You have been together for months to a year to more months to added extra years and then. . .there are pieces to pick up and you are back into the dating game. Depending on your age bracket, we all do things differently. Women and Men in their 20’s may find it easy to date, find that someone special and spend that quality time with each other. If a break up happens, they can easily get back into the game.

Women and men in their 30’s may have their life together (if not married), successful, enjoying their lives and just meeting other people. They won’t be forced to get into anything too serious unless they really want to be. Think about it this way: What is dating? Dating is when a person can choose who he or she wants to go out with and it is not exclusive. He or she can go out with one person one night and another person the next night and a third person the next night. I read someone say that going out once is not a date. Then how about people change the name of going out the very first time to “meet up”? If the two like each other, and make plans to go out the second time, then you can call it a date.

Women and men in their 40’s are pretty much set in their ways in how they wan to date or see people. They are free to see whom they want because they are experienced in what they want. People in their 40’s may find it hard to date. At that age, a percentage of men are looking at the younger generation to date. Not only that, but also they seem to like women who fit the bill of the model type. Granted, us big girls do have some advantage where there are men who do love the bigger version of the model type. (i.e. long hair, light skinned, petite.) We all gain weight. Women are a bit different. We love you because we see something in you (men) that other people don’t or can’t see or you can’t see in yourselves.

Here is the real deal. There is nothing like a 50 year old man or woman; especially if you keep yourselves looking and feeling good where people try to guess your age. That’s a very good feeling isn’t it? Now! When you are at that age and there is no one around to keep you company, and you desire to date, how do you go about picking up the pieces to start dating again? That’s only if you want to, get yourself together by treating yourself first to a spa, exercise, dye your hair, whiten your teeth, purchase a new outfit and take yourself to dinner. Of course, unless you have the money, you can’t do that all in one day. I’m not saying that the other age brackets can’t do the same. That 50 age bracket, probably doesn’t have that much time on their hands to think about pampering themselves. Plus you have to be bold enough to make that change and start over.

With all ages, and you are getting out of a relationship, you must maintain a certain kind of inner peace to move on from what may have been a bad relationship after dating for so long. It truly is scary to pick up the pieces and start dating again. For some, just think of what you were doing with your life and your world before you started dating. Get back to self, get back to life and enjoy you, and when that is done, other people will see things in you that you do not see in yourself. That is when you truly know that you have made a clean break from the old you. Your plate is no longer full or dirty.