Comments on: Can Age Gap Relationships Work?

By: VivienneW

VivienneW — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 16:52:04 +0000

I am a 42 year old woman and my man is 26. 16 years difference and there isnt a day goes by that I wonder what the hell am I doing. Its been going on for nearly 3 years now but I love him. I also think its a lot more noticeable if the woman is older. If the man is older, society is more acceptable to that. we both find it hard and we dont really socialise at all and it gets to me and I have tried to get out it but always goes back. Im very confused but we love each other\\\’s company and I feel so comfortable with him. We just dont have much of a life. Thats a problem. Im all over the place.

By: kerry

kerry — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 16:33:44 +0000

im im 21 now my boyfrend is 40 we have been together 2 and a half years and have two kids together….. we met because his daughter was my best frend which some people find bad but she has always been fine with it so im not worried what people think anymore…. i would say it is harder being in a age gap relationship but if u love each other it will work…

By: Carrie

Carrie — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 03:16:32 +0000

i’m getting into a relationship with a guy of 31. He’s 13 years older than me. I’m not interested in anyone my age, i find them immature and just plain annoying. Is it really so bad? Its hard, because he works with my Dad, every so often. People find it wrong. Its so bad, the things they say about me.

By: Tiffany

Tiffany — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 00:40:44 +0000

I got a good one. I am 20 and my guy is 46. He has two kids ages 26 and 6. Things can be difficult and we have been through a lot in a short 6 months but I think it is completely worth it. We’ll be getting married and starting a family within a year if all goes well. Its so nice to hear about other coulples with large age differences. I get so tired of the negativity towards it. If it makes you happy that is all that matters.

By: Hill

Hill — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 00:44:57 +0000

I’m nearly 20 and have been in love with my 35-year-old boyfriend for over a year now – my family is petrified of the age difference, but I feel very secure in my relationship with him. He’s never been married before and all his past relationships have been serious but never got to the point where he felt he should marry. He’s mature, an intellectual equal, and he and I share so many goals and passions. True, it’ll be hard down the road when I have to spend the last fifteen or so years of my life alone, but between now and then we’ll have a loving, constructive marriage.

By: Dee

Dee — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 13:37:14 +0000

I think it has more to do with the character of the person than the age gap. Ladies, ask yourselves why a man is not having successful relationships with women his own age. Teens and twenties often can’t spot the warning signs of an immature, controlling man. I’m sure there are some great older guys out there, but I would investigate the reasoning behind their singleness.

I’ve seen divorced jerks marry someone 10 years younger because a younger women is naive compared to 30+. The younger women don’t even realize that they are being treated badly until 10 years down the line when they have given these guys their best years.

By: angie

angie — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 11:37:47 +0000

I have been with my partner who is 16 years older than me for 8 years and i wouldn’t be without him, we are very happy together and have so much in common. I find men of my age (42) immature, but then i have a much older outlook than most of my age which is probably why we get on so well. We are planning to get married next year which is something we both never expected to do but are very happy. I know that my partner loves me and will always be true, i feel very protected and safe being with and know that nothing can ever hurt me whilst we are together, i love being together at the end of our working day.
I am sure that we will always be together, the only thing i am dreading is that he is likely to die before me and i’m not sure i will cope with that.

By: RAL

RAL — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 18:01:02 +0000

Obviously age is not in itself the issue. The generationgap in terms of thought process is a big part. The “generation me” members look at somethings that a “baby boomer” would consider to be an issue. These things cause hurts and my be imperceptible to the other party. The key is communication and trust … that will, I believe, help any couple survive anything. Breach the trust, and its a very long road back … if ever!

By: Pudge

Pudge — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 17:05:18 +0000

Angel:
It is so refreshing to read a comment that is so upbeat and honest. I, too, was a little reluctant to discuss our ages at first. Of course, we have quite a few years more between us than you and your beau. But eventually, that reluctance went away and now I don’t even realize that we have an age difference. I’m aware of it, but it’s not foremost in my mind. Just our free we are with each other. Work was the biggest area of criticism for me as well, but you can’t let others dictate your happiness. Hopefully, your families get along and your parents like him and his parents like you. That will make things easier in the long run. But if not, don’t worry. If it’s true love, it will always prevail.

By: Angel

Angel — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 23:55:55 +0000

I feel so happy reading some of your comments!
Im 22 and Im engaged to a 37 yr old guy with 2 kids (8&12)
I am the happiest women ever.. I love our relationship.. We’re so happy and in love, he means the world to me and I wouldn’t swap him for the world!!
Sometimes (like at work!) I do get shy about people asking about him and asking who Im marrying.. and how old.. I get so shy when I tell them, but why should it matter? I’m in love – the age gap shouldn’t be a problem… its not for me so why should other people question it..!
.. I’ll be marrying him in about 2 yrs hopefully (saving time!!)