Affair-Proof Your Marriage

The percentage of marriages in today’s world that have been rocked by affairs is annoyingly high. Statistics are today implicating women more and more. Many a couple needs help in ensuring that their union is affair-proof.

What causes affairs in marriages?:

1. Peer Pressure. Keeping the wrong company is dangerous. You end up following the footsteps of those whose company you keep frequently;
2. Nagging Wives. Men shun nagging like a plague. Men with nagging wives seek solace elsewhere;
3. Women in unhappy marriages, where the man is cruel and domineering, find solace in extra-marital affairs;
4. Revenge. Once one party in the marriage union strays, the other party may want to get back to the erring party, by themselves having affairs;
5. Men or women whose parents had marriages dogged by affairs have some percentage chance of having affairs themselves; and
6. Alcoholism. The frequent use of alcohol may lead to poor judgment, leading to affairs. Drinking buddies are likely to encourage that trait, either through word or deed.

How then do we avoid affairs in our marriages?:

1. Pray together. A family that prays together, stays together;
2. Device family cultures that encourage family unity. Examples are as follows:

1. Go on weekend outings;
2. Hug and kiss each time you meet or separate;
3. Once a year, go to the beach and have fun;
4. Talk on phone at least twice a day, for around ten minutes at a time, as much as time may allow;
5. Make time, at the end of each day, to chat with one another. Find out how your spouse’s day was, what challenges, joys, successes, failures, and so on, were experienced;
6. Provide a shoulder for your spouse. Be an encourager. Cry with her when necessary. Laugh with him when necessary. Pat her on the back when necessary.

1. Forgive one another. While in this world, we shall make errors and annoy one another till death does up part. If you can choose to forgive one another, life can be bearable. Cultivate the habit of forgiveness;
2. Learn what makes your partner happy, and do it generously. For instance, what gift do you think might thrill your wife on her birthday, or on your anniversary? Buy her such a gift as often as possible;
3. Take keen interest on what interests him. For instance, if your husband is an avid football fan, take an interest in football, and even watch matches with him. Also, get to know a few team members, so that when he is watching the matches in the company of his friends, you are able to throw in a comment or two;
4. Respect her relatives. Express some excitement when you hear her brother will be visiting. When you get the news that his sister is graduating, express some excitement, and even suggest the purchase of a congratulation card;
5. Play together. Pick a sport that you can, on weekends, engage in together. If time does not allow, embark on pillow games;
6. Take turns in visiting your relatives on both sides.

I believe the above tips will go along way in ensuring your marriage is happier, harmonious, peaceful, and therefore affair-proof.