Abuse

These kind of people can be very unpredictable and you might think they are giving in and letting you have your our way, but when it comes down to it they come first. No one and not even you can force them against their will.

But women and men we have rights as Barbara tells us in her book, for there are nearly as many abusive men as there are women. She tells us:

1. We have the right to not be abused.

2. The right to be angry over past abuse, and to change the situation.

3. The right to be free from fear of abuse.

4. The right to get the help we need from police or social agencies.

5. The right to talk about it and not feel isolated from others.

6. The right to be treated like an adult.

7. The right to privacy and to leave the environment.

8. The right to express our thoughts and feelings.

9. The right to fulfill our interests.

10. The right to legally prosecute the abusive spouse.

We, have went through a lot of abuse and hope to never have to go through it again. But knowing now what to look for, I think we can spot them afar off. The sad part is, there are still victims out there who are trapped, and are afraid for their lives, and some having children that are under the same abuse. Hearing it everyday and seeing what is going on. It’s sad and if anyone today is reading this I want to assure them there is a way out.

The way out of my situation was a long, desiring wait, for I was blind and could not see what I was really up against.

One day I fooled him. I went to asked my banker if I could borrow some money. I didn’t tell him why I wanted it but I needed him to back me up. I was leaving and he didn’t know it.

He couldn’t understand why I would want the amount I was getting. I told him it was to pay my bills and I needed it for other things. When I got the money I felt free.

When he learned what I wanted it for he was sorry he did it, and told me if he had known he would have never done it. My plan was to go away and start a new life. Those who get away can count themselves very lucky because there are many who don’t. It took me two years and a good fight to keep me from telling him I wanted him back. I guess most of what helped me forget him was the way he treated me, and I think this is what has kept those who turned their life around and never looked back..

So women, and men, we don’t need that kind of life. We deserve better than that. So with this bit of encouragement I want to add, we also have the right to,

“Not Be Prefect”