Benefits of Being Single
Many people are desperate for a relationship and they can’t understand why people choose to be single. Actually, being single has many benefits.
Being single can be a conscious choice. When you are aware of the benefits of being single, especially in comparison to being stuck in an unhappy relationship, it is hardly surprising that you opt to be on your own rather than put up with the misery of a dysfunctional relationship.
For many singles being single is a temporary state – till they find a new, suitable lover. For others, it is just a way of life and they don’t mind staying single for years or even for their whole life. Either way, single people enjoy the benefits of single life.
Being Single Means You Are Free
When you are in a relationship with somebody, you sacrifice your freedom (or at least parts of it) in order to be together with your lover. Very often couple life requires coordination and subordination. Even when this is voluntarily, this deprives you of the opportunity to do what you want and what you need. In some cases you feel that you are losing your own personality but you feel helpless to break free.
Being Single Offers Many More Opportunities
When you are single, this offers many more opportunities in personal aspect and in terms of career. I know many people, who have been stuck in an unhappy relationship for years and even for decades and this has cut them the opportunity to find a better lover. One former coworker of mine was still in her late 20s when she had a relationship of more than 10 years with a loser and even though she occasionally managed to hook with somebody better, when they guys learned that she was in a relationship, they dumped her without any thinking. If she were single, she could have hooked with somebody much better than the loser of her life.
Being single offers even more benefits in terms of career. You can devote more time to your career, you can go to classes to improve your skills, you can easily relocate, when an opportunity shows. These benefits of being single apply to both men and women.
There Are Fewer Compromises to Make
When you are part of a couple, there are many more compromises to be made. Every choice you make must be coordinated with your partner. Very often you have to accept decisions that are painful for you. When you are single, most of this stuff doesn’t apply to you. You just decide what YOU want, what YOU need, how to spend YOUR money, etc.
Another very awarding benefit of being single is that you don’t have to play politics with your mother-in-law or with the other relatives of your lover simply because these creatures are not a part of your life. This could be a great difference, especially for everybody who has ever experienced the joys of dealing with the relatives of his or her partner.
Being single offers really a lot. That is why for many people of either gender it is not difficult to decide whether to stay single or to drown in an unhappy relationship.
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Post CommentMaple55
On May 20, 2009 at 4:47 am
Interesting.. but i still prefer not to be single ^^
Mr Ghaz
On May 20, 2009 at 6:23 pm
Excellent!.That was very interesting article..nice read..Thanks for sharing this great thought.
Sad
On May 20, 2009 at 8:50 pm
Being single for me is lonely, miserable, full of unhappiness. Nobody to share with your feelings, nobody to care for you. I’m single,43 Asian Lady. Colleague and Friends look me as weird person and keep on insulting me for my “single” status. I feel very left out and ever think of commit suicide. If times can rewind back to Year 1994, I will treasure the chance to know that guy who is my good friend’s husband friend and if can get along with him, maybe I’m now married with few kids. At that time, I’m quiet, non-chatty and am not outgoing person. After knowing me just for a few days, he had called me out and wanting to celebrate my birthday but I had rejected him due to I had appointment with my friend. He called me few times but I ended the call soon as I did not know what to chat with him. I had gone out with him once but without eye contact as I feel very shy and do not know what to talk to him. I’m a very pessimistic person and did not really interact with him. Due to my so called “cool” and bad altitude, he thought I’m not interested in him and wanted to send me back after his meal. I remembered his car’s tyre punctured and he told me to wait so that he could make a phone call to his brother for help. At that time, my mind was troubled with many family problems and my mind is not working, I’m so rude I just left without notifying him. Thereafter, he complained to my friend and gave up on me. Due to my mistakes, I did not have the guts and courage to ask my friend for his contact. I did call his office (working as a civil servant-Government Job)but not able to contact him as the department is too big and I did not know his sir name but only know his christian name. I had also sent him a greeting Chinese New Year Card to his office attention to his christian name and not knowing whether did the card reach him. I just simply gave up without trying to call my friend for his contact. Right now my tears is flowing out again……, Jason, if times can rewind back, do you give me “One More Chance”? I’m only awaken for my mistake after a few months and did mentioned to my friend about him. But she kept mum so I suspected that he might be attached. He got married in Year 1995 after meeting one lady only in half a year time. I felt heart pain and lost my weight from 44kg to 39kg and suffered from a long period of sadness.
Now, I live with regrets………,without a happy family, my life is lonely,sadness and miserable. As years go by, I feel very down and always think of ending my life. I feel lost although I’m not mentally nor physically disabled. I just feel very lonely and admired those people who have a happy family. I did consider to end my life in January 1998 but before I had commit suicide, my sister who had suffered from depression had ended up her own life since 1998. I just feel like wanting to follow her step.
Suicidal thoughts still lingering in my mind…….
seashell66
On May 21, 2009 at 2:08 pm
I liked the article since it puts a positive spin on being young and independent.
Sad, I hope you are feeling better soon. You sinply have not met your equal yet.
mnwrite
On May 22, 2009 at 2:59 am
It’s so sad to hear that you are thinking about suicide. DON’T!!!!!!! You can make your life interesting. Take some sports, or start studying something new – this always helps to deal with being alone. Your married colleagues are hardly happier than you. Many couples are together just because they fear to be single, even though they hate each other. This isn’t a happier arrangement.
After I had a couple of very boring relationships and I am happy that I didn’t have to stay there for long, I really appreciate that I am the master of my destiny.