Breakups: Dealing with The Mixed Emotions Afterwards
Lessons about breakups in relationships seems like old news. However, regardless of how well known the subject may be, people still have major problems when it comes to getting their emotions back on the right track.
This brings us to the next and final step: rediscovering ourselves. I’m amazed at how we can go through life learning about everybody and everything else . . . and in the end, know so little about ourselves. Indeed, I believe many relationships have ended simply because to begin with, one or both persons didn’t know enough about themselves. If we don’t know what truly interests us, then we won’t know what kind of goals we wish to achieve and what kind of life we’d ultimately desire. Consequently, we’ll be limited in our ability to choose a person we could learn to love if we don’t know our own hearts and minds. Each of us require different elements that are essential to our happiness and well-being so we must discover what this is and incorporate these essentials into our lives. It is only after we have lived with this knowledge that we’ll be able to choose a mate of similar character, ideals and goals.
None of this is easy — it seems we need to develop a “third eye” that watches what we do and how we do it. But the process of getting to know ourselves has to be tended to: it’s a process which should be developed when we are children and teenagers so that by the time we reach adulthood, this process has become second nature to us. Hopefully at that point, we’ll have learned well enough to look beyond ourselves, recognize that special someone when they cross our paths, and then concentrate on getting to know them!
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