Career Success and Family Misery

When somebody is a loser, is he or she a loser in everything? Certainly not! While there are many people who fail everything they start, there is a special breed of losers – those who are successful in their career but are tied in an incredibly miserable personal relationship. But wait, how is it possible to have the personal qualities necessary to make a successful career and at the same time to be unable to escape from the trap of an unhappy relationship? Isn’t it easier to escape from an unhappy relationship than to become a first class sportsman, or financial analyst, or a lawyer?

Is It So Difficult to Terminate an Unhappy Relationship?

It seems that it is. Or at least for some people. Sometimes people are even happy with what they’ve got because they think that having a bad relationship is more than not having any. Yes, if your current partner is the only one on Earth whom you can attract and you know that you have no chance to find somebody better, then you’ve got what you deserve. And it is all your fault, if you are happy with the family misery you are in and do not take whatsoever attempts to break free.

However, more often than not one is perfectly aware of the unhappy relationship he or she is tied into but simply doesn’t have the drive to terminate it, even if it is an abusive relationship. Kids and property are often named as excuses for staying in an unhappy relationship, though the real reason is one’s indecisiveness and lack of action to achieve the goal of being free. A successful career is enough and the loser is ready to put up with the unhappy relationship.

Why Do Such Losers Have a Successful Career?

It is great if you are tolerant to your partner but tolerance to your partner is not the same as obedience. The longer you stay in an unhappy relationship, the deeper you drown. You might have learned at work that you can achieve “success” through discipline and obedience, rather than through talent and brains. Actually, it is the people, who have achieved career success through being servile rather than being talented, who stand the family misery and unhappy relationships in general. Of course, there are exceptions but they simply confirm the rule.

Obedience is one explanation to why people put up with unhappy relationships. In some cultures obedience is considered a great virtue – for both men and women. People are taught to bear with what life serves them and not to object. Obedience is rewarded – in the same way dogs are given some food for performing the tricks to please their masters.

There is one more, very prosaic reason why losers in an unhappy relationship are successful at work – they spend more time in the office because they feel better there than at home. To the average boss working overtime looks like devotion to the company, not like an escape from home. While many professionals have to balance between work and love, family losers don’t have this problem – the less time they have for their families, the better! Going to the office (but who says performing some actual work there?) is a credible excuse for staying away from home!

So, one really starts to wonder if career success is something that is worth achieving! Of course it is but not when it is accompanied by an unhappy relationship at home. Achieving real career success and having a happy family is the perfect combination to strive for!