A Perfect Relationship
There is nothing like a perfect relationship as there are no blueprints for the ideal. What gives is the willingness to share equitably accepting that it is all a matter of give and take, argues Ayub Chege in this short expose into partnerships.
Watching many happily married-ever-after couples often gives many aspirants jitters and cold feet should their turn be the same. Even after the grand wedding that presumably weeded out all the others, either partner may be lagging about exes from the past either physically or psychologically. But that is only known to the two. Accusations and insecurities never ever go away whoever much partners go out to assure each other.
Why so?
Relationships are say, like cars, careers, education, or anything that needs to grow and mature. Two late-teens enter into a shaky relationship in the height of their hormones with little understanding of the calls of living. As the flow of hormones wanes, the heart is left wondering where and who the other effluent is. Thus starts war.
Just as cars, many couples give each other just enough gas as they value them. Therefore, in some seemingly perfect relationships, partners may be running on E (ENOUGH!). Undoubtedly, many couples are in such sucker relationships that indicator F (FOOD? F**K? FOOL?) does not fill up what they want, and they still need the carrier jerrycan full too. And at each topping, they demand some more, even if there be problems of mixing leaded and unleaded and even diesel. Should it be a surprise that many relationships always end up with engines knocking?
The perfect relationship is just an ideal one as found in romantic Mills&Boon novels. Relationships depend on understanding that both partners conceal so much from each other, yet, they are willing to make do with whatever they get. For, even on personal basis, there are many rooms in our lives we know they are no-go even for us. We are often aware of our shortcomings and never go there. We know of our murderous nature but never go there. We know of our insecurities and never get into those rooms.
Therefore, how much of our partners would we be expecting to know. 10%? 5%? 0.1%? The truth is, we never get to know, and our partners are ready to open some rooms for others but not for us.
Enough! That is nature.
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