Comments on: Can Age Gap Relationships Work? http://socyberty.com/relationships/can-age-gap-relationships-work/ Sun, 22 Nov 2009 23:30:43 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Dee http://socyberty.com/relationships/can-age-gap-relationships-work/comment-page-1/#comment-182762 Dee Fri, 30 Oct 2009 13:37:14 +0000 http://socyberty.com/relationships/can-age-gap-relationships-work/#comment-182762 I think it has more to do with the character of the person than the age gap. Ladies, ask yourselves why a man is not having successful relationships with women his own age. Teens and twenties often can't spot the warning signs of an immature, controlling man. I'm sure there are some great older guys out there, but I would investigate the reasoning behind their singleness. I've seen divorced jerks marry someone 10 years younger because a younger women is naive compared to 30+. The younger women don't even realize that they are being treated badly until 10 years down the line when they have given these guys their best years. I think it has more to do with the character of the person than the age gap. Ladies, ask yourselves why a man is not having successful relationships with women his own age. Teens and twenties often can’t spot the warning signs of an immature, controlling man. I’m sure there are some great older guys out there, but I would investigate the reasoning behind their singleness.

I’ve seen divorced jerks marry someone 10 years younger because a younger women is naive compared to 30+. The younger women don’t even realize that they are being treated badly until 10 years down the line when they have given these guys their best years.

]]> By: angie http://socyberty.com/relationships/can-age-gap-relationships-work/comment-page-1/#comment-166289 angie Wed, 30 Sep 2009 11:37:47 +0000 http://socyberty.com/relationships/can-age-gap-relationships-work/#comment-166289 I have been with my partner who is 16 years older than me for 8 years and i wouldn't be without him, we are very happy together and have so much in common. I find men of my age (42) immature, but then i have a much older outlook than most of my age which is probably why we get on so well. We are planning to get married next year which is something we both never expected to do but are very happy. I know that my partner loves me and will always be true, i feel very protected and safe being with and know that nothing can ever hurt me whilst we are together, i love being together at the end of our working day. I am sure that we will always be together, the only thing i am dreading is that he is likely to die before me and i'm not sure i will cope with that. I have been with my partner who is 16 years older than me for 8 years and i wouldn’t be without him, we are very happy together and have so much in common. I find men of my age (42) immature, but then i have a much older outlook than most of my age which is probably why we get on so well. We are planning to get married next year which is something we both never expected to do but are very happy. I know that my partner loves me and will always be true, i feel very protected and safe being with and know that nothing can ever hurt me whilst we are together, i love being together at the end of our working day.
I am sure that we will always be together, the only thing i am dreading is that he is likely to die before me and i’m not sure i will cope with that.

]]> By: RAL http://socyberty.com/relationships/can-age-gap-relationships-work/comment-page-1/#comment-30705 RAL Tue, 07 Jul 2009 18:01:02 +0000 http://socyberty.com/relationships/can-age-gap-relationships-work/#comment-30705 Obviously age is not in itself the issue. The generationgap in terms of thought process is a big part. The "generation me" members look at somethings that a "baby boomer" would consider to be an issue. These things cause hurts and my be imperceptible to the other party. The key is communication and trust ... that will, I believe, help any couple survive anything. Breach the trust, and its a very long road back ... if ever! Obviously age is not in itself the issue. The generationgap in terms of thought process is a big part. The “generation me” members look at somethings that a “baby boomer” would consider to be an issue. These things cause hurts and my be imperceptible to the other party. The key is communication and trust … that will, I believe, help any couple survive anything. Breach the trust, and its a very long road back … if ever!

]]> By: Pudge http://socyberty.com/relationships/can-age-gap-relationships-work/comment-page-1/#comment-30703 Pudge Tue, 30 Jun 2009 17:05:18 +0000 http://socyberty.com/relationships/can-age-gap-relationships-work/#comment-30703 Angel:<br /> It is so refreshing to read a comment that is so upbeat and honest. I, too, was a little reluctant to discuss our ages at first. Of course, we have quite a few years more between us than you and your beau. But eventually, that reluctance went away and now I don't even realize that we have an age difference. I'm aware of it, but it's not foremost in my mind. Just our free we are with each other. Work was the biggest area of criticism for me as well, but you can't let others dictate your happiness. Hopefully, your families get along and your parents like him and his parents like you. That will make things easier in the long run. But if not, don't worry. If it's true love, it will always prevail. :) Angel:
It is so refreshing to read a comment that is so upbeat and honest. I, too, was a little reluctant to discuss our ages at first. Of course, we have quite a few years more between us than you and your beau. But eventually, that reluctance went away and now I don’t even realize that we have an age difference. I’m aware of it, but it’s not foremost in my mind. Just our free we are with each other. Work was the biggest area of criticism for me as well, but you can’t let others dictate your happiness. Hopefully, your families get along and your parents like him and his parents like you. That will make things easier in the long run. But if not, don’t worry. If it’s true love, it will always prevail. :)

]]> By: Angel http://socyberty.com/relationships/can-age-gap-relationships-work/comment-page-1/#comment-30701 Angel Sat, 27 Jun 2009 23:55:55 +0000 http://socyberty.com/relationships/can-age-gap-relationships-work/#comment-30701 I feel so happy reading some of your comments! <br /> Im 22 and Im engaged to a 37 yr old guy with 2 kids (8&12)<br /> I am the happiest women ever.. I love our relationship.. We're so happy and in love, he means the world to me and I wouldn't swap him for the world!! <br /> Sometimes (like at work!) I do get shy about people asking about him and asking who Im marrying.. and how old.. I get so shy when I tell them, but why should it matter? I'm in love - the age gap shouldn't be a problem... its not for me so why should other people question it..!<br /> .. I'll be marrying him in about 2 yrs hopefully (saving time!!) I feel so happy reading some of your comments!
Im 22 and Im engaged to a 37 yr old guy with 2 kids (8&12)
I am the happiest women ever.. I love our relationship.. We’re so happy and in love, he means the world to me and I wouldn’t swap him for the world!!
Sometimes (like at work!) I do get shy about people asking about him and asking who Im marrying.. and how old.. I get so shy when I tell them, but why should it matter? I’m in love – the age gap shouldn’t be a problem… its not for me so why should other people question it..!
.. I’ll be marrying him in about 2 yrs hopefully (saving time!!)

]]> By: bridie http://socyberty.com/relationships/can-age-gap-relationships-work/comment-page-1/#comment-30699 bridie Fri, 19 Jun 2009 15:16:13 +0000 http://socyberty.com/relationships/can-age-gap-relationships-work/#comment-30699 best of luck pudge hope everything goes well im not well these days and hes minding me and minding our kids good luck best of luck pudge hope everything goes well im not well these days and hes minding me and minding our kids good luck

]]> By: bridie http://socyberty.com/relationships/can-age-gap-relationships-work/comment-page-1/#comment-30697 bridie Fri, 05 Jun 2009 12:55:44 +0000 http://socyberty.com/relationships/can-age-gap-relationships-work/#comment-30697 just goin back to your last comment buck the trend<br /> have you been there done that just curious, or are you another one of those critics . just goin back to your last comment buck the trend
have you been there done that just curious, or are you another one of those critics .

]]> By: Buck the trend http://socyberty.com/relationships/can-age-gap-relationships-work/comment-page-1/#comment-30695 Buck the trend Thu, 04 Jun 2009 21:21:41 +0000 http://socyberty.com/relationships/can-age-gap-relationships-work/#comment-30695 Relationships are hard enough, don't do it. The younger person ends up leaving sooner or later. Relationships are hard enough, don’t do it. The younger person ends up leaving sooner or later.

]]> By: maria http://socyberty.com/relationships/can-age-gap-relationships-work/comment-page-1/#comment-30693 maria Wed, 03 Jun 2009 17:06:52 +0000 http://socyberty.com/relationships/can-age-gap-relationships-work/#comment-30693 I'm 26 and he's 63. And i know people see it as disgusting! Its weird because we have alot in common, and just fits with each other. he was not on my list but to my surprise he's everything i love in a man. Maybe because he's mature enough to understand the world. And he's funny, it tickles me when he's starting to learn the internet, very eager to know everything and it was cute to teach him as he learn fast! We argue like we don't have any age gap just like a "normal" couple. I think only people who are involve with age gap relationship will understand whats it about, what the relationship is like. I too thought different age relationship is just not cool in public eye..until it hits me...so i'm eating my words.haha..but thats how it is. I’m 26 and he’s 63. And i know people see it as disgusting! Its weird because we have alot in common, and just fits with each other. he was not on my list but to my surprise he’s everything i love in a man. Maybe because he’s mature enough to understand the world. And he’s funny, it tickles me when he’s starting to learn the internet, very eager to know everything and it was cute to teach him as he learn fast! We argue like we don’t have any age gap just like a “normal” couple. I think only people who are involve with age gap relationship will understand whats it about, what the relationship is like. I too thought different age relationship is just not cool in public eye..until it hits me…so i’m eating my words.haha..but thats how it is.

]]> By: Jase http://socyberty.com/relationships/can-age-gap-relationships-work/comment-page-1/#comment-30691 Jase Tue, 02 Jun 2009 12:59:48 +0000 http://socyberty.com/relationships/can-age-gap-relationships-work/#comment-30691 I am 26 and my partner is 16, we have to go through a lot of criticism about our relationship, people frequently telling us it won’t work or us being together is disgusting. I have found that has only made our relationship stronger, it was not like we meet and jumped at the chance to be together, it took 3 years before I could legally kiss her and honestly it was well worth the wait, I have never meet anyone as mature or someone I feel I can love as much as my beautiful cat. I am 26 and my partner is 16, we have to go through a lot of criticism about our relationship, people frequently telling us it won’t work or us being together is disgusting. I have found that has only made our relationship stronger, it was not like we meet and jumped at the chance to be together, it took 3 years before I could legally kiss her and honestly it was well worth the wait, I have never meet anyone as mature or someone I feel I can love as much as my beautiful cat.

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