What is Your Body Language Saying?

Smile often. You can go around like serious and think to yourself you’re the coolest guy around but you can’t be that cool if you act like nothing is cool, ever. If you smile or have that sly, playful smirk on your face then you’ll be more likely to have people talk to you. If you’re not smiling, you look boring and serious. You don’t look social. People are drawn to people who wear smiles. A great well known tip is to smile with the eyes and in your head, let the mouth come last or think of something that makes you happy and brings a smile to your face.

Posture, general movement, fidgeting etc

Move and walk with purpose. Be slow, you aren’t rushing anywhere. Take up space where you are. This shows your comfortable and that you must be pretty confident in yourself.

If someone calls your name, don’t snap your head around straight away. This is freaky, seriously freaks me out. Moving fast puts people slightly on edge and puts our guards up. Take your time. Slow and relaxed is better.

Posture is important. Stand like a lion with your chest out. Proud but not try hard. Your back should be up straight. Comfortable but straight. Rest your shoulders. Don’t cover your face or mouth. Space legs out a bit with your feet pointing slightly outwards.

When you’re sitting – do the ALPHA LEG CROSS. This is like your foot resting on one of your legs, above the kneecap. The thing I hate about this is it gives me pins and needles. Make sure you don’t have muck on your shoe and aren’t wearing your bright yellow socks with blue spots on them.

The jaw is one of those things we never think about. If there’s tension in your jaw and your holding it up, let it go. It’s just about being aware of this stuff when you’re out there. Biting your lip is a no-no also.

Fidgeting. Fidgeting indicates tension, nervousness, boredom and disinterest. Shaking your leg, drumming on the table, biting your nails, it doesn’t communicate the right thing at all.

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