Are Relationships Really Worth Our While?

From a distance a relationship can seem like something one needs in order to live a healthy/complete life. But up close and in person you will find that with almost all relationships at some point and time their will be broken hearts,trust and dreams along with shed tears.

Married couples under the ages of 30 have the highest rate of getting a divorce, and with this statistic one must ask yourself ”Is being with someone really worth your emotional input, time, effort, or money?”

Why do some of us put more time into our relationships then we put into our own careers or school work, and yet still have it’s fault’s and troubles?And that does not mean that if you put more time into your relationship then you do with anything else that you will have better chances of actualy surviving it or it succeeding? Who is most to blame in this being like it is? Some girls would automatically say “guys are to blame” some guys would say “it is the woman’s fault.” In my reality it is a combination of both.

In my opinion,we are both equally to blame in this downward spiral. More and more younger  teens losing their virginity sooner,getting into unhealthy relationships, getting pregnant,and getting married all at younger and younger ages. Could this sending us a mixed signal of what love really is?

Does anyone even really know what true love is? Do they all just believe if they feel they have a connection with someone or think a guy/girl is hot then it must be love. In all experience, I can rightfully say that my love life is not at all perfect.  It takes hours and days of hard work to even amount to a functional relationship with my boyfriend. To some people sex is all their is to a healthy relationship. Sex may play a part in making a relationship work, but it’s not all their is to one. A relationship can’t  just be about sex. But it can’t be all about emotions either. Their needs to be a balance between the two and a greater understanding in both partners of what each other both wants out of the relationship.

Have you ever wondered as a child or even a teen why your parent has always told you, “your to young to date”, well their is a clear reason for that. At our age, teens do not have a clear understanding of who we are, and if we don’t have a clear understanding of who we are and what we want out of life how can we ever understand who another person is and what they clearly want out of life? How can we ever have a clear understanding of  what a real realationship and or how to securely run one if we are still learning about ourselves and the world around us?

What makes a healthy relationship? In my opinon, a healthy relationship consists of both a understanding between the couple of what each other wants out of the relationship. They both put equal amounts of work into the relationship and understand each others needs. They are willing to forgive each other, put issues and problems behind them. They you are both supportive,both love each other and are in it for the long run.