Action Sammy’s Dating Tips: More Women Afraid of Commitment
by Women are becoming less commitment-minded when it comes to relationships.
About 20 years ago this would’ve been unimaginable. However, in today’s modern society, especially in the developed and industrialized world, more and more women are becoming commitment-phobes. They fear that committing to someone would compromise their freedom and independence. Whereas men were the main ones scared of marriage and monogamy, more women are developing similar attitudes toward the idea of settling with just one man.
As I mentioned in an earlier topic, I, myself, have come across more than a few women who screamed and ran as soon as soon they heard the mere word “commitment”. It’s not just with women I’ve tried to become involved with but it’s what I’ve seen in society as a whole. While women use to complain about the shortage of men willing to commit, nowadays, more men are having great difficulty finding a women who are ready for commitment. There are many talented, mature men who are ready for a serious, steady relationship but are struggling to find women who want the same thing.
This is partly the reason why more and more men in the West are beginning to search online dating agencies for potential brides in regions like Latin America and the former Soviet Union. (Stay tuned for an upcoming article on this topic.)
What gives?
There are many things to consider when wondering what is causing the change in attitudes. The main thing to take in account is the social emancipation of women in the last 20 to 30 years. As women have made many positive gains and have become more equal to men in society, naturally they are beginning to abandon the traditional roles and attitudes which have long been expected of them. Women now have a wider selection of careers and occupations to choose from and this has brought them financial liberation. And let’s be real now – financial security has always been of the main goals for marriage-minded women. Now that women have greater financial freedom, there goes one need for a man, right? Additionally, commitment and quite possibly marriage later on could mean losing her career and having to depend on someone else for financial security and needs, which is quite understandable.
Concern for their careers is also causing more women hold off on marriage and child-bearing. With advancement in medicine women wishing to eventually have children no longer have to get married as early as they use to have to. While the average age of marriage for a woman in the West was about 23 back in 1990, more women are waiting until as late as age 35 nowadays. Additionally, with all the modern pregnancy treatments available women today who want children no longer necessarily have to find a man and get married in order to have children.
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Post Commentlonelyheart
On January 19, 2010 at 11:13 pm
I believe women act this way not because of society but because they are sick of men acting like jerks and then when they get into an actual relationship the men are very controlling, men hurt womens hearts, which in turn makes them bitter and wanting to be free forever. First hand experience.
Gemma
On April 4, 2012 at 8:46 pm
I half-agree with ‘lonelyheart’.
What I was afraid of was what I saw in my family: Emotional/verbal abuse, demoralizing, unrealistic expectations of a woman, holding finances over women’s heads, calling them names, conditional love, bursts of rage/anger, blaming the woman for their actions, women never doing anything right in their eyes, laziness, selfishness, never appreciative of what she does.
When I got married, I thought this would be over…but guess what…it’s only gotten worse. Did I know he would act like this? NOPE. He even condemned my family for their actions.
This is exactly why I feared commitment and now I’m stuck in an abusive marriage. I’m afraid of commitment because of lack of respect and love. And that’s all I’ve seen.