Comments on: 15 Things to Know Before You Get Married

By: Pamora

Pamora — Fri, 28 May 2010 03:46:22 +0000

You just know when it is right. It does not have a timer. It does not come with an expiration date. And it is not a business. It just is. And for me (bragging) It is right. Yaayyy!!!

By: been there done that

been there done that — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 18:18:25 +0000

Wow. I have read through most of the posts and it is amazing how many young people are ready for marriage. I was 19 when I got married, had two children, then divorced at 28. I missed out on really discovering myself and finding who I am. Both me and my ex-husband missed out on this and the older we got the more the marriage changed and we went out separate ways. It has been 5 years now and I have been seeing someone else and trying to figure out what i want in life. We are now at a point in our relationship that we either move forward or we will be just standing still till we break up. I am the hold up. I still do not know what I want out of life and if I am ready to make the necessary sacrifices. Marriage is full of sacrifices any relationship is. Please think hard about making the choice to marry or not. Marriage can be a wonderful thing. I wish the best to all who are married.
If I had not married young and knew then what I know now I would: finish college, have a career, and make sure I knew my self well enough to share that with another person.

By: youdontknowme

youdontknowme — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 14:57:54 +0000

it is not supposed to be that way. you know in your heart that it is not right. that you are not truly happy. make it work? of course you can! where there’s a will theres a way. but honey, you do not want to be looking at a divorce in two years because you were not able to see past and through all those differences you two very different people have. breaking up is hard. you need to prepare yourself for it and DON’T give in! You a woman. We seem to be weak willed at times when it comes to men and they take FULL advantage of this weakness because they can see it and they know we have it. Believe me, it is worth the wait for a right man then to be with some one you are not completely happy and satisfied with so please so not do yourself or your friends and family the injustice of ruining your self esteem, credit and possibly career with another mans desires. Is he what YOU want forever? Peace.

By: limbo land

limbo land — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 16:17:58 +0000

i would really like someones help – i recently got engaged to a really great man, i said yes and we started planning everything. one lead to another and instead of a big wedding, we bought a house — my idea, well my idea to spend the money on the house and not the wedding. the issue is, we plan to wed with a small backyard wedding but, we both are feeling uneasy about it — we have had our issues in the past and we have worked through them. we are actually quite different people, but have been able to see past our differences and focus on the good times. i guess my question is, is it supposed to be this hard? it seems like we just dont agree on things most times, and because we are so different i usually just cave in on my perspective. i mean, he makes good, rational decisions and i am more passionate. i feel like we arent the perfect match, but everytime i come home from a work trip i say to myself, its over, we are done — BUT, then when i try to break up, i feel my heart sinking and the most pain i have ever felt — like all this work that i do, like nothing would feel the same…so i just dont, and then go on living in this half sort of relationship — which is ok, if you are dating, but since we are supposed to get married now, i think that i need to resolve this before the big date — is this just cold feet? or is this something else?

By: stuck

stuck — Sat, 09 May 2009 19:55:23 +0000

thanx we send letters back and fourth to each other..he wrote me a poem XD lol he is honestly the best guy that i’ve ever been with…even if i have never seen him in person. The other night he told me tat all he wants is to be able to hug me and see me. Everyday he tells me i’m his dream girl and that i’m his angel, The goof decided i need some money te other day and sent me $20 so i could buy som gass next week. yeah, I love this man.

By: Vicki

Vicki — Fri, 08 May 2009 14:29:40 +0000

Stuck I met the guy im engaged to online not all internet relationships work out but mine did I met him a month after we got together after knowing him for a year I couldnt deny I had feelings for him and although it has been rocky over that month two months later I’m engaged to him and planning a wedding and im only 16 I know what I want. We moved intogether and to be honest taking that step is the best thing that ever happened to me he is the sweetest guy just becareful tho cos sometimes these guys arnt what they seem. Good luck

By: stuck

stuck — Wed, 06 May 2009 22:44:15 +0000

Ok this is probably going to sound slightly odd, but I love video games and i love my XBox360. One day while playin a great round of matchmaking on Halo3 i met this guy. I know what most of you are thinking “hes not who he says he is” etc. but really he is. oh! I’m 17 and he just turned 17..we are still in highschool, and we have known each other for almost a year. A few months ago we really really got closer in our conversations and we are currently in a long distance relation ship…he lives 5 hours from me, and i am planning on visiting him for the first time this summer. He is the sweetest guy i have ever met and we constantly tell each other that we love each other and we are both commited 100%…we send ltters and are texting each other all of the time. he says he wants to marry me and i want tell him i want to marry him as well, he even wants kids and he plans on raisin them with me and he tells me he wants me to be happy and never have to lift a finger. I trust him and loe him…but am i doin the right thing by loving a guy i have never really met…ive seen multiple pictures and they r all of him.

By: Mary

Mary — Sun, 03 May 2009 23:08:37 +0000

I want to marry a guy who is 25yrz 0ld. Im 23. Im studying he has c0mpletd and duing buisness. We want to get married. Bt we knw each other juz for 2 m0nths.. We are asians.. So we haf cultural problems. My bro insisting me to get married if we r serious 0r we break up.. Nw we dun knw how to deal wid dis.

By: karissa

karissa — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 18:30:00 +0000

you can email me at beierleka@mnstate.edu *thanks*

By: Karissa

Karissa — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 18:26:37 +0000

My boyfriend is in the Marine Corps and we’ve been talking about getting married and he asked me over Easter. I never get to see him we only talk over the phone and if were married we could see eachother everyday. We love eachother alot and all I answered all the questions but were only 19 and it seems really young. His twin brother is also in the services and is leaving for Iraq in the Fall and my boyfriend would like to get married before he leaves. My parents and his mom approve but the pastor who will be marrying us isn’t sure. We have been dating almost a year and are high school sweethearts. I really want to marry him but im not sure if its just the thought of getting to live with him or what not If you guyes have any advice please let me know!