All About Long Distance Relationships
by It is my perspective about long distance relationship.
A long distance relationship, is the most common relationship nowadays. Most people have been, is now and will be in this relationship. It’s very challenging to maintain it, to make it last for such a long period of time…
I prepared a list of terms which involves this relationship. It is only my perspective, the trials, feelings and other issues. Many may agree or disagree I just want to share. Feel free in reading.
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LEAVING
This is the very difficult and emotional part. Leaving the life you used to live, everything you have, everything you love. And especially leaving the one you love. These times you just wish that time will just stop while you hug and kiss goodbyes.
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STARTING OVER
Or what they call adjustment period. There are two sides of adjustment, the one who left and the one left behind. The one left behind have difficulties adjusting because so many things and places to remind the life before. The one who left adjusting to new things and doing it alone, missing things.
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COMMUNICATION
Although this is not really a huge problem especially technology and other matters nowadays but sometimes it can be as frustrating as it can be not reaching each other.
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TIME
A big factor especially when talking about time differences. A big gap means less time. Also considering work schedules. Very difficult at times you may feel like giving up trying to figure out how to have and make time.
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MOMENTS
You may want to share as many stories and things as you can to your love one but sometimes you just can’t as much as you want to. It’s just the way it is.
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ALONE
Admit it you are alone and you cannot deny the loneliness you are feeling. These can drive you so damn crazy.
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COMPLETENESS
Admit it that in this kind of relationship you can never be complete. No matter how hard you try there will always be shallowness inside of you.
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HONESTY
This is one of the traits they say that is important in any kind of relationship especially long distance. But sometimes you just rather not tell some things and cause any troubles. You just have to keep it to yourself and consider the possible effect on the relationship. But I think you just have to say it even though it can cause you trouble.
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TRUST
Oh…. This is a delicate one. I think this is really really hard especially if your partner is miles away from you. There will always be doubt in you though you really know your partner inside out and for such a long time. There will always be those voices inside your head and they will never leave you alone.
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JEALOUSY
It is associated with trust. When you lack trust jealousy grows. But sometimes though you trust your partner your whole life, jealousy just pops-up and you cannot avoid these feelings inside of you.
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FIGHTS
Oh… A hell lot of fights expected, beginning from small issues up to bigger ones. Just normal for every couple.
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BETRAYAL
This is the most common result of long distance relationships. Either by the one who left or the one left behind. Many factors to consider on how did it happen but I think it’s not just one to be blame but both parties for letting it gone to this.
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HOLDING ON/BEING STRONG
These two are similar, you should be strong to keep holding on for the relationship. But even though you try so hard just to stay strong sometimes you just melt and thinking of letting go. Staying strong can sometimes be tiring and can push you to the edge. But you just have to take a grip and stand up.
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FUTURE
Hmmm…. The future… One of the root cause of the mess you got yourselves into. You will achieve those dreams but be patient it will really take a hell lot of time to fulfill them. And also be ready for they may already be no one on your side when you achieve it.
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LOVE
It may go in two ways, the love may grow or it will deteriorate. It’s up to the partners on what will be the outcome of it. You can try and experiment things to spice up the relationship for the love to be able to grow.
Those are some of the things I thought about long distance relationship. As I have said before this was just my perspective. For those people who are in this relationship right now and will be in goodluck to all of you. I do believe that if two people are really committed and really want the relationship to last, it will. It’s up to the partners on how they will make things work. Remember as the saying goes “IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO”.
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On May 22, 2008 at 9:45 pm
ei nice article..=)..why do i have this feeling that while making this article, you have set me as an example..hehehe..for me, i think what makes a long distance rel. fail is mostly the ones you said in 4-7..and i think patience is a really big factor in making long dist. rel work..especially if you were so used to being with that person all the time..as time passes, you get so used to him/her being far, and with the set-up you have, thinking tis is way too easy..but then it will just come to a point that it is just too tiring to really hold on.you miss him/her more, but can’t do anything about it.that’s when you start thinking of letting go.once the idea comes, you just can’t help but entertain it..up to the point that you just give up..it’s not always about 3rd party..