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Coping with Love Sickness

What is love sickness? Humans suffer for love, and it’s all about the high.

“I was nauseous and tingly all over.I was either in love or I had smallpox.”
- Woody Allen

Symptoms of love sickness feel like the flu, or more appropriately, mental illness. Symptoms may include:

  • mood swings
  • mania – elevated mood, inflated self-esteem; high energy, delusions
  • depression – bouts of crying, lethargy, melancholy/grief; thoughts of suicide
  • insomnia
  • loss of appetite; weight loss
  • nausea and digestive disorders
  • headache, dizziness
  • obsession and compulsive behavior – preoccupation with loved one; constantly checking for messages; writing the loved one’s name repeatedly; overwhelming thoughts of loved one
  • urgent sexual desire – an “itch”
  • loss of concentration – absent-mindedness, disorientation, daydreaming
  • deep gut pain and general malaise

According to Dr. Alex Gardner, a Glasgow clinical psychologist, a person can die of a broken heart. Gardner says,

“You get into a state of despair and hopelessness. Hopelessness is like a pit … when you are in it, it is very hard to get out.

You have no vision and there is no way forward that you can see. You find yourself in such a state of despair that you just curl up and die.”

People in any stage of love (lust, romantic or long-term) can experience love sickness.

“The sweetest joy,the wildest woe is love.”

- Pearl Bailey (1918-1990), American singer/actress

Love and Brain Chemistry

When a person falls in love, a series of chemical changes happen in the brain. The pleasure of love comes from dopamine, the body’s pleasure chemical; and phenylethylamine, the “love drug” found in chocolate. The brain also releases an energy booster, norepinephrine.

Humans naturally crave the dopamine high. It’s part of the reward system set up in the brain, to encourage humans to do the tasks needed for survival. The brain releases a shot of dopamine whenever we eat, drink or have sex.

Phenylethylamine (PEA) enhances the flow of information between nerve cells. PEA causes the pleasure rush from chocolate, and is part of love’s euphoria. When lovers part, their PEA levels plummet.

Falling in love also elevates levels of norepinephrine. Norepinephrine stimulates the production of adrenalin.

This chemical cocktail creates the high of love. The hormones oxytocin and vasopressin, released during love and sex, create a sensory image map of the loved one. The brain associates the beloved with sensual pleasure, and releases its chemical high at the sight, smell, sound, taste or touch of the loved one.

Love operates from the ventral pallidum, or pleasure center of the brain. When a potential mate triggers a feeling of pleasure, humans want more where that came from. The ventral pallidum is also responsible for addiction. With the help of a few hormones, humans become addicted to their loved ones.

Much like a drug addict deprived of a fix, the lovesick person suffers withdrawal when the loved one is gone.

Coping with Love Sickness

The only cure for love sickness is time.

If the absent lover returns, so do the pleasure chemicals. If the relationship has ended, the mind and body need time to go through withdrawal, grief and healing.

Love sickness is common during the first two stages of love. If the relationship moves into the final, long-term stage, the symptoms disappear on their own.

Gradually, the brain replaces phenylethylamine with endorphins that give a more stable feeling of pleasure. It weans itself from the addiction. As the relationship grows, the afflicted person builds up a resistance to dopamine. The brain continues to deliver the pleasure chemical, but without the lovesick intensity.

This doesn’t mean love has vanished. The pleasures remain, but emotions are calmer. At this stage, some lovers develop a secure emotional bond, but others run into problems. They may sabotage good relationships because they crave the euphoria of new love. Or, they may fail to end bad relationships. Even bad ones have their highs.

Love Sickness Survival Tips

Eat

Love uses a lot of energy. The body deals better with stress if it’s fed. Fruit and honey elevate mood. Bread settles a queasy stomach.

Create

Release pent-up energy by doing something active or creative. Write, clean the kitchen, walk. Keep busy.

Cry

A good cry helps clear the head and reduce the pressure. Let the emotions out.

Learn

Take time for self-examination. Fear and insecurity increase the misery of love sickness. Learn about love. Learn about yourself. Learn about loving yourself first.

If the relationship has ended, let yourself grieve. If the relationship is ongoing and destructive, take steps to end it. Not all relationships are meant to be.

If the relationship is new, give it time.

Love sickness is a natural but traumatic condition. There’s no magic manual, and love isn’t easy. Be kind to yourself, and let nature run its course. True love survives, and grows strong.

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  1. Ben

    On December 31, 2008 at 8:36 am


    easier than it sounds, but helpful regardless.

  2. meg

    On January 1, 2009 at 9:39 pm


    time cant be the only cure. This is driving me insane i am so developing ocd due to this guy.

  3. Anonymous

    On January 4, 2009 at 10:32 pm


    yup… i got it bad :’(

  4. Ed

    On January 7, 2009 at 2:32 am


    I was starting to worry that my new relationship anxiety was something wrong with me but Im glad this term is associated whith my situation. I think time helps above all and having a strong enough stomache to deal with the emotional highs and lows of dealing with the anxiety. Lets hope I can survive a month or two before it all calms down.

  5. AD

    On January 15, 2009 at 5:33 am


    This is all new to me…I’m married to a great guy, but have found that my feelings/thoughts are preoccupied with someone else. I am hardly able to function and feel so much guilt..help!

  6. dave

    On January 22, 2009 at 7:48 am


    im all to this to im in love with a married woman who is trying for a baby with her husband gut is seeing me at the same time. i am also married with 2 children and am unable to give her what she want cause ive been doctored, we so want to be together but she really needs a baby what can i do. its driving me mad, i so want her

  7. DJJ

    On January 25, 2009 at 1:01 am


    Yea, faling in love feels great after horrible relationships. It is best to keep a journal…or others might start worrying you are obsessed. I know I am obsessed and have to start doing that or my friends ar going to not answer my call. I am actully thinking by the sounds of these symptoms that he is going through the same things.

  8. Aslan

    On January 26, 2009 at 6:45 am


    i am only young and i have had 1 girlfriend before… now i have met the most amazing girl who is crazy for me.. but its killing me for weeks ive been ill and i miss her like anything – i am not a big one for crying but its all i seem to be doing atm i have been to ill for college and work the only time im well is when im with her… i dunno how to deal with it

  9. Suyura

    On January 26, 2009 at 7:50 pm


    Gosh, I never really knew about this. I have most of the symptoms. I miss my girlfriend so much that I sometimes feel depression. It’s both our first relationship and I thought it was natural to be insecure, but I think I’m OCD. I’m hoarding everything she gives me. It can be a piece of paper and I’d fold it up and keep it in a safe place. I used to check her alot, but I forced myself to stop because I realized I have issues and am being extremely paranoid. I hope this phase is going to be over soon. It’s worrying her as well.

  10. Mia

    On February 16, 2009 at 12:03 pm


    AD, I am in the exact same situation. I feel ill when I think of leaving and hurting my best friend, my husband, and I feel ill when I think of losing the love of my life, who I just found out still loves me 10 years later. I want to cry, but my husband is always home! I want to be happy, but I can’t bear to hurt him, especially as he suffers from depression.

  11. Randy

    On February 20, 2009 at 1:41 pm


    Thanks for articles like the one above, they are of some comfort for those going through this ‘LOVESICKNESS’ I have lost the one woman who i truly loved. Ihave been going through hell for about 2 mos. We were together for 7 yrs. and it only took a few misplaced words to ruin everthing for us .I have never hurt like this before, may my faith and belief in GOD help me get through this.

  12. Cha Cha

    On February 20, 2009 at 7:04 pm


    I thought I was over this “sickness” until I ran into a certain person recently. The sickness returned and then some. I pray that time will soften the edges and restore peace. Thank you for giving an outlet to discuss this.

  13. TC

    On February 22, 2009 at 5:18 pm


    I’m going through this right now, although it has gotten better as the months have passed. I never opened up my heart before to anyone, and although it has hurt greatly some days, I’m so grateful that I have and continue to because I love my boyfriend very much! It will get better with time; I find that communication and prayer help immensely! I prayed to God for patience and He has given me that and my boyfriend wants me to talk to him about it; those two things help me so much! I pray that those of you going through it will make it through and get better; believe me, it will get better! God Bless!

  14. Anthony

    On March 9, 2009 at 5:02 pm


    I broke up with a woman I dated for a year 3 months ago. We wanted marriage and kids but her expectations of who ‘I should be’ never materialized and she grew upset with me at every turn. I finally had to end it, not that anything was broken, we just had different ideas of what we wanted the other to be like. Now that’s ok, that’s what dating is for. But she ended up seeing someone right away and they are inseparable. Her mission for kids and a family is more important than getting to know someone. I just feel that if you love someone that strongly, it would take some time to get over it. I didn’t plan on dating until I was thoroughly over the loss of a companion. The red flags from day one never went away. I’m sad, a bit melancholy, even my art and photography is suffering because I have absolutely no inspiration, I feel dead inside and restless. And I’m the one who ended it! I’m a sensitive Pisces type and it takes a lot of time for me to ‘get over things’. She says she still loves me, wants me a part of her life and be ‘friends’ and I would really like her new boyfriend. She doesn’t even know how mean and void of compassion that is. But that’s the way she was when we were dating, so it’s no surprise. It’s amazing how two-faced and forgetful some people are. Time is what always works, keeping in shape, eating well and planning lots of things with friends even though, all I want to do is curl up, cry and feel sory for myself. Pathetic I know, but hey, love hurts! I’m one of those nice guys but I don’t like bullies and will vent when I get hurt. I won’t let anyone dictate how I should live my life. That being said, it still hurts and even if we went back to the way it was, I wasn’t happy then. I just need to get out of this funk and start meeting other women. There’s someone out there and God has a plan. I just need to fully surrender to this and have faith that my path is to be revealed when it’s time. That requires a lot of hope and drinking my feelings away will NOT help! Stay focused and healthy and if I feel like crying, I won’t stop it. Thank you everyone!

  15. Mike

    On March 14, 2009 at 2:03 pm


    My heart goes out to all you. I tend to fall for women that I barely know. Its always the ones that are very outgoing, free spirted, and to a little extent wild. I recently had a night of passion with this person, and I never was given or felt such affection from a women. I know for sure that for her it was meaningless…of that I am sure. I do not understand how some people can give so so much emotion and walk away and forget it. I feel so pathetic because it is not like I loss a long term committed relationship. I barely knew her then the night of passion. It always happens to me with these type of girls. It locks me up. I would not wish the anxiety on my worst enemy. I feel a little better today. I wish could make these feel go away for you all because I know how you feel. Be strong everybody. I know…its hard. I wish there is some chat online so that we all could discuss our issues in real time. If anyone has ideas please post. I like to believe that we can create how we feel even though our brain chemistry is working against us. I try to think this way to help me cope. Bye and may you all find the strength.

  16. nlightz

    On March 16, 2009 at 5:56 am


    i’m a gay girl in love with my best friend who recently told me she might have feelings for me but shes not sure. at the same time she may like these 2 guys and i’m absolutely petrified of losing her and i feel like i’m goin insane. when i’m with her its fine cos i feel so close to her and we laugh and cuddle and stuff but when we’r apart i freak and can’t shake the feelings that i’m gonna lose her or that someone will come between us. i think we shud be together. i really wish we cud have a chance. i’v no idea what to do. its killing me.

  17. justin

    On March 29, 2009 at 10:11 am


    My personal opinion for the cure for lovesickness is to get your first kiss and or go on your first date with the one girl you love the most.I am in love with the girl who is like an angel to me.but, since she already has a boyfriend, it’s killing me to know that and i sometimes wonder if i’ll ever get my chance at happiness.the only thing i can do is put faith in god in hopes that i can cure my lovesickness and get my life back on the right road.but, only time will tell.

  18. yesi

    On March 30, 2009 at 1:48 am


    I’m in love with my boyfriend, I’ve gave everything to him, and I have also let go of many friends for him. I have reasons to believe that he is cheating on me. But I don’t know what to do,or how to do, what I should do. I fear never to find love in anyone else. I had dreamed of getting married and having a family with him. I truly hurts to have to let go of the person that I have loved so much. I don’t know how to deal with the depression, I feel that there is nothing better awaiting me. I feel that I shall live with this love sickness for the rest of my life :(

  19. barry

    On April 14, 2009 at 12:28 pm


    im inlove with my girlfriend, when were together it feels like nothing on earth can seperate us, but as soon as im away from her it feels as if my world crumbles and i start thinking about the stupidest things and thoughts of ending the relationship fills my head, but when we are together im so inlove i cant even see straight can anyone help a inlove guy out a bit?

  20. james

    On April 15, 2009 at 10:30 am


    hello all looks like all our situations suck.im married with 2 kids.i was at a bar when a stunning girl aproched me. she had a few to drink so i told her i should take her home nothing happend but we kept in touch.by the 3rd time id seen her we kissed but nothing else.she has 2 kids she makes me happy when im with her and when im not i feal like crap.she is 23yo im 30yo ther is no easy way out i think about her 24/7

  21. Sarah

    On April 25, 2009 at 10:31 pm


    I’ve been passionately single for almost two years after breaking up with a long-term boyfriend and now, it feels like, my whole world is crashing down…because I’ve met the most amazing guy and we are really in love with each other. I’m just so scared it wont work out, or he will stop loving me or that I’ll get too clingy in the relationship. I’m so used to being strong and not needing a man, now I’ve got one and I’m freaking out because I don’t have control over how I’m feeling. I know I just need to relax, cos it will all work out. If I’m single or with my boyfriend – it will all work out. Just relax and enjoy the ride. Easier said than done!

  22. Tyler

    On April 28, 2009 at 8:48 am


    To all of those feeling hurt and pain, especially those in a relationship, these feelings will eventually pass! It may take some time, but it will happen. I’m in a long distance relationship and there are days when the love feels less real, when I feel as if I like someone else simply b/c they are closer, or that I want to break it off b/c I simply can’t handle the distance. But, that is just strictly emotions and feelings and one simply cannot rely on those forever when you are in love. It is about commitment first and foremost and being strong enough and patient enough to see it through.

    Not only that, but you are emotionally vulnerable and very sensitive and it seems like ANYTHING can stir up your emotional distress and confusion. Believe me, I have and am going through it right now, but it is much better than it was over the fall. But, going through such things really allows you to see where the relationship is at and if the love is strong enough to survive and if you as a couple can as well. Don’t give up hope, IT WILL GET BETTER WITH TIME!

  23. Lee

    On May 1, 2009 at 5:56 pm


    I’ve tried all these … I feel better in the short term, but after that I’m back. I can’t get this guy off my brain for a whole day!

  24. Chilla

    On May 12, 2009 at 3:38 pm


    I was married for 13 years when my husband cheated on me two years ago and I tried to keep the marraige going but I couldn’t get the trust back or the feeling of not wanting him to kiss me or touch me after having someone else, so we separated last year and I recently filed for a divorce. I am now with someone else and have never been more in love…I feel sick when we’re apart and I can’t focus at work and we are on the phone all the time. I’ve never been in love like this and I need to focus!!!

  25. Samuel

    On May 20, 2009 at 8:52 am


    I’m sure everyone here knows how love sickness feels. The agony and pain one has to go through especially if you love your partner with all your heart. I’m going through most of the symptoms right now and its depressing. I hope we can get through these tough times. Good luck to us all.

  26. Sarah

    On May 21, 2009 at 9:30 pm


    I thought I must be crazy until I read this article and related posts. It is comforting to know that I am not alone. Stay strong, we will get through this everyone!

  27. Ouch

    On May 25, 2009 at 11:08 am


    Well it’s nice to see a lonely hearts club with so many members. I fell in love with a girl who tells me how she fantasized about me all the time before we hooked up. We’re both married to other people and have committed to ending those relationships, in large part do to our love for eachother.

    We used to both be obsessed with emailing, texting and talking to eachother constantly. she has started pulling back and I’m dying inside. She reassures me that she wants to be with me and is pursuing a divorce but I can’t believe the despair I feel since she stopped contacting me at least once every other day. A long weekend is torture. I have to say that I knew going into this that it could end up breaking my heart and believed that it was worth the risk. It may work out and be the love of my life and it may not. Not seeing her, touching or talking her hell. Well this post helped a wee bit. Good luck to all reading this and hurting.

  28. MATT

    On June 5, 2009 at 3:44 am


    WOW SO I’M NOT ALONE.I REALLY SYMPATHISE WITH YOU ALL.I MET THIS WOMAN AND WE BECAME FRIENDS AND I CANT GET HER OUT OF MY HEAD.WHEN WE ARE TOGETHER TIME GOES SO FAST AND I WANT TO REVELL IN THE TIME SHARED BUT AS SOON AS WE PART TIME STANDS STILL.I CANT SEEM TO THINK STRAIGHT,ALL NERVOUS AND A SENCE OF PANIC OVERWELMS ME UNTIL I SEE HER AGAIN.I HAVE TOLD HER HOW I FEEL TRYING TO CALM THE SITUATION BUT THAT DIDNT WORK.I SPOSE I JUST HAVE TO HANG IN THERE AND RIDE IT OUT LIKE THE REST OF US.I TRULY THINK THAT LIFE THROWS US A CHALLENGE ONCE AND A WHILE TO SEE HOW STRONG WE REALLY ARE,I AM A BIG FELLA AND I JOKE ABOUT BEING ABLE TO LIFT HEAVY THINGS BUT WHEN IT COMES TO THIS LOVESICKNESS BISSO I FEEL ALL WEAK AND SHY.WE WILL SURVIVE I KNOW THAT.HANG IN THERE GUYS WITH ALL THIS LOVE AROUND THE WORLD IS A GOOD PLACE.XX

  29. Stacy

    On June 7, 2009 at 2:09 pm


    I thought I was alone on this, but there’s a lot of people on here going through the same things. All I can say is time will heal your wounds. I know there will be days where you think things will never get better or you’ll never find somebody like him/her. But your wrong..things WILL start to look up and you’ll find somebody better. Like the saying goes, if you love someone let it go and if it comes back it’s meant to be. Remember one thing, if the relationship has ended and there is no more friendship.. best thing to do is keep your distance. I know your going to have the urge to text or call to see how there doing, maybe just to say hi or whatever..but don’t text/call anything. you don’t want to seem desperate and it shows to ‘them’ your ok. trust me.. I know. also, you can do way better than that. keep your head up high and prayer will help. Have faith in God and he will get you through this =D Good luck and Take Care.

  30. Lost

    On June 16, 2009 at 11:18 am


    My situation is similar to that of Mike (msg #15), but I got involved with a friend that I am just starting to get to know in one night of passion on vacation last week. He is not looking for a relationship. We just got home two days ago and I have not been able to stop thinking about him, cannot eat, or sleep. Feeling such anxiety. I know where he stands, but not sure how I am going to deal with these feelings right now. I am divorced with two kids. It will be hard to hang out with him.

  31. WOW

    On June 16, 2009 at 8:46 pm


    All I can say is this really sucks. I am going through a divorce and I met this guy. I always wanted to find someone like the soap operas and I have. The only thing he is always working and still has kids at home ( He is divorced). I have never been number three on anyones list but with this one I am. When we are together I am in seventh heaven and he is not even out the door and I miss him already. We talk about doing things, and it sounds so nice. I guess I just want him all to myself and I can not have that now. I am hoping that time does heal….and a good cry does help for awhile. Good Luck to all of you…..

  32. monique

    On June 25, 2009 at 5:04 pm


    SUCH a victim right now….lol
    But im where im supposed to be, in love
    and even if that love feels absolutely CRAZY at times, its all worth it because my man is my soulmate

  33. danielle

    On July 5, 2009 at 6:04 am


    I was seeing this lad for a year and a half nearly. we was really in love. we did every thing together. he was always on my side and i was always on his. he was always there for me, to back me up in things. and to help me out. untill i started to see a change in him. i hardly saw him at school are any were. i stared to worrie and get upset.
    i was at school one day and it was dinner time. i was walking to my next class when i saw him with this other girl. after that we didnt speek. and i have never seen it sints. but i still have the scares and i still have the memories. And i no i am only 13 but i stared to no alot more about love than i did.
    after about 8 weeks of not talking he rang up out of the blue. and said “im sorry for the pain i have maded and the things i have put you through. but i was wondering can we gat back together? i just want to be with you!” so i didnt no what to say. i thought i still loved him so i said yes.
    everything was going oking. after about 2 weeks i started to hear things around school saying he is back with this girl.
    so he did the same thing to me again. after that i didnt no what to do. i felt like i was stabbed in the heart. i thought i would never find love again. but sints i have been singel i have felt alot better. like i dont need a boy in my life, i felt like i didnt have a worrie in the world.
    when all this was happening to me. my friends and famliy helped me. sints then i have been happy without a care in the world.
    thanks for reading =]
    xx

  34. Brentney

    On July 5, 2009 at 10:58 pm


    My friend and I have been friends for almost two years now. We spent alot of time together. Even turned into a sexual thing. A year ago I met a guy friend of his that turned into a one night stand. At the time me and my friend now were not dating and nothing ever came of the one night stand. When I met my friend I didnt want a relationship, maybe hardened from past abuse and closed off with my feelings. I recently told him I love him and I do, but he said he would never be able to forgive me for what happend with that guy. I have felt like a mad woman, jealously. I feel so lost. We both have never been married and no kids. I feel like I am free when I am with him. My heart hurts so much now.

  35. Lucy

    On July 10, 2009 at 7:56 pm


    i suffer from jealousy ans love sickness i miss my sweetheart whos so calm and loving yet im jealous of my best fried and my summer loves relationship together its painful to even be around them kjnowing i could never have him but time away i think will cure that so im gonna try

  36. Steven

    On July 11, 2009 at 4:57 pm


    I’m an British man who is in Love with a Norwegian women. She has a partner and child. She doesn’t love her partner,but it doesn’t look like she will leave him either. 700 miles feel like 700 million miles. I get very jealous and my mood swings are really bad, even though she says she wants me. I’ve tried to end it and find some peace again, but she always comes back for more. Night-times are very bad thinking of her with him tucked-up in bed. Not sure how much longer I can cope with all this, as my self-esteeme is pretty low. Why do people allow others to suffer?

  37. K

    On July 15, 2009 at 2:11 am


    I have always been in control of my life, but I have given my heart to someone and that has gone out the window. We will be together soon in a couple weeks, but it feels like it will never come. All I want to do is spend every second talking to him. When it is time to hang up I get so depressed that I am angry that it seems so easy for him to hang up. I know he loves me, but I am jealous that he still has control over his feelings and I am a complete mess! The worst part is feeling like I love him more than he loves me when I know that is not true. If what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger I am going to be the strongest person who ever lived! I can’t wait to regain my sanity! God bless all of us who feel this way and may it pass soon. Amen.:)

  38. lavinsci1218

    On July 19, 2009 at 9:36 pm


    I have read all of the comments and honestly speaking Im into pain so much pain and suffering that I really wanted to die literally, I love this girl so much but the the downside is that I’m married and two kids.. this girl and I had this relationship long before I got married and it is just a month a go that she finally ended everything.. another down side though during our relationship she had a boyfriend and slept with him for a couple of times, she kept this a secret to me when i found out I still accept her.. I’m still longing for her .. and stupid to say that Im still trying to reach her but to no availe she she’s not rsponding at all.. I want to get out of this pain and misery .. it’s so hard and traumatic.. all of my personal and carreer is now being affected… I hope in time I can move out of this pit.. I hope

  39. az

    On July 21, 2009 at 12:56 am


    So, I am an very happily married man who has gone through all the phases of being cray in love with my amazing wife to our current long term and deep love for each other. Then I go overseas to a conference and I meet this girl — no big deal, I meet new people and become friends with them all the time. However, as soon is as the conference is over I suddenly cannot stop thinking about her and I quickly developed most of the love sickness symptoms described above, and have been trying to get over these feeling for the past week. I have only felt this way with a couple other women (including my wife), and not since I met my wife over 20 years ago. I know that no love relationship will come out of this new relationship(we both have spouses and kids and I do not know if she has any mutual feelings), but I was hoping to turn this energy into a professional relationship, which I think could be very fun and productive. However, after reading the material above, am I kidding myself — should I just drop it? Not sure what to do…

  40. kenny

    On July 21, 2009 at 6:50 pm


    this is exactly what i have. ive never fallen so hard for anyone. im not the type who is usually depressed, but ive been really depressed lately. its strange because my girlfriend and i are totally head over heels in love with eachother. i guess its because we have not had a a chance to see each other as much as we want. we want to be with each other always.

  41. LL

    On July 23, 2009 at 11:12 am


    This message is for #39:

    Definitely drop it. If you have an amazing loving wife, you have it made. Do not give into temptation. Imagine if the roles were reversed and it was your wife feeling the way you are, what would you want her to do?

    Trust me if you have a good thing, don’t mess with it.

    Good luck

  42. HeartMender

    On July 29, 2009 at 2:22 am


    It looks like there’s a lot of pain and confusion here for pretty much everyone. Husband’s cheating on wives, wives cheating on husband’s, boyfriends being unfaithful, girlfriends being unfaithful – wanting something new and thus on.

    First off. Don’t waste someone’s time. If you’re someone cheating on someone else, and you’re love sick… I’m sorry, but you deserve it. You’re going to cripple this other person who is possibly still in love with you, not to mention if they have a family with you. Cheating is dishonest and selfish.

    Stop being greedy. Let one or the other go. If you’re a family person, you’re damned right it will probably devistate those involved with you.

    Stop thinking about yourself.

    Temptation is wonderful, but just remember it’s not worth it in the end. Takes a bigger man or a woman to turn and walk away from a difficult situation.

    I’m not trying to be bitter, and yes I know love works in funny ways, but don’t blame ‘love’ for your one night stands or someone you ‘play’ with. That’s not love, it’s lust. That is obsession and that too is deadly.

    For those of you who are suffering with an innocent love (i.e being something honest and you’re faithful to that relationship and they may not be or they may not return the feelings you have for them.) I’m sorry. I’m dealing with the same issue. It’s not fun, but you know what? Reading all these comments make me realize something. We’re not alone. There are goodness know how many broken hearts on this planet at one time, but you just need to stay strong and try your hardest to think positive and clear.

    …and please eat – if you’re like me and having troubles even thinking about food, less eating it and keeping it down. Your body needs to be fueled to help you fight off being sick. Be with your friends and your loved ones. Don’t ever give up, it will pass.

    If things don’t work out, it’s not the end. And don’t think that way. And yes, it’s cliche, but true, love yourself first.

    My heart goes out to all of you, regardless of who you are or what you have done.

  43. Sandy

    On July 31, 2009 at 7:03 pm


    I’m in love with a guy who doesn’t love me. Yet, I pursue him like any stupid girl. All I want is his attention and for me to be his number one. Have known him for 4 yrs. and we are on again off again throughout this time. My heart breaks because all his promises to me have fallen short. Then I call him because he hasn’t called as he said he would, then he gives me a sad story of all the stuff he is going through. I get mad and he hangs up on me. Talk about someone shutting another out – that’s what I’m going through. One day I will look back and say “how stupid, stupid, stupid I was to have wasted my time and energy” Until I get to that point, I’m sad right now.

  44. Wolfbitch

    On August 13, 2009 at 10:38 pm


    I’d just like to get this out.. My ex wanted a sex change, to become a man and I grieved.. Towards the tail end, i met and fell arse over tit in love with this gorgeous australian chick.. Don’t see me as a cheater..I couldn’t touch my ex sexually..Her body was out of bounds really..After the grief for my ex broke up, i discovered i was left with pining as this australian girls visa ran out and she returned to Oz..I been in a state of grief for 13 months..Rarely have a day sober..Guys..Things could be worse

  45. dymond

    On August 22, 2009 at 4:24 am


    OMG.. I am so in love.. and its driving me crazy… this guy is so sweet. I think of him everyday all day. We are co workers we talk a bit but, i want so much more. Everything about him turns me on.. I feel like living dying screaming crying. Oh yea I am Love sick

  46. Emily

    On August 25, 2009 at 10:52 pm


    ok, this might seem weird, but im only 12, my boyfriend is 13, and i swear we are soulmates. its awesome, because i feel the same way about him as he does for me, but its also weird, because we’re only in junior high. ppl say “oh, he’s just another boyfriend that you think you love, it’ll pass”, but i think different, the other night we were on the phone, and he said he wants to tell me something, but he wasn’t going to because he was afraid it would make me dump him, i finally got him to tell me, and this is what he said: ” well, i think about the future a lot, usually when im riding horses, but, i can just see you and me being married, and being together forever”, and i asked him how that would make me break up with him, and he said “cuz i don’t know if you feel the same way about me”, and i replied, in these exact words, “that wouldn’t make us break up, and you wanna know why???, because i feel the exact same way!” then he said “really”, but his voice cracked when he said it, so i immediatly asked why he was crying, (cuz his voice only cracks when hes crying, or about to), and then he replied “im so happy that you feel the same way, i thought you would have dumped me for saying that”, and i said “there has to be a different reason than that”, and he confessed, he said “ok, you caught me, the real reason i thought you would dump me is because i thought you would think im weird for saying that while we’re in junior high”, and i said “no, its not weird or awkward, just unusual”, and as i said that, i started crying too, i honestly felt like i had found my knight in shining armour. and last night, one of my friends told me “will you shut up about your boyfriend already, its getting annoying, he’s just another silly crush”, and after we got off the phone i just busted out crying saying “he’s not just another crush, he’s not just another crush!” and earlier tonight, i just randomly picked up a pen and wrote: “i dream about you and me, in the past, the present, and especially the future, i don’t know what it is, but i never stop thinking about you! and it’s cool, because i’ve never felt this way about anyone. Love:Emily For Kaleb
    and when im not with him, i sink into this deep depression, that only he can get me out of. it’s like he’s Jesus, and i’m one of the lucky ppl that he saved. we broke up twice over the summer, and both times, hes taken me back, so that has to mean something. Love is an awesome, yet confusing emotion, and i know for a fact im love sick, because im crying right now just typing this.

  47. Ash

    On August 26, 2009 at 11:13 am


    i want her bak but it was very unhealhy… im stuck

  48. Hope

    On August 26, 2009 at 5:25 pm


    I need him.
    I don’t want to cry anymore.
    I want to get over it.
    I can’t go back, and it’s all my fault.
    I thought it would be better this way, and maybe it is.
    But I love him so much.
    What am I suppose to do?
    This is too hard for me.

  49. Luke

    On September 2, 2009 at 5:46 pm


    Glad I found this site so everyone can express feelings of how they are feeling and I’m glad I’m not the only one out there who is feeling love sick, hopefully we can all get past this with time.

    I’m in love with a married women. When first met a couple of years ago when she wasn’t married and then a couple of months ago she text me out of the blue and asked me to meet her. We met and had a great time together, as time passed and we saw each other a couple more time she told me she was married. Since she told me she was married we have met a few times and each time I seem to like her more and more. I think about her every second of the day and I’m love with her so much it hurts. The other day she told me she loved me, I was so shocked and so happy at the same time because I knew she felt the same way I do about her. Before I was scared to say I was in love with her because it could of frighhtend her away. Since then she has hardly contacted me unless I contact her and I’m starting to wonder if I’m just her bit on the side because she is married. She complains about her husband all the time and even puts him on loud speaker when he calls just to let me know she is telling the trough when he says he is nasty to her, and when he does call he is really nasty to her and swearing at her for no reason. The one thing that is hurting me most is that he is rich, he can buy her Porches and BMW’s but I’m just the average day to day guy that earns enough to live and go out and have a good time now and then. It seems to me that she is only with him because he has lots of money and she gets the love from me that she dose’nt get from him, so in a way I guess I’m her bit on the side. I feel so much pain because she says she loves me but there is a big barrier between us called her partner who treats her like trash but can get away with it because he is rich.

  50. A MATE

    On September 4, 2009 at 5:05 am


    LUKE MATE WHATS THE DEAL,I REALLY UNDERSTAND WHERE YOUR AT BUT , DOES SHE REALLY MELT YOUR HEART ? I AM IN LOVE WITH THIS WOMAN AND WHEN WE ARE NOT TOGETHER I KNOW SHE IS THERE FOR ME. I KNOW IT SUCKS BUT YOU HAVE TO ASK THE QUESTION IF YOU ARE SPENDING TIME WORRING ABOUT THIS WOMAN YOU COULD BE MISSING OUT ON THE REAL THING. TELL HER STRAIGHT UP HOW YOU FEEL AND IF ITS WHAT YOU WANT TO HEAR WELL AND GOOD BUT IN YOUR MIND IF YOU QUESTION ANYTHING MOVE ON DUDE BEEN THERE AND THIS COULD DRAG OUT FOR MONTHS AND YOU COULD JUST GET BURT AT THE END. GIVE IT AGO MATE .

  51. nonotreallyrequired

    On September 6, 2009 at 8:43 am


    wow i thought i was the only one but reading through all your messages i see im not alone but my situation might be alittle different. i met this guy when i was 16 he was 17 we were like the same person i knew everything there was to know about him we always thought alike the only problem is he lived in a different state. boo right yeah i know anyways we made the long distance thing work for awhile i even tried so hard to let him go for his sake knowing the we thing would be hard so far away from each other. he said no he wanted only me promising to marry me and he wanted to have babies man i was sucked in good. the long distance thing lasted 5 years wow right who would have thought everyone said i was stupid but i didnt care and supposedly neither did he. we would spends hours on the phone talking or online. so 2 weeks before my 21st i run away i leave i go to him he tells me okay come to him he’ll take care of me well long story short when i got there he left me alone in a hotel room only to visit me for an hour a day being real distant. i knew before actually going to him something was up he was being to weird and he made up excuse after excuse why he couldnt stay with me like he had promised and to make things worse i went by greyhound for 15 hours quit my job so i could go be with him left everything i left my life behind me for him but a week later he sent me packing back to where i came from to no job with no money no nothing. he didnt even call to make sure i got home safely all the way back not one call not until my 21st birthday 2 weeks later… and after that nothing not even an email. he broke all his promises along with my heart. i knew he had a girl on the side he had too many girl “friends” for my taste. but i was so in love. we still talk almost 3 years later but hardly only in greeting he never did tell me why or what happened but i dont dare ask. the bad thing is now ive been with my boyfriend of 2 years and ive tried so hard to get over my ex i went into a deep depression for a year maybe even still. its hard for me to admit i still miss him and that he bearly gives me a passing glance i always wonder if he thinks of me or if he misses me but i know its only me and once i start to feel over it i see his picture or a reminder of him and memorie flood gates open up again. i dream about him all the time and i feel sooo guilty i love my bf now but for some reason i cant let go i kno its my ocd and hes my obsession i dont stalk him or anything like that i just constantly think about him hes always in my sleep hes there watching me nothing more both of us wishing it was different but we could only ever be friends what does it all mean i dont know and i have had all those symptoms of flu like all this time i been thinking i was slowly dying from a sickness they couldnt find ive been to the emergency and i always come out 100 percent healthy but still feeling sick i get all upset and start complaining about how they dont know what they’re talking about. so now i’ve figured its my ocd all in my head wow love stinks… is this love sickness really a disease?? i say yes but does finally cure itself because i need a fix.

  52. Michelle

    On September 22, 2009 at 8:32 pm


    I know what being in love and the other person doesnt feel the same means. My sons father we had been together for off and on for 10 years. Well we split up 1yr ago, well i started talkin to him again about 2 months ago we had these great plans of gettin back together well we did, and about two wks ago he picks a fight with me. And goes back to the girl he was with before me. CRUSHED I am. i cant stop thinkin about it and Im constantley comparing myself to this other girl. But in all reality he wants her and not me. But in time i guess I will heal. I pray every day that maybe he will change his mind. Now thats sad!!!!

  53. lawrence

    On January 26, 2010 at 1:08 am


    help me please..they tell me there is no cure,and only ”time can help..well when you count the seconds between seeing her..acting like a cyclone with the vacume cleaner,reading novels by the dozen..And now she visits my dreams..If there is a positive out of this ..we both feel the same way…ive got it bad !!

  54. I_guess_I_am_stupid

    On February 1, 2010 at 1:15 pm


    I met a an ex-girlfriend last weekend (btw my first real love). I broke up with her for some stupid reason and now, after 12 years i met her again at some party and when I saw here I felt all tingly and stuff.. now i can\’t sleep anymore. I guess a re-vival of our relationship is kinda out of discussion but who knows… I feel really helpless now. Don\’t even have her mail address or phonenumber and we only had about 5 mins to talk before i had to leave. Now what? I hope time heals me soon because i currently cry over the comments above me :( Everything sad.

  55. Nathan

    On February 25, 2010 at 5:31 pm


    I’ve never been “in love”. Nor will I ever. I won’t ever because it would just be too weird and very scary getting that close to another human being. Yuck! >P

  56. Possibly Delusional

    On March 16, 2010 at 1:10 am


    Is it possible to want to feel this love that we all speak of so badly that some of us create it out of thin air? I met this man. He is incredible, attractive, interesting, successful, great in bed… but he has it bad for his ex. I think sometimes when I meet a man with alot of potential I create my own perception of them and I fall in love. Is this a possible psychological thing? If anyone understands what I just said can you explain it to me?

  57. aimi

    On March 20, 2010 at 10:42 pm


    i’ve got it reeeeaaaalll bad. there has got to be a cure other than time

  58. Helena

    On April 5, 2010 at 10:53 am


    Most usefull thing I’ve read up to date. Thanks for the advice

  59. Anonymous

    On April 6, 2010 at 9:14 pm


    I’m glad I found this love is driving me nuts and I’ve noticed I’ve been acting weird lately. I hope I feel better and go out with the girl I love but anything can happen.

  60. GG

    On April 14, 2010 at 8:20 am


    I have been thinking there is something that could cure me but after reading this i am on my own!! Me and my boyfriend are in love after 3 months and although i have loved him for the last 2 months it was never like this. I can’t eat or sleep when I am not with him (i can when i am with him). If i am not with him and I don’t get a text or phone call within 4 or 5 hours i feel the urge to phone him or i worry and feel sick in case something is wrong. I know he loves me as he tells me many times a day. I have told him how i feel sick and i have lost weight cos of this and he says it is nice the way i feel but tells me to start eating and stop worrying as he wants to be with me forever. After reading the symptoms on this page I know I am lovesick as i have about 6 of them. What i want to know is that beacuse I feel like this and it is killing me and he says he doesn’t feel sick etc., does it mean he loves me less?? i worry i love him too much and its not healthy.

  61. Libra Man

    On April 26, 2010 at 12:33 am


    I’m writing this message in hopes that by sometime next week, next month, or next year, i’ll re-read it and laugh and wondered why I even felt like this. I’m in love or lust with a girl that is the opposite to me. She is my ‘Something About Mary’. I do have a girlfriend that i have been with for 2yrs now. I’m not sure if it’s a seasonal ’summer weather brain chemical’ thing that is making me lose interest with my current g.friend but it’s worrying me. She loves me, looks good for me, looks after me, and does things for me like organise holidays and does all the things I can’t be bothered with. This other girl i like is still an enigma as she lives by the day, and blows caution to the wind. We’ve been intimate on 5 occasions, but i think she realised she even after that, I placed my g.friend ahead of her (due to her stability and not wanting to hurt her).

    She has slowed down her txt msg’s, and phonecalls, and am seeing in her Facebook, that she’s meeting all these new guys!! AAAwww!! It slowly kills me inside but I can never communicate what I truly feel as no good will ever come of it if I do. She’s kinda ‘dudish’ in her manner, and I don’t think my sudden bout of emotional craving will sit well at all in this. I’ll just let fate deal the cards as I don’t even know what i’m fighting for.

    So this message is basically for my logical brain VS the emotional side. It’s like I enjoy this euphoria of what someone can overwhelm you with emotionally as i haven’t experienced this since 1998, and i’m questioning myself more and more when i though i finally got love figured out. I’m still typing but i don’t think there is any point of this msg nor does it have a message that anyone can learn from. I think i’m acting like an asshole on purpose so that I can re-toughen myself up and not let a girl make me feel vulnerable again.

    Please GOD, help me re-Fall in love with my girlfriend again. I hate this feeling of emptiness behind my false smiles and hugs. Is this possible if someone steals your heart, and puts it back in the drawer once they’re done with it? Needing some advice after a decade of figuring out on my own.

  62. John

    On May 7, 2010 at 2:26 pm


    wow so I know it sounds sleazy but I have never been in love before but I met this guy on chatroullette and we talked for over two hours one night. He was really attractive and we clicked instantly. We eventually said goodbye and never talked again. That was over a week ago. A few days ago I was on chattroullette and out of no where I came across him AGAIN!! WHAT ARE THE CHANCES!? it freaked me out. We talked for a long time and then finally exchanged names for facebook. We started skyping and texting eachother and it has only been two days and it feels like we have moved so fast. My only problem is I am from North Dakota and he is from Florida. Ever since our second run in and talks and texts ect I have felt nervous anxious shaky dizzy and unusually happy and packed full of energy non stop. I barely sleep and I wake up super early and go to bed extremely late. I haven’t been eating I have no appetite and the worst part is I have been nauseous and have had flu like symptoms. I even had to cancel a job interview today because I thought I had the flu, but now realize I am love sick. I never even knew this was real. I don’t know what I am going to do I feel lost and confused and I am not even out of the closet. I am pretty sure my family would disown me if I ever told them I was gay. I am obsessed with this guy and I feel like I should just stop contacting him altogether. This is way too many emotions and feelings for me to handle I am going crazy.

  63. AimsMc

    On May 7, 2010 at 4:25 pm


    I had a bad experience with relationships when i was younger, and to start my boyfriend was kind of going down the same road until he realised he loved me and how much some of the things he was doing hurt me, and he is the nicest most caring man i have ever met. I am so in love with him. I constantly check my texts to see if he has text me, and actually my stomach sinks when he hasnt – this has been going on for over 2 years when i realised i was in love. Its not as bad as it used to be, mind you. we have now lived together for over a year in our own flat, and when we first got together his work got a contract with China, so he has been flown out to China for a month at a time 3 times in the past 2 years to work. We are living together and i thought it would have been easier to get along without him, but its not. Its worse. I cry every night, think about him almost all day, get excited when my phone rings at my lunch for my daily phonecall, and as soon as i get home check my emails. we were both crying last week, after 3 days of being apart, because we miss each other so much. Thats never happenned before. Reading this article i dont think love sickness goes away, i think it dies down until its triggered by something. When we first got together first i was paranoid, insecure, very suspicious, but now i trust him with my whole heart. but i actually feel like there is a pain in my chest now he is working away. i have lost my appetite. i cant get to sleep until very late at night, and wake up through the night, then wake up realy early in the morning. I randomly feel very sexually frustrated at the weirdest of times for a very breif amount of time. When my phone goes, i actually feel as though my mood totally lifts – the same as on the phone. My work have even noticed a difference saying this week i have just been ‘in my own little world’ and i geuss thats something to do with that. It is so hard. In all the articles it says that love sickness can go away when something long term happens – but we have as mortgaged house together, know we want to spend the rest of our lives together and live completely for one another – and its still not gone. Is that a bad thing? Or is that good and shows i am very much in love? i really miss him. help x

  64. Robert

    On May 28, 2010 at 10:52 am


    This is an awesome article man Im like crying with relief just about.. I met this chick and I’ve become obsessed I can’t think right and my anxiety is through the roof. I can’t help it but I don’t even know if she feels the same way, Ive never been so confused ah, I don’t know. Whether to persue it or let it go but i’d find that very hard I study in the same class as her any tips anyone?

  65. Josh Bommer

    On June 5, 2010 at 4:12 pm


    I have never had a girlfriend before, but I extremely want one. I have seen so many girls that are truly beautiful that would be perfect, but I never really got the chance to ask them. Because I am DRASTICALLY LOVESICK, I am depressed. Suicide has been on my mind ever since I got lovesickness.

  66. Yvonne Smith

    On June 13, 2010 at 10:37 pm


    I have been dating the most amazing man for the last 7 months. He has truly restored my faith in men. We really only get to see each other on the weekends because of our schedules but everytime we get together it is amazing. Initially when I met him I was on this high and got the “lovesick” bug I guess you could say. As time went by the emotions stablized and I felt normal again.Since we don’t get to see each other as much as we would like to, we email and talk on the phone everyday. He sends me emails with music links to some of the most sensual songs just to let me know I am on his mind. Well this weekend we had the most amazing weekend. We bathed together, talked and he just held me. I am normally not the over-emotional fall in love type but I am realizing I love this man. I haven’t told him this because of fear of his reaction. I believe he feels the same way. I just can’t bring myself to say the words. I am VERY outspoken person and always say what’s on my mind but when I am with him I have the hardest time speaking up. I have to tell him because it is killing me. I can say this is the first time I have ever been in love like this before. I am in my 30’s and have been married and didn’t love my ex like I love this man. Ever since I have left my man today I have been in tears. I feel like I have lost my mind. I cannot stop crying. It is to the point where I am ready to break up with him because of how much I love him. I am terrified of these feelings because I have been hurt so bad in the past. I am scared that if I tell him everything will change and I will be the one hurting. Advice please!

  67. joe briffa

    On September 6, 2010 at 1:26 pm


    Is it so easy when you love sick???I am a 50year old man,and just met the loveliest of women,in my life I never experienced such a beautiful mind….and never felt so good….she is russian,we are madly in love but the anxiety of this relationship is that it will not work,,,due to I live in Malta and she lives in Russia,and she has a young son too which I love too.
    I terribly miss her,want her,need her and most of all love her in everyway I can,and she does too,I know that…..I guess I need help,I suffered from depression before,as I not wish to go in medicine again,,,any kind of help is appreciated…..please help me!!!!

  68. Lu

    On September 6, 2010 at 9:49 pm


    I would suggest , to first see you don’t have lovesickness because as I have knowledge that if you do, that is already a type of mental sickness. So try the recommendations concerning that. I would say to treat it, because it would most likely give rise to the depression again if you had it before.

    They are back to back, I would say.

    Concerning my case…. Im working with some people in a a pretty closed office space. Especially this one guy. There was a strong attraction at first and didn’t want to believe it was love yet. As time passed I noticed how well we get along. I feel I can trust him. Then after a while I noticed that I really do like this person. For many months I tried ignoring , evading him saying that this isn’t true, that I don’t even know this person, and tried being professional about it. All along he probably thought I wasn’t interested, even though he was always in my mind. Then one day I couldn’t handle it and told him the truth. What turned out drives me crazy because he didn’t give me a straight answer. So now he knows and it puts me in an uncomfortable situation. I’m thinking too much about what he thinks about me which can lead me to insanity. I know time will say, but it’s like I found him and I don’t want to let go.

  69. Frank

    On September 24, 2010 at 7:15 pm


    I’ve started having strong feelings again for a girl who I haven’t seen or spoken to years. She was so beautiful, but I had to let her go because she was a complete and utter mess and it would have ended in me getting hurt. I know she felt the same for me at the time. Its like we started something, and didn’t finish it, and even all these years later no one else has been able to fill the void.

    I thought the feelings would have faded long ago. I’m pretty smart about people, and so I know when something is destined for misery, but its almost like you have to let it run its course to find out. This is why I avoid serious relationships, cus I don’t want either side to get hurt.

    There’s definitely some emotional abuse in my past that draws me to very messed up girls and causes me to reject girls who are emotionally stable and would treat me right.

    I’m just shocked that feelings can remain after such a long time. I haven’t been able to eat much and have had difficulty focusing at work. I can’t imagine how hard it is for people who fall deeply in love with damaged people.

    It seems to hurt no matter what you do.

  70. Kate

    On December 13, 2010 at 9:10 pm


    I can’t believe this is actually an illness, i thought i was just mad. I’ve been diagnosed with anxeity and i take medication, but i just can’t control these sympthoms. Every time i like someone it’s just terrible! my stomach aches all day, I can’t sleep, I’m not hungry at all and I loose focus.

  71. daisy

    On January 8, 2011 at 8:36 am


    i am in love agin, finally, after a lot of work getting over the last guy i was in love with. i didnt realize it was love until i read the symptoms, but i guess ive experienced it truly with 3-4 different people and im in my twenties. well the problem is i keep falling for the wrong guys, as they say you have to kiss a lot of frogs to get to your prince ;) i know this guy says he is not in an emotional place to have a relationship right now and there is even someone else that he is into. i have to let it go for the sake of myself, for my pride at least, because right now i am settling with this situation just to be a part of his life. i am just afraid of what will happen to myself if i let this guy go (i.e. stop texting him and hanging out with him). i already have the loss of appetite, insomnia, and bouts of crying.

  72. Ian

    On January 9, 2011 at 7:09 pm


    These past few days have been absolute hell for me; I just got out of a 3 month fling that I was pretty sure was going to and very well could have turned into a relationship. Unfortunately, that wasn’t the case. I met this very beautiful and amazing Japanese girl back in October and we ended up getting very close in the time that we have known each other, only problem is that she has a boyfriend. Despite that fact, we still had sex regularly and she even spent the night with me pretty often, not to mention, she is the only person that I have had sex with. I’ve been telling her for a while that I really want to be with her, but she is afraid to leave her boyfriend because she came to the states with him, and that is a very serious issue to her. I hate this; I can’t eat, I have zero energy, and I feel very alone.

  73. Brenda

    On February 15, 2011 at 3:54 am


    Been going through it for a few months, But I know I will get through it and over it, Not worth loosing his friendship over, I can’t meet him right now he lives too far away, and dont think he even wants to meet me anyhow.

    So I gotta move on and start trying to at least get a fantasy thing going with another real human, and time of course I guess.

  74. Broken Heart Quotes

    On March 24, 2011 at 4:43 pm


    Took me a few years of getting over a true love

  75. PearlDC

    On May 11, 2011 at 4:38 am


    hahaha we r learnin bout the brain n i was thinking bout love so i thought google n found it amazin how they r linked :P

  76. Manuel

    On June 22, 2011 at 2:23 pm


    Wow, this page is several years old and people still comment on it from time to time. That goes to show how much people want help. I’m so glad there are so many people that feel the way I do. I have constant stomach aches, I can’t eat almost at all, I feel lonely, depressed, and just want to lay down and never wake up. There’s this girl who seems like she likes me but I don’t know. She’s my guy friend’s friend, and if i go for it, I could mess things up. It’s a horrible feeling of confusion and loneliness. I don’t know how she feels and she doesn’t know how I feel. I just want her wiped from my memory so I can enjoy my summer and enjoy my life. if it works out, she will be my first girlfriend. That’s probably why I feel this way. It hurts like you can’t imagine.

  77. Lara

    On June 28, 2011 at 6:29 pm


    All that came to mind ,without effort ,upon my search for words that cannot express the feelings I harbor for my lover was a book by Dr Seuss called Oh the places you go! And he and he alone I followed down every winding paths of the darkest dark and the lightest light. My tangent tormented soul can only cry a prayer..God, grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change the courage to change the things i can and the wisdom to know the difference…thy will not mine be done…

  78. CHASSIE

    On July 21, 2011 at 9:46 am


    GUYS!! BLESS YOUR HEARTS! I KNOW BEING IN LOVE IS A HEAVY THING, BUT YOU CAN OVER COME IT IF YOU REALLY WANT TO. IT’S LIKE THAT SCENE FROM “MOONSTRUCK” WHEN CHER SLAPS THE GUY AND HOLLERS “SNAP OUT OF IT!” THAT’S WHAT YOU GOT TO DO. SNAP OUT OF IT. OKAY, YOU MAY NOT BE WITH HER EVENTHOUGH SHE IS WITH SOMEONE ELSE OR IS WITH YOUR BEST FRIEND OR SHE IS FAR AWAY. OR HE MAY BE THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE AND HE DOES NOT KNOW IT AND YOU WANT TO TELL HIM, OR HE KNOWS BUT NOT GIVING YOU THE SAME FEELINGS. OKAY, IT’S NOT THE END OF THE WORLD. LIFE GOES ON AND YOU GOT TOO MUCH TO DO TO GET YOUR LIFE IN GEAR. TELL ME, IS WALLOWING IN SELF PITY GONNA DO YOU ANY GOOD? NO! ARE YOU GOING TO DROWN YOURSELF IN SORROW FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE? NO! BELEIVE ME YALL, I HAVE BEEN WHERE YOU ARE RIGHT NOW. I USED TO THINK THAT MY LIFE WOULD BE NOTHING WITHOUT A MAN IN MY LIFE, SO I TOOK ANY MAN THAT WOULD HAVE ME AND I THREW MY WHOLE SELF IN HIM. DON’T DO THAT! IF YOU TRULY WANT A MAN TO LOVE YOU, IS THAT YOU GOT TO LOVE YOURSELF FIRST. AND WHEN HE SEES THAT LOVE COMMING OUT OF YOU THEN HE WILL COME TO YOU. SAME GOES FOR THE FELLAS. BOTTOM LINE GUYS, DON’T SELL YOURSELF SHORT. YOU ARE TOO PRECIOUS FOR THAT!

  79. amber

    On August 9, 2011 at 5:03 pm


    I have not broken up with my boyfriend who I am incredibly in love with, he is just on holiday but he has been gone for quite a while, I am wondering if this still applies because the past few days I have felt so quesy and I can’t get rid of it :/

  80. amber

    On August 9, 2011 at 5:04 pm


    I have not broken up with my boyfriend who I am incredibly in love with, he is just on holiday but he has been gone for quite a while, I am wondering if this still applies because the past few days I have felt so quesy and I can\’t get rid of it :/

  81. ahmad abrar

    On August 23, 2011 at 4:08 am


    I lost my love 26 years ago: in fact she left me without let me know her whereabouts. Google helped me found her whereabouts but now we both are married. How to handle love sickness in this situation

  82. Silent Sufferer

    On September 11, 2011 at 2:17 pm


    I’m a senior in high school and my significant other just started his first year of college. He’s really preoccupied most of the time and I wonder how in the world do I make it through most of the day without hearing his voice, reading his messages, etc.

    Normally I have to call/text him 1st becaue he’s so busy. I feel neglected in a way since I always share with him how much I miss/want him yet he doesn’t say the same nearly as much to me. My eyes still burn from the previous day’s waterfall fest simply because he had to cancel his date with me, his car tire (INCONVINIENTLY IN THE WORST WAY) flattened on the way to pick me up.

    I truly wish I didn’t feel these things just for the agony to cease.

  83. Man on Fire

    On October 2, 2011 at 11:14 pm


    Being Lovesick is timeless. Im in my 40s and hadnt felt it since i was a teenager, but now Im feeling it badly. In my case i’m stuck in marraige, but have had an affair for a year now with a married woman. If not for both of us having kids we would likely divorce and remarry to each other. There’s so much to our story it would someday make a good book. Unfortunately, I dont know how it will end, but I can tell you in my situation the lovesickness is very painful at times. I cannot just see her whenever I want and have to count the hours or days until we are able to meet. This post is the only time i’ve been able to share this secret and the intense feelings i have daily. I only hope that one day I move fully to stage 3 or we find a way to be together as husband and wife. Thanks to all who sympathize!

  84. A. Jones

    On October 3, 2011 at 9:51 am


    I am married but in love with a self confessed male slut that is in the Lifestyle. When I’m with him its so very good and when I’m not it just plain hurts. Want to have both men in my life. My husband (who by he way is a great husband) likes him and he like my husband. I know time heals all and I cant wait for that to happen but in the mean time what do it take to show him that I am the one for him.? Right now I am losing weight and not sleeping well, and my stomach feel like it is on foreign soil.

  85. Chris

    On October 26, 2011 at 11:51 am


    I am head over heels for a girl, been this way for months, shes not into me, very into her ex and i had the most amazing day/night with her, to be rejected at 4 in the morning lol, last 3 days i have been unable to function, my brain has effectively died and i feel more heartbroken than i have in years, then i started thinking, im better than this. I do love her and would kill to be with her, but i love myself and i know that in time i will not only meet someone i love as much, but that person will love me, until then im going to be myself, improve myself, enjoy my life and when that person is ready im going to wow them, Until then, smile and give life time, life always finds a way :) oh and listen to hoobastank – who the hell am i, let it all play, listen to the words and then smack on linkin park – Waiting for the end, there is a good message there, good luck everyone :)

  86. head wrecked

    On November 8, 2011 at 7:57 pm


    wow im fucked!!!!

  87. IN BITS!!!

    On December 6, 2011 at 7:22 pm


    I am glad i googled this now, it is comforting to know i am not the only person to be going through this.
    I got with a girl, the love of my life, when i was 19, we were together for 4 years. things got complicated, our situations changed and i began to lose interest. She then left me, which is when i realised just how much i did love her, i practically begged her to get back with me, but it was no good. I was in tatters for months, and it took me several years before i could even think about being with anyone else. In truth, i have never gotten over her, and all the attempted relationships i have since have proven that. i have never been interested, just going through the motions. I resigned myself to the fact that i would be alone for the rest of my life. A pretty depressing thought. The only way i could cope with being away from her was to separate my self completely from everything that reminded me of her. I moved away, made new friends and started a brand new life. This is the way it has been for the past 6 years. Then, six years to the day, on my birthday (thats right, she dumped me on my birthday!!), a few weeks ago, i received a message on facebook from her, wish me a happy B’day and asking if i fancied meeting up for a drink. We met up on friday, where we kissed, and just spent 2 hours on the phone, and have arranged to meet up this weekend, we live miles away so i will be staying the night. but i am soooooo heavily lovesick it is unbelievable. i have no idea if she still loves me, but seeing her again recently has brought all the raw emotions back with avengance. i have secretely been hoping this would happen, but now it is, i don’t know if i can handle it!!! AGHHHH

  88. wtf

    On December 16, 2011 at 8:31 pm


    Tired of crying feeling empty without my other half :(

  89. morgan

    On December 21, 2011 at 8:29 am


    I am in love with a woman who I rarely get a chance to see. I saw her a few times today and now, hours later, I am just completely broken down. It really is like a drug addiction. And I got it bad.

    Is it normal to feel \”aggressive\”? I get some pleasure thinking about destroying stuff. Maybe I should try it.

  90. Saru

    On December 31, 2011 at 2:47 pm


    I know that one well, it’s only been 2 months and I feel like I’ve gone completely bonkers, 31 behaving like 16, wtf!

  91. Rob

    On February 17, 2012 at 11:34 am


    I broke up with my girlfriend twice after an 18 month relationship and now i miss her so much. Shes with a guy today that i absolutely hate for obvious reasons, and i cannot bear the thought of them together. I have self harmed by punching balls, cutting myself and crying lots as these are the only ways in which i can attempt to sort myself out. I want her back so badly but she says that what how i treated her before outweighs all the good memories we had together and its killing me. Im trying so hard to get her back, i bought her things for valentines day but it didnt really seem to do much, i just wish i had another chance but there isnt anything i can do now i guess. She says there is still a chance but i cant help but feel im being played on a bit, in case things dont work out with this new guy and its very depressing. Good luck everyone.

  92. EA

    On February 21, 2012 at 9:23 pm


    Love sickness sucks!! And it is the first time i feel this. All for a girl I think I’ve fallen in love with. Here is the thing though, this girl has been hurt in the past by one guy, she’s been single ever since, 3 years later she meets me. We’ve known eachother for about a month and a half, and things are going well so far, to the point of kissing. It felt amazing, she was into it and so was I, she kissed me again good night, and it was just great. Next day she does not mention the kiss or anything, her roomates were there, so im guessing she just doesn’t want to show anything yet. I walked with her to the train for her to go to work and we kissed as friends, on the cheek. So i was confused by that because i was expecting something else. Is she taking her time? or maybe she just doesn’t want to rush things and wants to get to know me more before starting a relationship? It is clear that she likes me, but i don’t know about a relationship. Its killing me, any advice?

  93. Al

    On February 21, 2012 at 11:26 pm


    I didn’t realise I was so in love with my best friend of 1 year until she started dating this guy about 3 weeks ago. I am demolished. I can’t sleep, I can’t concentrate, I’ve become absent minded, my throat and stomach feel hollow and ache and I’m often tearful. This overwhelming level of anxiety is destroying me. I’m traumatised thinking about her with another man. She is constantly on my mind. I want to get better. I force myself to eat and drink and I usually feel sick afterwards. I am mentally ill.

    I’m unable to detach myself from her because we are professional dance partners. How can I recover if I can’t avoid her. I’ve put on such a brave act but have been close to breaking down. It’s been 6 years since I last felt like this but never to this intensity.

    I can’t decide whether to tell how I feel or ride it out? I’m distraught.

  94. Sabs

    On April 11, 2012 at 11:36 am


    Yh i know. you love someone . you have to leave . you can’t come back. he’s on the other side of the world. he is famous. he is perfect. but you just can’t have him. it sucks.

  95. Kylah

    On June 18, 2012 at 1:02 pm


    I can relate to how everyone feels. In the middle of my 8th grade year i started going out with M. Everything was perfect for the first 4 months or so until i started noticing little things. Like how he would be too friendly with other girls and how hed lie about a lot of stuff and wouldnt call me anymore. He broke up with two times ( both for stupid reasons and the second time he broke up with me it was a day before valentines day!) but both times we still got back together. Hes what you could call a player. And theres been a lot of times where has hasnt treated me right. For example , i got on his facebook (thinking it was my friends) and he had been messaging all these girls . Flirting with them and saying things like your cute , would you ever date me, and i just wanna make love. It hurt so much i just sat there and cried. … And finally a little later we broke up because he wasnt passing 8th grade and he said i wouldnt want to date an 8th grader. I told him that wasnt true but he still broke up with me which makes me think it was just an exscuse. I was sad.. But i didnt feel that bad. He was a jerk. Now its summer tho and weve been hanging out and at first he said he was done liking me but now he says he misses me and were supposed to kiss soon but idk what to do. Thats only gonna get me attached to him again.. But i mever stopped loving him and i just dont know what do ..! :/

  96. John

    On July 20, 2012 at 6:02 am


    Hi someone plz help me! I\’ve met the girl of my dreams who lives in america and we r working towards being with each permanently. The problem is since I\’ve got with her I\’ve stated suffering from depression which I never thought would happen to me. I can\’t believe that from loving someone so much I have become depressed as a result. The feelings I have cause me to get really paranoid and I\’m constantly checking my phone to see if she\’s online or messaged me, if she hasn\’t for a while I start getting worried and think she\’s gonna leave me or is with another guy, although only today she is talking about having a child together. I carry hope, try to stay busy and motivated but there is still this nagging dark pain in my head, stomach and tingling feeling through my whole body, what is this? What is anxiety? Lastly when it\’s just a few days before I\’m meeting my girlfriend or even when I\’m on the flight 2 America to reunite again, I should be over the moon but instead feel more depressed, stressed.

  97. trav

    On August 17, 2012 at 2:52 am


    Keep the faith. Me too. Too weak to write.

  98. Rotten

    On October 21, 2012 at 12:02 pm


    Lovesickness, at least the way I understand it is when someone falls in love and becomes obsessed with the beloved. It may be a passing state of mind but I think it only fades when you learn that life goes on as normal when your beloved is not there, and you are able to do other things without missing the person you love. In my case, I got married to a girl I barely knew (it was an arranged marriage). She loved me a lot, but at the time, I didn’t feel much for her (I barely knew her). I liked her, but I didn’t really think single life was that bad. Anyway, I went back to London and she accompanied me over a year later (she was from abroad, and the visa took time), and over the course of the months, my feelings for her grew. Over the course of the last twelve months, we have spent pretty much every day together. We spend a lot of time together and we are very much in love, but some of her relatives live in another part of the UK, and when she recently visited her sister, I was very upset because she went away for a week. I regularly cried and waited for her phone calls. I know this sounds pathetic but I just wanted her to be with me. I think another irrational thing that went through my mind was that she would forget me when she was with other people. I just had that feeling. I just want to get back to living my life without having to worry about her being with me all the time because that means I would be dependent on her in an unhealthy way. I think it is best to stay occupied and do not make that person realise that they are having this effect on you because it is really your problem and you need to find a way of dealing with it.

  99. Prisca

    On November 2, 2012 at 2:36 am


    My situation was hopeless me and my husband was on the verge of divorce. I was in a awful state and felt that I was not able to cope with life any longer. I found Dr.Muku Love Spells and tried one. Well, he did return and now we are doing well again, more than ever i so much believe in him email to contact him is here below mukumukushrine@gmail.com

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