Attract a Significant Other

Painting by William Adolphe Bouguereau, Psycheabduct, from Wikimedia,

Are you Waiting for Somebody to Save you?

Finding that special person to share our lives with is one of the deepest desires of many people. Some people find this part of life more difficult than others. Some people spend years going from one empty relationship to the next, while others sit in the despair of their loneliness.   Finding a Significant other starts with YOU.  Learn how to make changes in your life so you can have a lover, or better.

Seriously, Brush Your Freakin’ Teeth!

Would you want to date someone who walked around with garlic chives stuck in their teeth? No, you would not. No matter what anyone says, your personal appearance matters. People judge you on how you look physically, how you dress, and how you smell. So brush your freakin’ teeth, use some mouthwash and clean up your look. If the way you dress or smell is unattractive, or offensive, to the person you are dating you are going to have problems. How you dress is a reflection of your inner feelings towards yourself. A person who dresses like a slob clearly does not have good self esteem.

Additionally you want to have a new look that you are comfortable with. You could go from having greasy stringy hair to having a complete makeover, but if it is in a way that is uncomfortable to you or the person you are interested in, then it will not work. Make sure your makeover makes you happy first. Dress in a way that shows who you are, not in a way you think people want you to appear. If you are a rocker, then dress like a rocker, and not a business person. Remember one look will attract one type of person and that type is not right for you, if you are not dressing like yourself. Trying to make someone fall in love with you, when you are trying on the surface to be someone you are not inside, will eventually become a fatal exercise in futility.

The Old In and Out

Get your mind out of the gutter! The in and out I am referring to is that of interpersonal communication. One of the most important factors in attracting a mate is knowing when to share what is inside of you, and when to listen to what is inside of your potential mate. This can be a tricky situation at times and altogether too many people fail to really get all the subtle nuances of this area of human interaction.