From a survey involving girls from different backgrounds. Two bonus male tips have also been added.
Have you ever desired a lady and wondered how to approach her? Is the girl of your dreams proving unreachable? Here are some useful tips to help you get any girl! Wonder why we are so sure it works? Well quite simple this tips where got from ladies themselves. We did a survey of what ladies really look for in a guy before agreeing to date him. From the results we took a pool of the 10 most useful tips. If these tips can’t help you (although I really doubt that), then I advise you stay off girls and just stick to little male pets.
This I think should be tip number one. A woman needs a man not just someone in male pants but someone who can take charge and she can lean on. It is okay to be nice and sweet but you have to show you are a man. If you are scared to even approach her you are telling a lot of your self confidence level. The shy guys don’t’ get the girl (unless sometimes in the movies). If you desire her you should be able to make the moves, she might reject it at first but would still admire your confidence and style.
Make an effort to be nice. Open doors pull out chairs and believe me no matter what she says or where she is from she would be impressed. Be a gentleman when around her. Be considerate and let her see how you are willing to go out of your way to be extra nice to her. Being nice means you are polite and gentle. Your aim is to convince her or entice her with a fore-taste of how you are going to treat her when she is yours. When she seems rude and unfriendly it pays to still be nice to her.
Be a listener
Now this was real popular among the ladies, they all say they need a man they can talk to. Can you be that man? Well you have to prove it early. Learn to listen to her. When with her let her talk, don’t go blabbing about you and you alone. That is what all other guys do they keep talking about themselves and their accomplishments. Believe me she has heard it in many variations so it would pay you to be different. Let her talk. Use questions to let her tell you about herself. Remember the rule, talk less and listen more (take note; I did not say be dumb!).
The truth has the knack of always rearing up its head one time in the future. No matter how you try to hide it, it always surfaces in time. This is a fact of life and to avoid the bitter effects of concealed truths it is wise to be truthful from the very start. Let her see that she can depend on you. Tell her the truth about you and you past. Have you been to jail before or have a child? It would be much better if you tell her yourself and quite early in the relationship. No one is perfect so it is only normal to have a few not too palatable actions. But lying and saying the truth is a choice you have to make and she would not appreciate if you choose to lie. Do not pretend to be what you ar not, let her see you as you are and you would be amazed that your honesty would open doors in her heart for you.
Remember the little things
Believe it or not what leaves lasting impressions on a girl’s impressionable mind are the seemingly little things. Buy her a house and forget her birth day and you would understand this point better. Little things such as unexpected phone calls, flowers and little treats are what would make her convinced you are for real. Going out for a date do not always have to be the formal expensive outing. Call and offer to have a coffee with her, go out for a walk or to local café would provide a more simple setting devoid of the usual formal dating atmosphere with the related pressure of being on a date. You are both more relaxed. Remember it is the little signs, the little things you do and say that might just win the race for you.
Be a friend, be interested in her
It helps you when a girl believes you are interested in her, as in truly interested in her. What she does, her life, her goals, plans and things associated with her. Take interest in her child if she has one, her career and her problems. In other words be a true friend a concerned friend. Did she tell you of a difficult assignment at school or office? Remember to call or ask her later how it went. Don’t just forget about it as it concerns you not. She has to be able to see you as a friend she can rely on.
Be fun to be with
Everyone likes to have a good time. Take time to know what she likes and make each time with you fun for her. This does not mean spend a fortune (although the truth is that is what some girls would actually prefer) you just have to be creative and being witty does not hurt. Do not try to play the clown or comedian always making jokes and trying to make people laugh all the time. Be fun to be with do not go and embarrass yourself.
Be nice to her friends
Many girls are greatly influenced by her friends. If you notice that she has a close group of friends it would be a good idea to try to impress them to. You target and aim is your girl, but do remember that her friends might just be part of the panel to review your application. Be nice to them and be aware that they would be offering her suggestions which might not all be in your favor so if you could isolate her; take my advice and skillfully do it.
Respect her feelings
A woman is a human with feelings and emotions. She desires things for herself and has her own hopes and dreams. You want her to feel that you can both pursue your dreams together. In doing this you have to respect her as a woman and as a person. When she says no, it won’t be bad to lay off for a while. Do not treat her as a child or as one lesser to you. The tricky thing about showing respect is that it doesn’t help if you believe you are showing her respect but she does not feel respected. You want her to feel that you are respecting her.
Believe me, wherever a girl comes from or what her background was like she desires the same basic thing as other women. Most of them require and appreciate someone who loves her. Circumstance might make her act otherwise but truth be told all women secretly want a man who would really love them. IF you can convince her that your love for her is real you have solved gained her heart by 50% and the work is half done. It would be easier for you to follow the other tips if you really love her. Loving her was what all the women agreed was a quality all the women asked said was among the most important. The issue would now be how to convince her and let her see that you really do love her. That’s easy; read the tips above.
Now this may be confusing but try to understand it. You want he girl, that is the aim of the game, you want her to know this but do not let her be too sure, confuse her! Smother her with praise and later act a bit less interesting. Reveal less definite facts about you. Be mysterious and not always direct. Skillfully let her know you have options, you would prefer her company but if she is not available… Then the very next day smother her with words about how she is irreplaceable. Visit her for a while and then lay back a little. Believe me this makes you more interesting and somewhat of a challenge.
Do not always be Mr. Nice Guy
Do not always be the good boy on the block. Sometimes you what to show your wilder side, the naughty boy you can be. She does not desire you to be a saint, saints are less fun so be nice but don’t over do it. Always keep her guessing what you would do. Do not be too predictable.
Take note that these tips are not exhaustive of all you need to know to get her to say yes or where they all that the ladies in the survey mentioned. These were just the ones that occurred most. Also take note that these tips were from ladies not from guys. Some ladies might not be aware of or want to say some tips known to us guys that do work. I have thus decided to add to bonus tips of mine which any guy worth his salt in getting girls would recognize as effective. If all these tips do not help you get a girl to say yes then please avoid everything female.