Destructive behaviors that destroy trust and sabotage loving partnerships.
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In the beginning, everything’s roses . . . then the thorns start to grow: damaging behaviors that diminish trust and destroy love. Watch out for these 13 relationship killers.
Thorn 1: Not Listening
In the beginning, you both hung on every word, but what has happened as time has gone by? Do you still show your partner courtesy by listening closely?
Thorn 2: Forgetting to Say “I Love You”
Don’t assume that your partner knows you love them. Keep saying it, thus reinforcing the bonds of love.
Thorn 3: Forgetting to Do Nice Things for Your Partner
The song, “You Don’t Bring Me Flowers” struck a chord with many people. Remember to treat that someone special just as they truly are, special.
Thorn 4: Minimizing What’s Important to the Other Person.
One of the fastest ways to destroy a relationship is to fail to pay attention to what concerns your partner. If something is important to them, it should be important to you–even if you are not personally interested in it. You need to make it your business, rather than downplaying it or treating it as though it is lightweight and doesn’t matter.
Thorn 5: Blowing Off Requests
When your partner asks you to do something, do you do your best to do it or do you delay, putting it off and then accusing them of nagging you when they are forced to remind you?
Thorn 6: Criticizing Your Partner
Criticism crushes trust and can make a partner wary. If you’ve gone from being your partner’s best advocate to an adversary, you need to look at what has changed and seek to correct it, before it damages the relationship.
Thorn 7: Snapping at Your Partner
You wouldn’t do this on your first couple of dates so don’t get into the habit as time goes by. Your partner deserves respect–even when you are stressed or angry.
Thorn 8: Accusing Your Partner
Don’t assume your partner has done something. Watch how you phrase your questions. Instead of “What did you do with my . . . ?” or “You must have moved it.” Rephrase this to “Have you seen my . . . ?”or “I wonder what I did with it?”