Why It is Difficult to End Relations with The Narcissist?

           The worst tactic that the narcissist uses which emboldens his victims to attempt to reconnect with him is the silent treatment.  The narcissist refuses to communicate with his victim regardless of efforts to verbalize emotions, to grant clarity and closure to the hapless, addled victim. This ultimately frustrates the victim and the more the victim attempts to close the gap, the further away the narcissist grows, the more excrutiating the silent treatments. Few if any reactionary communication will occur in the form of tirades, obscenities, tantrums, bizarre mind games with absolute lack of empathy and compunction.

                        The victim may find her emotions at one end of the continuum beginning with rage, denial, depression and finally acceptance and resignation.  The victim becomes angry at the narcissist for frustrating her and angry at herself for being an apparent imbecile to the advances of such a heartless, unfeeling creature.  The victims of narcissism may display narcissistic components during the aftermath of the break up. They may be sadistic and machismo towards prospective daters and other interested parties. 

                This rage should be directed at the narcissist but is directed at men in general as the victim becomes disenchanted due to the emotional suffering that she is experiencing. Therapy in the form of understanding narcissism through voracious reading and consulting, a victim realizes that her partner suffered from a personality disorder and that all men are not like he is. The victim re-enters the dating scene with renewed confidence, strength and vigor, equipped to deal with sociopaths and psychopaths. A fully rehabilitated victim will be able to pinpoint and disengage a narcissist, sociopath and a psychopath at the first signs of the disease in a prospective date or partner.

                      Persons with personality disorders such as inverted narcissists and codependents may never recover from narcissistic abuse.  These individuals will seek out the companionship of sociopaths as a means of solidifying their own existences. These women function perfectly perceivable with the narcissist, pandering to his every need for admiration, praise and attention.  These women ultimately become an extension of their narcissistic lover.

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