Advise for a Long Term Relationship

I am a 17 year old Junior in High School I have experienced several relationships some which were long term some which lasted months. I am going to share with you my advise on finding a good boyfriend/girlfriend or maybe even a husband/wife/life partner. My advise may not be the best but lately it’s been working out for me.

Being on the Same Level

So lets start with this, it is probably the most important thing of all, you and your partner should be on the same level. By the same level I am talking mainly in the respects of sexuality, intelligence, maturity, sense of humor, and some interests and political views. There are many reasons why I think this is the most important part of a relationship, whenever I was in a relationship where the girl wasn’t on the same sexual, mature, and/or intellectual level as me it was over within a month and a half. The sense of humor and interests and political views come second in my opinion but I do think they are necessary if you want a relationship that lasts more then 1 year.

Sexuality

Okay this is a common problem in relationships, a lot of the times the guy(it can also be the girl in some cases) wants to go “faster”, or advance the sexuality of the relationship faster then the other partner, it is really hard when you are being passionate and caught up in the heat of things to take things slow sometimes. Sex(intercourse, oral, touching) can really ruin a relationship sometimes make sure you know where your partner stands on what you want to do.

Distance

Another big problem I have faced is distance. Try to find a partner close to you that you would be able to see reasonably one to two times a week at a minimum. If you can only see your girlfriend once a month or every other week it’s bound to fail. Also make sure your not going to far out of your way to see her and make sure the traveling is fair! For example if it’s a 2 hour drive… probably not the best idea and make sure your not always going to see him/her.

Talking/Texting

You should probably make sure you talk to her every other day. Most people would say everyday but I’ve found that if you talk to her everyday your conversations eventually get boring. It is a good idea to text her lets say at school and work though. Also, don’t be a jerk when you talk to him or her.

Special Advise for Girls(Heterosexual)

The best pick up line a girl can pull is your smile, a guys biggest fear is being rejected and when you smile at them they feel more confident. As I said, a guys biggest fear is being rejected so also don’t be afraid to be a little extra flirty, hold his hand, let him pick you up, that kind of stuff. Also make sure not to get used, a lot of guys use girls for sex or money be wary of this.

Special Advise for Guys(Heterosexual)

Be Confident! I know it’s scary when you first start talking to a girl but they usually like it when you are confident. Also when you like a girl and they are giving you a look here and there it is okay to lets say tickle them(unless it annoys them or shes not ticklish) 2-3 times a week, in school 2 times a week you don’t want it to be an every other day thing or she could get annoyed. Also some girls just wont be interested in you make sure if she’s just not gonna be interested in you remember there are more fish in the sea. Girls also like random cute things make sure you know like their favorite color and animal so next time you see that pink stuffed turtle buy it for her, they love that.

Special Advise for Homosexuals

I honestly don’t have any experience with homosexual guys or girls but I will say this. If you come out of the closet be proud and do not go back in. Also have pride and fight for your rights I believe gay people should be able to get married and have the same rights as Heterosexuals it’s just not right they deny you that right.

I hope my article will help you in your love life, do note I’m not an expert by any means, I am just going off what I’ve learned in my 17 years of existence.