I get what you are saying about disastrous consequences whether a person waits or if they don’t. You seem to be speaking of googoo eye attraction. Right now I forget the word since I haven’t used it often. Infatuation! This is the word I am looking for. This is the type of attraction where the person is so happy to be with thier coveted prize (the other person)that they do not see the person as they really are.

I also find that once I have stopped dating a guy, he is more himself and I see his personality better. It is so odd how it seems that they are careful to hide thier faults while dating, yet they are at ease when just being friends. I actually love them more when we are friends then when i did when we were just dating. Yea, I often keep exes as friends. It works for me and the guy though it may not work for others. I am just happy to still have someone I love still in my life though not in the capacity they were before.

I’ve known cases where waiting proved nearly as disastrous as a rush to physical gratification. Sexuality early or late isn’t what clouds our vision, it seems to me. It’s as likely to be seeing what we WANT to see…sometimes that desire can be surprisingly resistant to reality, to the ruin of both…just one broken-down, baggy-eyed, gray-haired old fool’s opinion.