There is many forms of abuse, however the darkest side of this is the hidden abuse. This is where a partner restricts the movements of their other half, basically keeping them away from family and friends. This means isolating them, not allowing them to work or meet up with family or friends for fear of them wising up to what they are going through. In the end they lack confidence, and in the extreme, harm themselves in a desperate bid for attention.

They are cornered into a situation where they have little if any self-confidence. This results in them feeling worthless, and in certain situations turning to suicide.

It is difficult to tell a person to leave the relationship, and that what they are going through is destructive and damaging. In some ways it is as if they are brainwashed. They would rather believe that the views of other people are irrational, than accept what is going on in their relationship.

This form of abuse is more damaging than actual physical abuse as it is hidden. However because there is no obvious signs of abuse, i.e., bruises, etc., this is overlooked. If the injury were visible, the abuser would end up before the court, facing an assault charge. Also it would be difficult to hide from outsiders just what is going on behind closed doors. These cowards that inflict this evil treatment on their so-called loved ones don’t deserve to have a partner.

Another aspect of this behavior is, if there are children in the relationship, they become exposed to it. The youngsters pick up on the bad vibes between mom and dad, causing them to feel unhappy and confused. Therefore it is the whole family being emotionally abused by one selfish parent.

We often associate abuse in a relationship as the male being the instigator, however, it could just as easily be the female partner who is the culprit.

I believe that a couple should think long and hard before bringing children into a relationship, especially when there is evidence of problems within it. Otherwise it is unfair on the child. In the extreme, couples often believe bringing a baby into the equation will solve the difficulties they are having. This approach is totally wrong and often brings with it a whole host of new problems.

A child needs stability in the home, if it has any chance of growing up without emotional problems. Also if a youngster witnesses abusive behavior, then it is likely to inherit these traits in adulthood. Basically it becomes a vicious circle.