Biggest Turn-Offs for Women: Men, What Not to Do on a First Date

The evening starts out wonderfully but then . . . things just fizzle out. You might be gung-ho but why is that beautiful woman turned off?

This article examines the biggest first date turn-offs for women. For guys hoping for a second date, learn what most women dislike and avoid it like the plague.

First Date Turn-Offs

1. Show up on time. It doesn’t set a good impression to be late. If you can’t execute the simplest task, she may wonder about your ability to handle bigger responsibilities.
2. Clean your car. A big turn off for women is having to crawl over empty food containers or greasy tools. While your tool collection might make you proud, most women aren’t remotely interested. What interests them, however, is someone who cares enough about appearances to take care of the interior of his car.
3. On the same note, do not try to impress her by detailing your car’s multiple features. The woman is interested in getting to know you, not your car. She will decide whether she wants a second date–not because she’s impressed by what kind of car you drive but based on whether she’s impressed with you.
4. This may seem obvious but make sure you show up clean. While you might like “cozy and comfortable,” if you don’t care about your appearance, it’s a safe bet she would be embarrassed to be seen with you.
5. Try to avoid staring at her body. In most cases, she wants someone who’s interested in a real relationship over someone who is just interested in sex.
6. Don’t discuss war movies or violent movies. Most women do not care for disturbing shows. Do not keep talking about the shows you watch. This sends a message that you’re a coach potato with limited interests. Whatever you do, do not discuss your old girlfriend and how nice she was. Do not discuss the many women who have wanted to date you. Rather than impressing her, this will turn her off. You will be viewed as either a braggart or a lothario.
7. One of the biggest turn-offs for women is a man who keeps talking about what a wonderful cook his mother was. This sends a message that what you are really looking for is a cook and bottle-washer. Busy women want romance and adventure not a heavier workload!
8. Avoid continually commenting about her appearance. While a compliment or two is appreciated, a guy that is too fixated on looks turns off women who are looking for someone who is interested in more than just surface beauty. She will view you as being shallow.
9. If she is swinging by your place to join you before you proceed elsewhere for your first date, make sure your apartment is clean. One of the first things a woman looks at is whether you are housebroken. An untidy apartment is a warning that you are “Mr. Messy,” someone who leaves a trail of debris in his wake. No modern woman wants to spend her time having to pick up after another adult, nor should she have to.
10. Avoid putting the moves on too soon. While you may be very attracted to her physically, most women want to get to know you better before taking things to the next level.

Women decide fairly rapidly whether you make the “future date” category or the “just friends” list. These first date turn-offs determine whether you make the grade. Put some effort into a first date and you may find she’s open to another.

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