If you’re not careful you can spoil a new relationship if you use text communication incorrectly. These ten rules (plus some bonus knowledge) allow you to make the most of new relationships and to enjoy text.
If you text incorrectly you could blow a new relationship by appearing too cold, too eager or too stupid. You need to get the balance just right, limit the ambiguities and leave something to the imagination. Don’t be boring or depressing. Try not to brag but try to show interest and inject the right amount of humour. Whatever you do avoid the “warts and all” approach to texting and if possible remain mysterious. For a bonus tip you’ll have to read through all TEN RULES of having good text!
FIRST RULE: How to make sure you don’t appear too cold.
Make sure you reply to the text within two hours of its receipt.. If it takes longer than 2 hours, make sure you include a reason for the delay in responding. Of course, should you wish to appear cold respond the following week or not at all.
SECOND RULE: How to make sure you don’t appear too eager.
Apply the half hour rule. This rule dictates that you don’t reply before 35 minutes have elapsed. Of course this rule can be suspended once the relationship is getting somewhere – indeed to have satisfying text (if appropriate) you should have some texts prepared to shoot off as soon as you can,
THIRD RULE: How to avoid looking stupid.
Remember that texts can be stored and read time and time again so any mistake will be noticed, if not immediately, at some point in the future. Unles you are both teenagers, avoid text speak such as m8 (instead of mate) and l8 (instead lf late). Stay away from throw away clichés such as LOL and never use the term PML because you’ll look stupid AND very crude. To really impress include in your text a word which most people spell incorrectly, such as government or environment. Use there, their and they’re in the right context
FOURTH RULE: Don’t be boring.
Sometimes it is better to stay quiet that to text (or talk) and bore someone. Ask yourself, would you like to receive a text that lists the processes involved in cooking a breakfast? Look at the following examples and decide which is least boring
- “First of all I ensured the hob was clean and selected the correct frying pan, saucepan and cooking utensils. Then I went to the fridge an removed the eggs and butter. I got the beans from the pantry . . .”
- “I enjoyed every mouthful of my delicious breakfast”
If you think A was less boring you really must reassess your behavior. Short and sweet is always better than long and pedantic (when it comes to texting).