Did I Date Narcissist?
by Before I met James I knew absolutely nothing about narcissism. I met him on the internet when my girlfriends suggested I join a social networking site. They said that this site was great for picking up great Jamaican men who were interested in having long term relationships.
Before I met James I knew absolutely nothing about narcissism. I met him on the Internet when my girlfriends suggested I join a social networking site. They said that this site was great for picking up great Jamaican men who were interested in having long term relationships. One of the pros of on line dating according to my sister was that I would be able to discern the probability of being in a relationship with a man based on reading his profile and by having instant message conversations.
James was the first man I saw when I made my profile. I asked my sister how I could send him message and I sent him one apprising him of my interest in getting to know him. I did not log on until days after and to my surprise, James had responded to my message. He had sent me his number and requested that I gave him mine. Being naïve to on line dating I sent him my number and we began conversing on the phone.
I kept thinking that this man was too good to be true. He was handsome, sexy and appeared successful. I did not add much meaning to our on line relationship until he called me. I found him remarkably intelligent (for a Jamaican man) and interesting but there was something about him that was off and I could not quite put my finger on it. I asked him about his children and he was guessing how old they were. He was not sure how old his son and daughter were and apparently he did not have a relationship with them. Secondly I was talking to him one Sunday and he hinted that he was not having sex. I found that rather disturbing because most Jamaican men are promiscuous especially a handsome Jamaican man of his noticeable caliber. He looked as if he had a privilege upbringing and had fine taste in clothing and fashion. Additionally he drove a BMW and wore glasses that gave him an air of intelligence and authority. I asked my mother if it was possible for a man to look that good and be celibate. She replied “either he is lying or something is definitely wrong with him”. My mother looked at his photographs again and reiterated “something is definitely wrong with that man if he is single”.
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Post CommentRuby Hawk
On November 13, 2009 at 7:26 pm
I can’t say what his problem was but you did well to get rid of him. He sounds an unstable person possibly with a mental condition. You are very lucky that he didn’t harm you. I think you should have dumped when he first began his didos. Please stay safe.
tyrese
On December 5, 2009 at 7:03 pm
well i i agree with you ruby..this is definitely a crazy man..does have some mental problems probably half way between borderline, narcissism and antisocial ..crystal did well to get away from him. she sould have ben glad he dumped.
J
On January 23, 2011 at 7:42 pm
Bravo! The guy was mental! someone was in my life like this & had another female in California he slept with–though I NEVER gave up anything to be with him–maintaining my integrity, yet I still have to fight wondering about the \\\”shell\\\’ you so perfectly described. These people are mental & will never truly be happy, in the end they will be alone & not even the most naive person will pity their sad state. The California female took his pathetic efforts while I ditched him with a quickness. She\\\’ll always wonder & live in fear of his next infidelities. A real man make you the grand priority as you said—and God has him out there for you–good job not wasting you time on a person who only finds themselves grand, while others see the truth of his grandeur, the truth that he is a grand fool…You did the right thing, never doubt it!
Much Love & Miracles 
Lookin forward to hearing when the \\\”one\\\” comes in the picture, now theres space for him 