Catching Cheaters

You would probably want to know if someone cheated on you and yet sometimes we are bound by situations where we don’t want to know because we don’t want to lose our best friends. Still if the best friend did that, you could think he /she is also capable of doing things behind your back. Love is a strange beast and real friends are few. I would like to think that it would be better not to know what happens between couples, that is their concern.

So there are situations where when the information of cheating is disclosed the person denies the adventure and the other party does not believe you. You risk losing those friends. If that is the case maybe they were meant to be lost because they could not be truthful about themselves to you so why value their friendship in the first place? I guess today the issue is in understanding friendship and how it really works not the issues of suspecting foul play or cheating among friends.

I had a friend who had a history of cheating before he met his wife. We parted ways because he could not keep some personal information to himself and was only there to brag at the others expense. Had I continued the friendship, I would not have gotten involved because of the denial ritual mentioned above and also because the woman is most likely aware of her husband’s adventures anyway.

Seeing all this and wanting to get involved would only only add fuel to the fire that breaks friendships, so one has to ask himself what the level of friendship is before taking in any action. One has to ask himself what they hope to achieve and what the outcome is likely to be. If you have a friend that is trusting they might believe your accusation but if not you risk being dubbed invasive. If you are seen as competitive than your friend might only see you as wanting a piece of the action or wanting to break up the affair.