Bringing Back the Passion

Anyone who is married with kids understands what it is like to lose the passion between you and your partner. Working different schedules, overactive schedules, stress, and working around the kids can drain the passion right out of the relationship. Being a parent, an employee, and many other positions a person fills can lead you down the road of no more passion, yet it doesn’t have to stay that way.

First look at what the problem is. Is there not enough time? Is schedules getting in the way? Are you to tired even if you have the time? Knowing what the problem is gives you a starting point at finding a solution to the problem. If it is time or to many other things, you need to make time and energy for it because passion is a use it or lose it activity.

Next think about what you are doing yourself to contribute or not contribute to the problem. Are you finding yourself to tired at the end of the day or are you losing your interest? You can’t push your partner into making changes, but you can make changes to your own actions. One way to help this situation if you are a woman, remember that visual stimulation will help your partner.

Once you find the problem and have solutions to the problem, you need to make a new commitment to move it up the priority list. Take the steps to make the necessary changes in order for it to happen. Just recognizing isn’t enough, you have to make the commitment to the problem and take the steps to change it.

Also, give yourself permission to get what you want to be satisfied too. If you are just focused on making sure your partner is satisfied, while placing your own satisfaction on the back burner, you won’t have an interest in any passion. It will begin to feel like a duty or chore rather then a pleasurable activity. This will just add to the problem instead of curing the problem.

Talk about the situation with your partner. Pick a good time to talk about the problem. Without a good time to have a good conversation will defeat the purpose of talking in the first place. Talk about the problem you are having and the solution you have that might help. It might be a good possibility that your partner has their own solutions to the problem. If your partner doesn’t want to talk about the problem, then encourage them to think about the situation and to come talk when they are ready.

Next you don’t want to complain about it, especially if you a man. Woman take these complaints personally, and whether you are a woman or a man it can hurt the problem by adding to the situation rather then fixing it. Complaining takes the fun out of it and you won’t be able to find the passion.

Lastly, be creative in passion. Find new ways to find passion whether in the moment or leading up the moment. This will help bring fun back into passion. Seek books or articles for creative ideas to help you find the creative side of passion.

Bringing passion back into your life isn’t something that is impossible, but will need to make the decision to work on it to bring it back into your life. Remember to patient and plan together. Work on the solutions you have come up with and just maybe you might find more passion in your relationship then you had in the beginning.