Avoiding a Bad First Date

This is for the person who is looking for someone special and normal. In answer to your dilemmas, I’m writing down five practical tips to use so that you will avoid bad first dates.

1. Have a clear focus on the type of person you would like to go out with. Write down the qualities of the person you are hoping to meet and share time with. Be specific, because if you just want someone to laugh with, you might spend a night with a joker who never gets serious.  Make a list of the things you would like in a mate.

2. When you are setting up your date over the phone, e-mail, or text, you pick out the meeting place. Go to a public place, a  place you are familiar with and always meet them there.  If the date goes bad, you can say you don’t feel well and leave early. 

3. If they start talking about sex BEFORE you even have met them -  that is a clear indication that they are expecting sex.  Question yourself, are you looking for a casual date or are you interested in long-time commitment? If you are, don’t go out with this guy.

4. Go out with someone who shares your philosophy of life.  Share your passions with that person during the first date. Get a clear picture of what they do and what their goals are. If things don’t jive on the first date, things will more than likely not go any better on the second date.  Trust your gut instincts.

5. Take mental notes and don’t make any excuses for them.If you are doing on line dating, take a GOOD look at their picture. Example: you may be thinking “well, if he loses weight, changes the hairstyle and gets contacts,” you are deceiving yourself. If you are changing that person mentally, it will probably not go well on the first date.

5. Take mental notes and don’t make any excuses for them. If you are doing on line dating, take a GOOD look at their picture. Example: you may be thinking “well, if he loses weight, changes the hairstyle and gets contacts,” you are deceiving yourself. If you are changing that person mentally, it will probably not go well on the first date.

Just remember to look on the bright side of life and have faith that the right person will enter into your life. The key here is rule #1:You have to form a clear mental picture of the person you want to be with. If you keep that picture your mind, that person will enter your life. Do not be distracted and give in because you just “have to go out.” It’s always better to be single, than be with Mr. Wrong.