Another Thing About Happily Ever After
Let’s resolve this conflict now.
After reading advice in my article, can there be a happily ever after? You feel you have all the components, to support a healthy, happy and enduring marriage. You are deeply in love and committed to spend your lives together. You share mutual respect and trust. Surely those qualities are the formula for a blissful marriage?
Well you definitely have a head start, but of course life isn’t that simple. Like the worlds greatest fiction, our lives are steeped in conflict.
Of course, conflict happens and shouldn’t be avoided, and if dealt with correctly and resolved with satisfaction, might just strengthen a relationship bond. The mistake lots of people make, when deals with conflict, is to mishandle it or avoid it altogether.
So what is conflict?
The dictionary definition of conflict is a difference in opinions; a disagreement or clash between ideas, principles, or people.
Conflicting experiences can happen daily in all aspects of our lives. I’ve had a number of conflicting discussions with my teenage son, only this morning, all resolved with a modicum of success; we agreed to differ!
So how should we handle conflict?
In order to look at how to handle disagreements in our relationships, we should probably look at the guidelines in how not to deal with conflict.
There are certain indicators that your approach to conflict could damage your relationship. But can these actions really cause lasting damage to your marriage?
Ignore the problem and it will go away.
Couples who ignore conflicting situations and refuse to discuss and tackle any problems, possibly in the hope they resolve themselves, risk feelings of resentment, frustration and anger to fester in their marriage. These feelings can feed further conflict.
William L Dom me, a fellow writer, says the number one tip, his grandparents quoted as the basis for their 60 years of marital success was, never go to sleep on an argument. There is a lot of truth in this saying and of course it has been the route of success for many, but if I had followed this advice in the early days of my 27 years of marriage, the sleep deprivation would have led to murder. Sometimes, sleeping on it and things look better in the morning, worked for us.
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Post CommentJoni Keith
On January 7, 2009 at 5:15 pm
This was a well written article with sound advice. I look forward to reading more of your work.
look into my eyes
On January 9, 2009 at 9:51 pm
i look forward to reading more as i am new to this please take time in reading one of mine thanks
Denise Kawaii
On January 12, 2009 at 9:47 am
This is exactly what caused my first marriage to dissolve into a heap of goo. Very good advice..
William L Domme
On January 12, 2009 at 12:14 pm
Very nice. I like what I read, not just because my fantastic grandparents made it into your presentation. The article is very well thought out. Shop the pair of articles around, you might be able to get them circulated into print publications. They read easy.
Fresh Writing
On March 1, 2009 at 2:50 pm
Hello, (Ms.?Mrs.?) Cree,
I was scrolling across a few articles and found yours-excellent work; you have put a very personal touch to it. I personally have fortunately not suffered from a dysfunctional marriage (yet…:P), but know many people that have; it is a very thing, one that cannot resolved without mutual functioning.
You have touched a very personal topic here, Erin, but gracefully and without edge.
I look forward to reading more of your work.
See you around!
-Fresh Writing
Resounding Glass
On March 31, 2009 at 10:10 pm
Hello Erin,
This was an excellent follow up to your ‘Can There Be a Happily Ever After?’ article. Like Fresh Writing I enjoyed how you used personal experiences to better make your point.
Thanks,
-Resounding Glass