are:
1. Savor the Silence2. Break the Silence3. Go Beyond the Silence
Look forward to the next part of this article series. To my readers, thanks for thoughts, your feedbacks, and for reading my articles.

Other articles:
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