Anatomy of the Filipina: Foreigner Connection

Not all Filipinas marrying foreigners are desperate though, far from it. I personally know women who are enjoying wedded bliss with Caucasian husbands. I have a friend who has been working as a registered nurse in Canada for many years and who tied the knot with her Canadian boyfriend about two years back. They are still bidding their time before having a child, just wanting to savor every moment together. I also have a former colleague who met an American two years her junior thru the net. Both in their mid-twenties, they were professionals and had stable jobs. After a couple of years in a long distance relationship and a lengthy visit from the guy, they got engaged. They have been married for half a year now and are working together to build their dream house. Then there’s my dorm mate from college who migrated to the United States soon after graduation. She met her husband during her stint in the U.S. Army, two young and happy individuals who fell in love and decided to share their lives together. They have their own house now and an adorable son they dote on.

For a relationship to work, I think it is very important that the persons involved are in it for the right reasons. Love. The desire to be united in mind, body, and soul with a specific partner. It is also a great plus factor if both parties are on equal footing. For a union to be successful, husband and wife have to grow together. This is easier when neither one of the partners is dependent on the other, especially on finances.

When a Filipina’s connection to a foreigner is borne out of attraction and love, not because of a perceived financial need, the marriage is more solid. Therein lies the difference.