What is Your Body Language Saying?

You might be unaware of this but your body language may be causing people to see you as lazy, boring, unapproachable and sad or even depressed.

We all know the majority of communication is non-verbal. I’m just going to go through some basics off the top of my head as I think of them.

When you look on the internet for openers, routines and lines to start or use in a conversation to make it fun or easy for both of you – the people writing those assume you have already confident, open and cool body language. It’s hard for some people because they are so unaware of it but it all comes with practice. Small chunk what you read here and work on it until you think you have it down. If you fall back in to old habits then work on it until you do it unconsciously. We have a lot of unconscious bad habits, it’s about becoming conscious of them and then rewiring it in your neurology so it’s normal for you and everything works in your favour at an unconscious level.

Your eyes are the windows to your soul

Steady eye contact with someone demonstrates you’re in your own reality and comfortable in their presence which also helps them relax. Look at people when they talk, even if you don’t know them. A lot of people I’ve noticed will not look at people at all, as if they think its supplication or rude. Not looking at someone when they’re talking infers that I am not interested in them or what they have to say, that I don’t like them and they have no place in my reality. It can be useful depending on the situation but if the person isn’t being a dick then look at them when they’re talking. Girls do this with guys who are around, they’re so careful with their eye contact. Some wont look at all or if they do they will look away fast. I started doing this myself, to girls. I wouldn’t look at them or I’d look distracted so they’d think “why doesn’t he wanna talk to me” and then start talking. That doesn’t mean if you do that, girls wont talk to you. Obviously some will, but it’s not normal. Look at people and they’ll be more likely to talk to you, you’ll be more likely to talk to them and just both be more receptive to conversation. Eye contact is a massive part of your game.