First dates can be packed with hours of fun, unless you say something really stupid. Find out what subjects you should avoid talking about, if you want a second date.
Anyone who has ever been on a first date knows just how awkward the situation can be. Wouldn’t it be great if first dates were filled with romance, and you could actually be yourself without scaring the other person off. Unfortunately that scenario hardly ever happens.
Most first dates ends up with one of the parties saying something they’ll regret the moment the words roll off their lips. Playing the dating game means following the rules. Yes, there are rules to dating. One of the most important rules to follow is, what not to talk about. There are some things that are better left unsaid on the first couple of dates.
Here is the top 10 topics to avoid, unless you want the date to end early, with no second chance.
Never Talk About Your EX!
No one wants to hear the details of your past relationships. Even though you might not realize it, it sounds like you still have a thing for them. Even saying negative things can get you in trouble. Maybe your still in love with them? Are you always this immature, saying negative things about other people? What is he or she going to tell the next one about me? How many relationships have they been in anyway? These are just some of the questions you leave in the mind of the other person, when you talk about past loves. It’s best not to bring the subject up, and if they do, try to avoid swiftly change the conversation by answering with, “I don’t live in the past” or something like that.
Do Not Talk About Any Medical Conditions
Your date could care less about your mothers blisters, or your ulcers. It’s gross, and really turns people away. There is a time, and a place to talk about medical issues, and the first date isn’t one of them. If you have a contagious disease, or something you think they should know about, then tell them before hand. I’m not suggesting that you hide any medical conditions you have, but if it’s not contagious, why tell them on the first date.
Try Not To Talk About Body Parts
Little things like “I like someone that has a pretty smile” will leave the other person wondering how their teeth look. And whatever you do, do not even mention sexual parts. Trust me it’s a bad idea.
You also don’t want to compare the other person with your parents, a past lover, a friend, etc… Comparing a person to someone else sets to tone for an awkward moment of silence. Besides would you like to be compared to someones mom or dad?
Leave All Of Your Wild Party Memories At Home
The other person will be more impressed with positive accomplishments you have made, or goals you might have. Do you really think you’ll impress them with stories of you getting drunk? Drunk stories make you look cheap, and immature.
Marriage Is Not A Good Subject
It’s the first date! Don’t talk about what your looking for, as in long term goals. You only going to scare them off. Even if you think or know that their the one you’ve been looking for your whole like, keep it to yourself for now. The whole “I love you” and marriage ideas can wait a while.
Religion Is For Church
If the two of your aren’t of the same faith, then leave the whole subject alone. A religious debate is not good conversation material, on the first few dates.
Your Sex Life Shouldn’t Be Made Public
Now is not the time to ask any sexual questions, if you want a second date.
Avoid All Gross Topics
Anything that has to do with using the restroom, or someone getting sick, is not a turn on. You wouldn’t openly pass gas on the first date, so don’t talk about it either.
Do Not Talk About Weight
Even if the other person only orders a small salad, don’t ask if their on a diet, or watching their weight. Never ask any questions that has to deal with weight at all. Both men and women are sensitive about their size, and shape. Your date might be thin, but by making statements about weight or size, they might get the impression that your not physically attracted to them, or that you think their not in shape.
These are just 10 of the most common conversation topics that ruin a good first date. You want to make a good impression that last, not a first impression that gets destroyed before the date is over.