What Your Body Language is Saying About You
by Do you want to become a more effective communicator? Maybe you’re saying all the right words, but did you know that only about 7% of what you say actually makes up the message you’re conveying to another person?
How you say something (tone/inflection), where your eyes are looking, and what your body is communicating all make up the other 93% of communication. Have you ever wondered why you just knew if someone was interested in you or why they weren’t? A slight eyebrow raise, a small smile, and open arms all send clear signals.
This article will give insight into some things you can do to make sure you’re conveying the message you’re intending and hoping to send. Be successful in business, relationships and all other relationships by being aware of how you are coming across to the world.
Attraction and Interest in a Significant Other
You see him/her across the room, a slight raise of the brow, a quick glance away and glance back with eye connection and you’re certain that they’re interested. But, how do you know it without any words having been said? There are certain nonverbal cues that signal interest. For example, when two people lean in toward the each other and begin to mirror one other’s movements it shows a clear indication of mutual interest.
Men
When a man is interested in a woman he will often stand with his thumbs in his belt loops or on his hips which accentuate one’s stature. He will also stand with his feet pointed in the direction of the object of his affection. If he’s sitting and crossing his legs, his leg will be pointing in the direction of the person he’s most attracted to in the room. Keep in mind if they’re not pointed in your direction, he’s “just not that into you.”
Men will also smooth down their hair, fix and adjust ties, sleeves and pull up their socks. This is a preening process and shows that a man wants to look good for the person he’s interested in.
Women
For women, pointing and crossing legs in your direction give the same signal of interest and attraction. Women will also play with their hair and jewelry. Whenever an action suggests taking one’s clothes off, like unzipping a jacket or dangling a shoe of a toe, this quite powerfully suggests attraction. Standing with hands on hips is also a clear indication that a woman is attracting to a man.
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Post CommentKairos
On July 26, 2009 at 8:28 am
noted
Jenny Heart
On July 26, 2009 at 9:09 am
Very wise young lady you are. Vary informative and helpful at the same time. Like it!
Alex1
On July 26, 2009 at 9:33 am
i like the flow of your articles…. keep it up
sweetchild
On July 26, 2009 at 9:54 am
These are very true.
CHAN LEE PENG
On July 26, 2009 at 11:09 am
Interesting article on body language. It had me an enjoyable time reading it. Thanks and liked it.
biantoro
On July 26, 2009 at 1:44 pm
i like your articles
DynamicLethargy
On July 26, 2009 at 3:26 pm
Good piece.
I am a little worried about my body is saying now.
Poetic Enigma
On July 26, 2009 at 11:07 pm
Amazing article,
very informative and
helpful!
Thanks for sharing
quiet voice
On July 26, 2009 at 11:55 pm
….hi there, very, very informative article. Reading body language is helpful in many ways. Thanks for a great article. Take care.
Annie Hintsala
On July 28, 2009 at 2:16 pm
I was just thinking about writing something like this, but I think you did it better than I could. Good job!
Catelin Hoover
On July 28, 2009 at 3:57 pm
Excellent article…reminds me of the many books I read on body language and wardrobe (dressing for success) while I was a business major in the 1980’s. Good work!
Jairius
On July 28, 2009 at 6:18 pm
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coldpaul
On July 28, 2009 at 11:57 pm
very nice good writing keep up the good work
WriteEditSeek
On July 31, 2009 at 1:35 am
Cool article. I’ll need to pay more attention to the subtle signals I’m giving off.
Thanks for sharing these insights.
OhSugar
On July 31, 2009 at 5:15 pm
Excellent post. Yes, your body language is a dead give away as to how you are feeling about a situation or person. I enjoyed reading.
Ruby Hawk
On August 1, 2009 at 8:59 pm
Thanks for all the good information. Your body language is important.
Momma Tells
On August 2, 2009 at 12:36 am
Boy, oh boy…I’m wondering what I “say” without realizing I’m “saying” it!
Amanda N Miller
On August 2, 2009 at 2:38 pm
Very nice article! There are a few ways to tell if someone is lying or not. If a person looks to their right when trying to answer a question, they are trying to recall a memory. If they look to their left, they are quickly trying to make up information that seems the best in that situation.
Tony Daniels
On August 2, 2009 at 11:12 pm
I have had some training in this area and you are right on point with your points. Well done and nicely written.
Brian Daniel Stankich
On August 3, 2009 at 1:18 am
These are key points we all experience everyday but can continue to learn from.
J. Laine
On August 17, 2009 at 6:35 pm
Great article. Informative and direct.
Lord Banks
On November 12, 2009 at 7:09 am
I did a weeks vocational course on body language, your article is right on the money,however people need to remember its a guide not the Holy Grail it helps, but remember some people just rub their nose or tug their ear lobe as a habit! good article.