Common Sense

 Let’s face it. Most people aren’t very good with this – especially in the context of their relationships. How often do you find yourself wondering why that girl didn’t come home with you at the end of the night? How often do you find yourself wondering if that special person likes you or not? Here are some solutions that you may not have thought of. They’re not easy, but you have my personal guarantee that you will be happier after you try a few of these exercises.

There is only one pre-requisite to these things. You need to be honest with yourself, if nobody else. This will not work if you’re lying to yourself. Of course, determining your own level of self-deceit is a personal journey, but just considering the possibility that you may not be seeing things clearly is the first part of the battle.

Get a Hobby

This has nothing to do with being more attractive to the opposite sex. In fact, if that’s the reason you get into something, stop for a second, chastise yourself, and stop doing what you’re doing.  Find something that you love doing for the sake of doing it. Forget for a second how cool you may or may not look doing it or how much money this activity may get you. If you do something and leave that experience happier for having just simply done that activity you have found what 99.9% of people never find in their lives. Jump into this thing, let it become a part of your personality (as it will naturally just for the time you will hopefully allow yourself to spend doing it). Once this is done, you might find that you’re not so concerned with women or men and you might breathe a little easier in your next high-romance situation and maybe it’ll go a bit smoother. If not, you’ll always have your favorite hobby.

Exercise

Of course you should be happy with the way you are, this isn’t something that’s up for debate. What is up for debate is why you might be working out, or why you might not be. Being healthy is part-in-parcel to being happy. This should be the first reason anybody decides to work out unless there are extenuating circumstances. If you feel unhappy – run. Run around the block, your house, your yard, or your whatever. The point is not that your stomach will suddenly erupt into having a 6-pack. That’s not the point at all; the point is being active and taking joy in being active. This is a philosophical exercise. Get involved in your own life. You never know, you may find some self-confidence.

Learn to Read the Writing on the Wall

If somebody’s not interested in your close friend and they don’t know it, you know it right away. You may humor them, as your friends may be humoring you, to make them feel better and that’s totally fine. The goal is to be able to see when this is happening to you. Take a step back, examine things coolly in your head for a moment, and face facts.  Don’t wonder why, and don’t try to change to be more attractive on a personal level – that defeats the purpose of all this advice, to just find your happy place in your life. If you find yourself on a cold streak with girls/guys whom you thought were into you. This is the advice for you

If not…

Man Up

You will never find what you’re looking for if you don’t go out and try. Just do it. Get out there, make your shitty move. If it doesn’t work: kudos for trying. You are now one step ahead of most people. Girls will also find that showing a little, tactful interest will work wonders, as opposed to just waiting for said guy to approach you. Your moves will get better the more you get out there.

And I suppose this would be the most important piece of advice, just in general: