What Your Body Language is Saying About You
by Do you want to become a more effective communicator? Maybe you’re saying all the right words, but did you know that only about 7% of what you say actually makes up the message you’re conveying to another person?
General Non-Verbal Actions and Their Meanings
Boredom
If you’re feeling bored while in a business environment, there are certain actions you will want to make sure you avoid. If you cross your legs and kick your foot, you’re sending the message that you’d clearly rather be any place other than where you’re at in that moment. Have you been resting your head in your hand with your eyes downcast? If so, keep in mind that this sends a message to your co-workers that you’re probably thinking about what’s for dinner versus what illuminating fact they’ve just presented to you. And, if you keep your head tilted for a prolonged period of time, rest assured that others will know they’re the last thing you’re thinking about.
Confidence and Authority
Whether you’re in the workplace or any other situation, exuding an air of confidence is a quality that is highly attractive and helps you reach greater levels of happiness and success in all areas of your life. To give off such an air, be sure to walk with excellent posture in a brisk walk. If you are sitting place your hands behind your head and cross your legs. This action also conveys an air of superiority and is a very common position that CEO’s and other such authoritarian figures take when speaking with subordinates. Another way to show that you feel confident and powerful is to “steeple” the fingers. This means that you place the hands so that each opposing fingertip is touching the other forming a pyramid-like picture.
Sincerity and Openness
Do you want to show others that you have nothing to hide and that you’re genuinely interested in them? There are certain things you can do beside just saying that you care. While someone is speaking, quickly tilt your head to show interest. If you’re speaking gesticulate with open palm motions, this conveys the message that you’re innocent, open and sincere; all refreshingly winning qualities.
Disbelief & Doubt
If you notice someone rubbing their eye while you’re talking to them, unless they have something in it, they’re most likely sending the message that they don’t believe what you’re saying. The same is true if they look down with their face turned away from you or they begin to touch or slightly rub their nose. If they’re talking and making these same motions, the tables have now turned and it’s possible that they’re the ones who are probably telling you a lie. Trust your instincts and understand that sometimes people do these things because they have an itch or wear contact lenses, etc. It’s important to take the whole picture into consideration when evaluating non-verbal cues
Decisions, decisions, decisions
Have you ever seen a friend, co-worker or significant other stroke their chin while you’re talking about things the two of you could do together? Or maybe you’re discussing politics and religion. When a person strokes their chin, typically this means they are trying to make a decision. Similarly, if someone is indecisive he or she will show this emotion by pulling or tugging at their ear lobe. If a person is evaluating a situation or thinking about it, they will tend to put their hand to their cheek. These are all indicators that a person wants to make a decision, but still needs some time before coming to a conclusion.
Joie Schmidt © Copyright 2010 All Rights Reserved.
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Post CommentKairos
On July 26, 2009 at 8:28 am
noted
Jenny Heart
On July 26, 2009 at 9:09 am
Very wise young lady you are. Vary informative and helpful at the same time. Like it!
Alex1
On July 26, 2009 at 9:33 am
i like the flow of your articles…. keep it up
sweetchild
On July 26, 2009 at 9:54 am
These are very true.
CHAN LEE PENG
On July 26, 2009 at 11:09 am
Interesting article on body language. It had me an enjoyable time reading it. Thanks and liked it.
biantoro
On July 26, 2009 at 1:44 pm
i like your articles
DynamicLethargy
On July 26, 2009 at 3:26 pm
Good piece.
I am a little worried about my body is saying now.
Poetic Enigma
On July 26, 2009 at 11:07 pm
Amazing article,
very informative and
helpful!
Thanks for sharing
quiet voice
On July 26, 2009 at 11:55 pm
….hi there, very, very informative article. Reading body language is helpful in many ways. Thanks for a great article. Take care.
Annie Hintsala
On July 28, 2009 at 2:16 pm
I was just thinking about writing something like this, but I think you did it better than I could. Good job!
Catelin Hoover
On July 28, 2009 at 3:57 pm
Excellent article…reminds me of the many books I read on body language and wardrobe (dressing for success) while I was a business major in the 1980’s. Good work!
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On July 28, 2009 at 6:18 pm
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coldpaul
On July 28, 2009 at 11:57 pm
very nice good writing keep up the good work
WriteEditSeek
On July 31, 2009 at 1:35 am
Cool article. I’ll need to pay more attention to the subtle signals I’m giving off.
Thanks for sharing these insights.
OhSugar
On July 31, 2009 at 5:15 pm
Excellent post. Yes, your body language is a dead give away as to how you are feeling about a situation or person. I enjoyed reading.
Ruby Hawk
On August 1, 2009 at 8:59 pm
Thanks for all the good information. Your body language is important.
Momma Tells
On August 2, 2009 at 12:36 am
Boy, oh boy…I’m wondering what I “say” without realizing I’m “saying” it!
Amanda N Miller
On August 2, 2009 at 2:38 pm
Very nice article! There are a few ways to tell if someone is lying or not. If a person looks to their right when trying to answer a question, they are trying to recall a memory. If they look to their left, they are quickly trying to make up information that seems the best in that situation.
Tony Daniels
On August 2, 2009 at 11:12 pm
I have had some training in this area and you are right on point with your points. Well done and nicely written.
Brian Daniel Stankich
On August 3, 2009 at 1:18 am
These are key points we all experience everyday but can continue to learn from.
J. Laine
On August 17, 2009 at 6:35 pm
Great article. Informative and direct.
Lord Banks
On November 12, 2009 at 7:09 am
I did a weeks vocational course on body language, your article is right on the money,however people need to remember its a guide not the Holy Grail it helps, but remember some people just rub their nose or tug their ear lobe as a habit! good article.