Attraction Techniques: The Disconnect

A common question men usually have is “What is the best way to pick up a girl?”

Well, whether it is at a bar, or the library, some techniques and methods are always the same.
Let’s focus on the bar/party scene and how we can use one of the technical methods known as “The Disconnect” to begin the attraction process.

The Disconnect 

This is one of the many steps in the attraction process and should be used carefully. It requires a massive amount of confidence from the man without being arrogant. A “Disconnect” is something you say to a woman in which the woman then feels as though they are not up to your standards. What this does is allow you to do whatever it is that you were doing, but leaving the woman to subconsciously try to impress you.

Women get compliments all the time, and each and everytime they receive one, they ignore it and let it go just like the previous one. So why not throw her a curve ball and let her know that “she ain’t all that” and you are not really interested in her. No matter how good she looks.

Remember, you really do want her. She just cannot know this.

So let’s begin.

“You look pretty bored, how come you’re not having any fun?”

Modify it how you will, but the concept is the same. Make her feel like she now has to prove to you that she is having fun. When you say something like this, you are letting her know that YOU are having fun and she is isn’t. You are indirectly letting her know that she has to now have go out and have some fun, because although she may be looking really good, she seems to not be impressing you. She now has a mission, to impress you and let you know that she infact IS having fun.

Let her say a few words here and there, but don’t get caught up. Say you have something to do or more people to talk to but that you will see her later. This gives her the impression that you are “really cool”. I know what you’re thinking, you’re thinking that you will come off as an a*hole. Remember, you cannot be rude, try to be charming and be yourself, but do not let her believe that she is the center of the world. Not to you anyway.

This technique will put her on edge and make her wonder how it isnt that you don’t want to stay and talk. Consciously, even though she doesn’t realize it, the “female” in her will go into overdrive and will WANT to talk to YOU.

“Players” will usually practice this at a club as a part of their “game”

Talking to as many women as they can, but very briefly. Always leaving the woman with the thought that you *might* come back, but then again, maybe not. Remember, your intentions ARE to come back but she doesn’t know that.

It might seem like a gamble, but trust me. The odds are in your favor. 

When you come back later on in the evening. You will be able to converse with her as if she was your friend. If it looks as if she has changed her attitude due to what you had told her previously, then you know it has worked.  As long as you have made a good transition to qualifying, you will have no problem advancing. 

There are technical steps that preceed this technique and follow it. But I feel this is important and anyone trying to win a girl over at a party should be able to work around this technique for now.