Being a Tech Savvy Dater

Keep it public…

Bostonboy040383 might be really cool. In fact you two might spend hours on the phone and online steaming up the screens. But don’t be so quick to invite him over to your place for the first date, or vice versa. Anyone can be charming just to get that introduction, and true creeps prey on their ability to make you feel comfortable before they show their dark side. This also goes back to not giving someone personally identifiable info – like where you live (and guys this applies to not being so quick to bring a woman back to your place too!). Have a few face to face interactions – in public places. If you still feel comfy with Bostonboy040383, then by all means…hang out with him in private.

If all else fails, go with your gut instinct…

You know how animals have this innate ability to shy away from some people yet shower others with attention? Well, animals have a keen intuitive sense when it comes to who is safe to spend time around and who’s someone to keep at arm’s length. Humans have this ability too, but we’re so busy looking for scientific explanations and justifications that 9 times out of 10, when you get that tingly feeling you tell yourself to ignore it. Well, next time, go with your gut. Call it women’s intuition, spidey sense, the ability to read auras or anything you want, but don’t ignore it! If you feel like you’re getting an off vibe from someone, your subconscious is trying to tell you to run – not walk – away.

And finally, don’t be afraid to be a jerk!

If the date was a dud but Mr. (or Miss!) Not Right is still prolonging the agony, don’t feel like you have to give them another date or allow the existing date to be prolonged just because they’re having fun and you aren’t. Your time is precious, and if you really weren’t feeling them, then don’t waste your time – or theirs. Although this isn’t a stereotypical issue that men face, women have a tendency to feel cornered into accepting a second date or allowing their current date to continue to derail even when they know that there’s no way that Mr. Not Right can become Mr. Right. Don’t be a pansy ladies! Be straightforward, make up an excuse, or send your friend a text on the sly asking them to call you as your exit strategy plan.

Remember, personal happiness and your bodily and mental security start with you! For more dating tips check out the do’s and don’ts of tech use. Starting next week we’re bringing you reviews of some of the hottest (and most ingenious) dating apps, gadgets and dating events with a text twist. We’re here to help you meet someone before it gets too chilly and remember…October is Dating in the City month!