Biggest Turn-Offs for Men: Women, What Not to Do on a First Date

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In my last article Biggest Turn-Offs for Women–Men, What NOT to Do on a First Date, I explored the dating scene from the female perspective. This article looks at matters from the other side of the mirror.

While some men may engage in behaviors that turn women off, women also do things that convince men that the first date will definitely be the last.

First Date Turn-Offs for Men

1. A first date turn-off for a man can be the woman who makes him wait forever while she primps and preens. Making repeated trips to the restroom to comb your hair and fiddle with your appearance is a no-no. A guy doesn’t want to spend most of his date by himself–this kind of defeats the whole purpose! Especially if the man has been kind enough to pay for everything, give the poor fellow the pleasure of your company.
2. A man might feel overwhelmed if his date talks about a great range of topics in great detail. Women engage in verbal marathons all the time with other women, without batting an eye, but your poor date may find it hard going to try to keep track of all that information. A big turn-off can be simply the woman who offers too much information. Your date may feel that time spent around you would be too mentally exhausting.
   
   
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3. Dressing too provocatively. Yes, that’s right. A man who is looking for a potential partner, over a one-night stand, receives the wrong message. Clothes that shout “turn-on” also proclaim “temporary.” Women, there are decent guys out there who want someone for the longterm.
4. For some men, a first date turn-off can be the woman who asks personal questions too early in the game. Women may be more comfortable with emotional intimacy but should recognize that confidences may not come as easily for males. A man might want to get to know you better before sharing private information.
5.  Another first date turn-off is the woman who laments about her weight and spends the evening discussing how she plans to lose her flabby upper arms or that bulge around the middle. The guy may have thought she looked great initially but by the end of the evening, he may find himself doubting his first impression–or wanting a partner that has a better view of herself.
6. Another first date turn-off can be the hard-driving career woman who is glued to her cell-phone. Her date may feel that she is simply too busy to fit a partner into her lifestyle.
7. A sure-fire method to send a man running in horror is to latch on early in the game. The first date in not the time to say that you think you have feelings of love or that you think this relationship has real potential or is going somewhere. Give a man some breathing room and stay away from the heavies.
8. Women should avoid discussing finances, unless their date brings up the topic. A man might feel that a woman is more interested in how much he makes if she asks how much his car cost, how much he earns, etc. Men want to be valued for who they are, not just as a potential wage earner.
9. Are you a Negative Nelly? Most men want someone who is fun to be with, not someone who drags them down and leaves them feeling worse at the end of the evening. If you want to attract a man into your life, give some thought as to how attractive you really are–on all levels.
10. While each woman has her own particular style and there are no hard and fast rules, generally speaking, males like feminine-looking women. A woman who cares about her appearance, who dresses nicely, who smells good, is a woman who attracts her date’s attention. Many men appreciate female beauty–after all, that’s part of the attraction of the sexes. A woman who knows how to look like a woman may just find she is asked on a second date.

Women, if you want to attract a boyfriend or partner avoid these common first date turn-offs for men. Lay a good foundation and continue to be the pretty and engaging girl he first asked out.

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