Communication of Love Language with Your Spouse

by Wai Chong Mak in Relationships, April 6, 2008

The Five Love Languages in Gary Chapman’s book refer to loving words, kind action, quality time, thoughtful presents, physical affection. It is helpful to understand and communicate love languages to our spouse to strengthen the marital relationship. The following are the steps to communicate love languages.

Affirmation

We say thank you to your spouse as a way to express your love language. It is important to acknowledge the importance of expressing love language in your spouse’s unique way. For instance, I affirm my husband’s kind act of marketing and taking care of children as his way to show his love to me.
Observe or Find Out Your Spouse’s Primary Love Language

What is it that makes my spouse feel most loved? We can find out through conservation and deliberate and careful observation.
Act Accordingly

After we find out the love language, we need to act accordingly to make your spouse feel most loved. It needs time to practice so we can master another love language. My husband’s preferred love language is affirmation. I make a conscious effort to affirm him to make him feel loved. I said to him, “thanks for playing with the sons, you make them happy.”
Communicate Your Preferred Love Language

Our love languages are different from our spouse. We cannot assume and expect others to know what we want. Therefore, we can communicate with our spouse about our needs. Therefore, we can communicate with each other effectively.

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I said to my husband, “I enjoyed the quality time, for example dining out with him. It means a lot for me.” My husband and I committed to attend Marriage Encounter Group and dating each other monthly. As a result, we strengthen our marital relationship.

In conclusion, love involves action to support each other unconditionally. The love languages need to practice so you master them. You need to find out the primary love language of spouse first and act accordingly. Then, you can communicate your needs with your partner. Through commitment, communication and practice of love languages with your spouse, you can revitalize your marital relationship. From now on, practice and communicate love languages, you will experience a long-lasting relationship. A loving and caring marital relationship is also a good foundation for parenting.