This is about being a friend and having good ones.
By: Yola Angeline Alonzo-Dayrit
What does it take to be a friend? How to be a good friend? What are the usual challenges that we face when having a close friend and how to overcome it? Do you consider your friends a priceless treasure?
Has it ever occur to you these questions? Well, if it does then we can take a rundown on the answers.
First, friendship is a tie between two people wherein there is trust, respect, care and love for each other. Having a friend is great because you can share your experiences, achievements, and sorrows. In short, they can be there during the good times as well as the bad times. Having a friend is one of the best things in the world because they can make us happy, keeps us laughing and takes a load off our chest when we’re stressed out. On the other hand, we can also learn from their experiences and they can be a good counselor.
Second, being a good friend is accepting the person inside and out. Like them for who they are. Moreover, trusting each other is a good foundation for friendship. When they share some secrets with you, you have to respect and keep that secret whatever happens. Have a good communication; be open to each other and be sensitive to avoid quarrels or hard feelings. Be yourself and don’t be afraid to let them know who you are as well. If that person is a good friend, then he/she will accept you for who you are without restrictions. Never leave them when you know that they need you especially during the dark times. Take a moment to listen to their concerns and give them the advice you can. Spend some quality time together to make your friendship grow and become stronger.
Lastly, being a friend is very simple but there are also some challenges that we face. It’s inevitable. But these challenges make our life meaningful and build us for who we are. It is when commitment, loyalty and communication set in. There is no such thing as an honest friendship that doesn’t have disagreements, hurt feelings, jealousy, and anger. Just think that your friendship is more important than your pride and your need to be right. Work it out with your heart and know that the friendship will only get stronger with each challenge. Be honest about your mistakes and apologize for it and accept apology as well. Let us learn from these challenges and we shouldn’t repeat our mistakes. On the other hand, let our friend change. Remember that people grow and change. Don’t let criticism set in; rather we have to support them for their decisions. Remember what Henry David Thoreau said: “The most I can do for my friend is simply be his friend.”
Friendship is important in our lives, a priceless treasure. Life is bearable with a person whom you trust. So let’s appreciate our friends, love them, and laugh with them. How rewarding it is to have a friend!