Ladies and Gentleman, Boys and girls,

“recovering from a break up or divorce can sometimes appear to be more daunting than coping with the loss of a loved one” -Ristina Re La Cal (psychologist)

We have all been in that situation where we think “i cant continue this relationship!”. However we are all guilty of dodging a break-up out of guilt and because we “don’t want to hurt their feelings”. Expert Dr fisher says “Romantic love evolved to enable you to focus your energy on just one person at a time”, so then how are capable of being faithful when we are with someone out of guilt? Moreover, Love guru Ristina De La Cal says “Regardless of how much love may exist, how much time you have invested or anything else that you might use to justify staying in a relationship that isn’t living up to your expectations, nobody should ever have to settle for less!”. To everyone reading this article, breaking up with someone can break their heart, but staying with them can hurt them even more. To reduce the tears and suffering; perfect your break up technique; make break-ups easier for both of you!

For the clingy type:

I’m sure most of us, if not all, have experienced this type of partner. It is not my intent to criticise, though it is imminent that this type of breakup can be a long and tearful experience. Often, a clingy partner is often very weary of your affection to the opposite sex, this being to your friends or ex’s . this is not always the case, as your relationship may be grounded in solid trust cement, but it is still a very evident fact. So, when considering a break-up with this type, make sure you relieve his/her anxiety by taking special care of NOT extra attention to the opposite sex, for a couple of days previous. (This may be hard for some, as falling out of love may mark the moment for a new relationship). But trust me, its imperative , as he/she is less inclined to question whether your change of feelings was because of another person (this will benefit their confidence for the next relationship). As for the actual physical break-up, DO NOT break up over the phone. Make this a dignified event, invite them to lunch!

For the “I don’t care” type:

Often the gym junky, the one that’s full of them-self, or even the average person who wants attention. Be careful, these people can often get hurt deeply inside, but will never show it. It is important to not sound derogatory (to talk down on), they will hate this type of treatment. So, my advise is to make the break-up more fast pace, so they can have some time alone afterwards (to be emotional). They will probably want to look as if it doesn’t bother them, let them do this! if it will mean you can be friends afterwards, its worth it!

For the emotional type:

People will often stay with this type longer, fearful of hurting their feelings in a break-up. but unfortunately it’s harder for the both of you if you stay together, as i have previously stated. i suggest a break-up in a familiar place, somewhere that is not in the eye of the public (in your living room perhaps?). This way, both of you can feel more comfortable if he/she begins to cry, or fills the room with emotion. Its important that you both feel comfortable, so you can be honest

Remember, break-ups are hard, but not breaking-up from guilt is harder!

If anyone has another type they would like me to add, comment with you suggestions

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