Best Friends
Best friends versus your spouse.
When you think about the word “best friend”, what comes to mind? Maybe you think about a longtime childhood friend, a sister, a brother or someone who is just close to you. What about your spouse? Would you call them your best friend?
I talked to a man once, who I would assume had to of been about 65 maybe 70 years old from the way he spoke. He was a customer calling in for a simple request, I just happened to answer the phone that day and just out of no where he began talking about life.
One thing he brought up was how now a days, so many people refer to their spouse or significant other as their best friend. He thought this was a horrible title to give them. He asked me why on earth would people bring the love of their life down to the level of simply a best friend.
This was an interesting point he brought up and it made me think for awhile. Most of us say, well our spouse is someone we do spend time with and do things with, but there is so much more then that. The love you share is deeper and stronger then anything you could have with a best friend. Not to mention the fact that you really wouldn’t sleep with your best friend now would you?
He told me if you are to introduce your spouse, you wouldn’t say, “this is my best friend Bob.” You would instead say, “this is my husband Bob.” He said nothing could compare to introducing your significant other as your husband or wife. Never should you put them any lower then that.
I thought this was such an interesting thing. So many people thinking that being best friends with your mate is a good thing. He really made me think that maybe we should never classify them as the same thing. Yet let them continue to be their own special relationship.
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Darla Smith
On April 18, 2009 at 7:38 am
Very interesting.
Anne McNew
On April 18, 2009 at 8:10 am
My husby is actually my best friend
Evelyn Moore
On April 18, 2009 at 8:51 am
I think that the best type of husband is actually also your best friend. Over a life time of ups and downs you need both sides of a relationship to get you through.
I still have girl-friends with whom I can share everything – but if I had to spend the rest of my life with one human being it would be my husband.
Often I have joked about friends about who we would be left on an uninhabited island with. I have no doubt – it would be my husband – the trouble is they all say the same – my husband as they know he would house them, feed them and never see anyone short of anything – so I could my blessings.
My husband is my best friend and my best friend happens to be my husband.
Thank you for this thought provoking article.
Duff D Moss
On April 18, 2009 at 9:06 am
I know what you are trying to say here, and I tend to agree with it. That special intimate relationship is something above (but not exclusive to) friendship. It is something altogether more. There are things that my wife knows about me, that NO-ONE else on this earth knows about me – including my parents and best friends.
A friend is something external to you – but that intimate special partner – you are so intertwined in many ways, that you are not really separate to each other – like friends are.
Tarra Buluran
On April 18, 2009 at 9:08 am
I have a dear best friend who now lives in Spring, Texas. We’ve been best of friends since I was first year highschool and she was grade 5. She’s like a sister to me and I love her. But of course, my best friend for life is my husband whom I can share my innermost feelings, happiness, fears, hope, faith, sadness, and he’s always there to listen, support, and love me. This is a very interesting article! Keep it up!
rajeev bhargava
On April 18, 2009 at 9:41 am
so so true. excellent article. i enjoyed reading it alot.
Kate Smedley
On April 18, 2009 at 11:44 am
Another excellent article, if your best friend and partner are one and the same you’ve got it made!
George W Whitehead
On April 18, 2009 at 3:47 pm
I understand what Mrs M is saying. Another thought, what qualifies someone as a best friend, shouldn’t all friends be equal? This isn’t a glib statement, I have never thought of nominating any of my friends as ‘best’. Am I just a saddo? Are best friends peculiar to females? Do men have best friends? This is something I have never given a thought to before. By the way Mrs M, an excellent article.
KristinaM
On April 18, 2009 at 7:36 pm
Interesting story and question
Daisy Peasblossom
On April 21, 2009 at 10:33 pm
One hopes to be friends with one’s spouse…but also a great deal more than that. good points
CutestPrincess
On May 9, 2009 at 5:25 am
this so so true… nice work…
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