10 Simple Ways How Not to Rush Your Relationship

1.      Have a little time with your inner self. Therefore, have some time alone. Don’t act like you’re attached at waist with your partner. It will soon become boring, and you will not be able to concentrate on important things – your feelings. You should be aware of your emotions and allow your subconscious self to guide you through life. And your relationship.

2.      Keep your partner close, keep your friends closer! Maybe there are few, but keep in touch. Don’t lose contact just because you’re in a relationship. You’ll thank yourself for that! It’s one of the most common mistakes, and mostly done by women at the early stages of a relationship.

3.      Don’t forget your personal development, hobbies, skills. You and your partner may have similar interests, but if it is not the case, you should remain informed on topics you like. For example, if you’re into charity work, don’t stop your activities because you have a date. Or even worse, don’t start doing the things you hate or dislike just because your partner does it or approves it. You may regret it later. Don’t stop playing the violin just because he or she does not like how it sounds. But on the other hand, if you learned how to cook just for your love, you’ll end up with some new skills so it’s not a complete waste of time.

4.      Take care about your looks! If the relationships hits the rocks, or if you break up, you’ll have a good time looking at yourself in the mirror. Why wait till you break up to look good? Pamper yourself regularly, work on your self-esteem 24/7, not because you’re with somebody. Many people take extra effort at the beginning, and then they stop caring about their looks. Not.Good.At. All!

5.      Live NOW and talk about the present. I appreciate openness, but sometimes mystery is the key for success. Don’t talk over past, your number of boyfriends, your disappointments. Here, less is more. Also, don’t go too much into future, imagining you have seven kids with a guy whom you met a month ago. Lying about your past is not recommended either. It will take too much memory to remember what and when you lied about.

6.      Be quick in deciding what YOU want from your relationship. Is it just for fun? No strings attached? Friends with benefits? Or maybe it’s finally the love of your life. It’s good to know, and you should watch for signals from your partner. Does he want the same?

7.      Don’t settle for less than you expected. If after a short period of time you find yourself anxious over your partner’s behaviour, his lifestyle, him not calling you as you wanted, it’s sometimes better to take a distance, or take a break.

8.      Keep track how much you’re seeing each other. First few months are a great indicator about the probable development of your relationship. Also is the period „before“ and „after“ sex. Notice how your partner’s behavior may change, and respond to it. Are you the one constantly calling or initiating something? Wrong. If he or she does not want to see you for few days, control yourself and don’t jump like a puppy once they finally propose a meeting. Postpone it.

9.      Don’t overreact. At first, it’s very wise to let your partner be. Just put yourself in a neutral position and observe his or her behavior. You’ll get nothing if you start bragging about the things you don’t like about him or her. Your partner may try to change his behavior or habits just for you, but it’s usually just temporary.

10.   Don’t. Rush. Things. First give yourself time. Think what’s in it for you. What is your net situation before and after. Do you two as a couple have a potential? Will you add value to this world? Think about joint efforts of Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt. Their charity work, their kids? Think big! If you realize that most of your time together is spent getting drunk or wasted together on the weekends, maybe it’s not the best you can do.

Finally, if your partner is the ONE for you, you’ll just know. But it’s more probable you’ll know it after a few months (for REALS). Before that, while you’re blinded with love, just remember these few tips. You can drive intelligently through this dangerous period…and be a winner!