There are plenty of articles written about divorce. Consultation services to prevent a divorce are offered all over the world. Various organizations had been set up to offer exclusive counseling on how to prevent a divorce, still divorce takes place, and in fact, divorce rates had increased more than what it was earlier.

Who should be blamed for the divorce? Is it the environment? Or, is it the nature of human beings?

How would you prevent a divorce, if your marriage is in doldrums? Do you really look forward to prevent a divorce?

Some people feel that marriage comes with an expiry period, and therefore they do not give enough efforts to sustain a marriage, once bickering crop up.

The first step you need to take is to want to prevent a divorce.

Before you look to find ways to prevent a divorce, you need to find out why your relationship has deteriorated into a mess where you have to think about divorce.

There is a breed of men who love their wives very much. They are very attached to their wives and can’t think of leaving them even for a day. Unfortunately, the problem with these men is that they get attached to women very easily.

You would find one of these devoted husbands had become too attached with a lady who had newly joined in his office. The lady had cooked stories about her past, how she had been ditched by her parents, and now she is alone, and nobody looks after her.

This man is too soft, and he gets deeply attached to her. He doesn’t want to leave his wife either, because he loves her very much. He probably wants to keep both of them. Now when his wife comes to know about his extramarital affair, she simply blows off and seeks divorce with immediate effect. I do not have any advices for such men.

There is another breed of women who are simply never satisfied. These women always seem to feel that they lack something. They are the nagging type who would tear apart their husbands with their verbal volleys. If the husband is a violent, or a no nonsense guy, he would not take anything lying down. So the marriage would ultimately lead to divorce.

What advice should I give to those couples?

Here are few tips on how to prevent a divorce.

• Both man and a woman have different personality. There would be personality clashes. Husband and wife should accept each other on how they are. You should learn to respect your partner’s behavior, taste, likings, opinions, even though you may not agree to it.
• If you disagree with your partner on a given situation, sit and discuss. Try to find a solution. Never expand your problems.
• It’s important not to intrude your partner’s domain
• If your relationship has deteriorated due to a particular habit of yours. Leave that habit.
• Always be committed to your spouse. Just being committed is not enough; you need to show your spouse that you are committed.
• Never enter into an extramarital relationship, it never works
• Never disclose secrets about your past affairs. Some may not find it amusing; your marriage can come to a halt.
• Avoid your old love flame if you ever had one, never get closer to your past lovers, it’s bound to effect your marriage
• Do not insult your spouse in front of others; repeatedly doing such acts can have drastic effects on your relationship in the long run
• Take time out and spend weekends with your spouse. Discuss small details of your daily life and always be faithful to each other.

Follow these guidelines, and even after doing so, your marriage gets into turmoil, you may find a marriage consultant then, to prevent a divorce.