Action Sammy’s Dating Tips: Proper Ways to Get Over a Breakup

by ActionSammy in Relationships, April 5, 2009

Tips on how to properly and peacefully move past a painful breakup.

At some point in almost everyone’s lives, we’re going to experience a painful breakup. If not then you are very lucky. It is especially painful if you’re being dumped instead of the one doing the dumping. Depending on how intensive the love was, breakups are generally hard to deal with and get over.

In this instance, time is always the best healer. To give yourself time, you must try to distance from the event and anything that could remind you of the times you shared with HIM or HER. There are other ways to ensure a smooth transition from a breakup to a much better relationship with the next:

Do not try to win your ex back. Many people make this mistake. You will most certainly fail and it will only add to your grief. By the same token, never go back if they want you back. Whatever broke the two of you up in the first place is certain to break you again.
Spend some time alone. Take a solo vacation to help you get over it.
Do not accept your ex’s offer of friendship and especially do not accept a suggestion that the two of you double-date with your new partners. This is the perfect set-up for more drama.
Remove anything in your apartment that reminds you of them. As cruel as this may seem, throw away any photos that you may have taken together as well as any of him/her. If there any valuables in your place that belongs to him/her don’t have the ex come into your place to retrieve them. Arrange to have them mailed.
Avoid the urge to go someplace that you know your ex will be at. If you know he/she will be at a particular place find another to go to.
When you meet someone else, try to avoid thinking of how your ex will feel to see the two you together. You’re supposed to be putting your ex behind you. Don’t care about he/she will feel. And don’t look at your next relationship as some sort of retribution.
Resist the urge to talk about your ex or go into details about the breakup. If friends ask why you broke up, simply say that the two of you realized you weren’t meant to be. Providing extensive details can lead well-meaning friends to provide unwanted and often painful suggestions on how to win your ex back.